Need serious input

[foreverthine]

I've been seeing someone for several months whose spouse (of which I was told had asked for a divorce) has now discovered we've been dating. She has blocked my number from his phone and has intercepted other contact I've tried to make. I am so confused as to who has been lying to me. I don't trust his wife, but now I'm not sure I even trust him. Something just isn't adding up. I asked the iChing about this situation and received Hex 21 (Biting Through) changing into Hex 17. I could really use some clarity as I am completely lost about this turn of events. I have no idea who or what to believe.

 

[Trojina]

I've been seeing someone for several months whose spouse (of which I was told had asked for a divorce) has now discovered we've been dating. She has blocked my number from his phone and has intercepted other contact I've tried to make. I am so confused as to who has been lying to me. I don't trust his wife, but now I'm not sure I even trust him. Something just isn't adding up. I asked the iChing about this situation and received Hex 21 (Biting Through) changing into Hex 17. I could really use some clarity as I am completely lost about this turn of events. I have no idea who or what to believe.

Well if he wanted to he could easily arrange for you to get his calls. Whats more he must have allowed her to block your number.

Hes using her to diminish contact is one possible explanation. A fairly cowardly way of letting you go perhaps ?


Haven't much relied on the reading here though 21.6 shows you refusing to hear the obvious


Not sure about the 21.5, its generally quite an arduous struggle to get at the truth. 17 is often about following ones ideal.

perhaps you have idealised him in some way which is why you can't see what a pitifully weak excuse his wife blocking his phone is for him not taking your calls. As if he is completely unable to stop his wife gettinghis phone...


You are right this doesn't add up thats why you got 21 . Perhaps theres some truth worth getting at (21.5) 17 shows your highest hopes and aspirations are tied up here somewhere. But they are precious and if you are being lied to they are being trampled on. So be very clear, don't allow yourself to be duped.


Not allowing yourself to be taken in, insisting on the truth (21.5) for the sake of your ideals (17) can be hard work, you have to be quite firm (21.5) don't allow yourself to be comforted with lies though, or just hear what you want to hear (21.6) stay true to your vision (hex 17) of what a relationship with him should feel like. His wife blocking your calls really doesn't sound a great place for you to be and something doesn't add up at all.

 

[bamboo]

how did you come to know that his wife had blocked your calls? did he tell you that? you haven't had contact with him or have you?

it seems like the obvious is being overlooked 21.6...and I would venture to guess that he is lying to you.

 

[foreverthine]

He and I have spoke and he vehemently apologized for putting me through this and said it wasn't my fault. He had no idea his spouse would come back so strongly for a reconciliation after she realized he was dating someone when she had been seeing someone else as well. He has since had my phone unblocked.

He said he was confused and I told him the best thing I could do was step away and let him address his family issues.

I did a second reading on the attitude I should take over the next several weeks in regard to him and the relationship. I received Hex 45 changing to 8. I think I know what it means, but the definition changes for me depending on my mindset. Would love an objective opinion. Thank you both for your input.

 

[literunner]

Hi vgk1,

My experience with 45.4 <8 is - do what is best to help the relationship, in a selfless and objective and caring way. For both yourself and the other party. It has to do with looking at what you are investing in and doing so in terms of what is best for the union.
Likely for the coming weeks, you will find ways to do that, that make sense for what unfolds.

Sounds like you are on the way with it already :bows:

 

[foreverthine]

Thank you for the response. I wish I knew what was going to unfold over the next couple of weeks. But I definitely believe I am doing what's best for the relationship and will hope and pray that I continue down that path.

I do have strong ideals tied into it as when we first started dating I asked the iChing what was the relationship potential. I cast Hex 3 changing into 17 (a recurring theme here). I will work on uncovering whatever truth there is to be found.