new job 18:3

[hebe]

Hello.. I haven 't been here for a while, but am feeling anxious about a decision on whether or not to take a job as a couple, my part is only part-time which leaves me space to do some training, but for some reason I feel quite resisitant to the job even though it offers so much security with a house and an income. I asked the Yi about the outcome of taking the position - it has been offered to us both, and recieved 18:3 - which suggests to me that it could be a dive into the deep end with tackling old issues - the corruption of the father has always left me a bit confused as to its meaning, as I've had it before a long time ago with a job, but I can' t remember the specifics of how it all unfolded.

I wonder if Hilary's interpretation relates to our decison - should we just take the job and deal with the issues of our relationship and desire to both do some training to find the vocations we enjoy - or do we deal with our stuff first..


4 is another hexagram which i can confuse issues with - but the teaching aspect is possibly there to teach us to learn from our mistakes and pull through. Times are still tough as its been a couple of months of very bitty jobs and the pull of the security of this job is big even though it doesn't feel right - but I am beginning to wonder if there is a point of just getting on with it and try your best, after all its a job and a home for a period of time.

Does anyone have any experience with this line? the only other alternative to taking this job is to take the house we own which has unexpectedly become vacant as the tenants are moving out and finding work locally to that - but this 18.3 job is a real offer and begins in Feb. Any thoughts on this? I don't mind rooting out the decay, but if its a no hoper and seriously challenging I would rather find a more peaceful way forward - or one that is at least fulfilling - or with the opportunity to be fulfilling.

Any thoughts would be welcome! Hebe

 

[white owl]

Hi Hebe, I am getting the feel that work ethics will be challenged..Your style or spouse's very well could not be what they had in mind.

or Just alot of bickering on how to do tasks , that will rake on the nerves. For instance, I have a good friend. We have been friends for quite some time & she got a position working with me twice a week. I have to say that her personality changed from my pal to a real (somethin)..she is way too aggressive for me to work with, steps on alot of toes..and her being new, it was an embarrassment. Even her attitude changed toward me, where she started snapping at me alot. To keep the friendship, I had to change my work schedule & just make an excuse about daycare as to why I couldn't work the same days as her. I hope this helped in some way. WO

 

[hebe]

thanks for that white owl - quite possibly, - a good example of how it could unfold. I have seen so many examples of how the Yi, on reflection, has just so accurately described what happened - but have also been in the position whereby it hasn't unfolded quite as I had imagined according to the hexagram. Do you think that with the awareness of possible work ethic challenge etc you could change the energy and re-shape what is quite likely to unfold?

Hilary suggested in wikiwing,a second question on receiving 18:3, of 'if i took this path, what mistakes am I likely to make?' I decided to do that and threw 12:2,3,4 - 57. I have only just done this and so will try and make sense of it - but wanted to reply to you first. I will get back with my thoughts on the 12 casting. Thanks White Owl.

 

[white owl]

That could take work. I do believe things can change especially if you are aware of the challenges & sensitivities that lie ahead. You can only change yourself & that might not be enough. If your mind is already made up & you still want to go for it anyways..than yes I would start preparing yourself. You & your spouse need to sit down together & figure out how to be able to manage the upsets & what roles each of you will be doing. Working with your spouse or family member is not easy. It calls for alot of awareness & patience along with alot of tongue biting. That was a good question Hilary is having you ask. Please let me know yes, what you have hammered out for 12 to 57.

 

[hebe]

thanks for that white owl - its very helpful. I have to borrow the computer at the moment and so will have access tomorrow. this is just to let you know that I will respond! Hebe

 

[hebe]

I am sorry white owl for not getting back - its hard with access to a computer and I have gone off the scale with anxiety right now and can't focus on anything. I'm sorry. I don't know what to do - and need to try and find some stability. My thanks for your patience, love Hebe

 

[white owl]

Thats okay Hebe... take your time. I am going to be gone for most of today & tomorrow for the holiday. Remember to breathe, cause Im going to try to remember myself too.