New to iching/ reading help? 61 / 29.3.5 > 46 / 61.1 > 59

[digitalmermaid]

Hello,

I am very new to iching but have been finding it extremely beneficial!

I am struggling with these answers.

I have been out of contact with someone and recently had some staggered contact but only if I make the first move. They have bene cold but seem to like to hear from me but obviously don't give much away when I do message. So I always feel like perhaps I should stop ?

I asked:

Would it be best if I stopped messaging? and got 61

I then asked, Would it be better if I continued messaging and got: 29.3.5> 46

which confused me even more.

So I asked: Overall what would be the best way for me to deal with this situation (thinking I needed another perspective on it) and got 61.1 > 59

I would love to get back in contact with this person but obviously unsure if I am pushing too hard. Please could someone give me some light on these readings because I am so confused.

Thank you

 

[rosada]

Welcome Digitalmermaid!

Although we don't always follow this guideline, it's considered appropriate for posters to make some some sort of attempt to interpret their readings when they post their questions. Thus when you say you received 61 Inner Truth it would be good if you would say something about how you yourself interpret this response. Even if you feel absolutely clueless the very act of your trying seems to alert your higher knowingness to kick in and give you your own insights - if not on this reading but on future readings. Otherwise your brain doesn't bother and you won't learn the I Ching, which is the whole point of this website.

Another important consideration - and again one that not everyone follows! - is that you should understand your first reading before you ask a second question on the same subject. This is specifically advised in hexagram 4 where the I Ching says asking more then once is importunity and that if we importune the I Ching will give no answer - you experienced this yourself when you found that your second reading only confused you more.

Anyway, I think 61.Inner Truth is saying that you yourself already know the answer, that you should trust your inner feeling. So do you inwardly feel there really is a connection here and that if you continue to reach out he will eventually respond more enthusiastically? Or do you inwardly know he enjoys your efforts but has no real interest or intention to develop the friendship?

Alternative interpretations could be that although you have an Inner Feeling for this man, the hexagram is unchanging (no change lines) so that's not a good omen for anything coming from this feeling.

Another possibility is that you should step back from contacting him unless and until you have a really, really, good reason to connect. Like don't just email to say "Hi", email only if you have some real reason to, some Inner Truth that needs to be shared. A "real reason" could be something as trivial as sharing a really good joke if you are reaching out to him as a friend - and not trying to manipulate a response.

The point is don't just email cause you're wishing he'd pay more attention to you - Inner Truth could mean he'd pick up on that inner feeling too - and not feel any need to put in any energy - let you do all the work!

Personally if he's not responding I think you need to either stop till he reaches out or figure that email is not his thing and find another way to develop this Inner Feeling.

Best wishes!

 

[Freedda]

Hello D-Mer!

Glad you can join us. I echo what is said above. I always like to start with one question or query and then give that some time to sink in - and also a chance for others to respond. Otherwise, you end up piling up query upon query and response upon reponse, which can easily become contradictory and confusing. So, maybe you might at least try a one-question approach and see how it works.

It seems to me that your asking about contacting someone whom you've lost contact with, and what might be the best way to do that? Or even if it's advisable to try to contact them? If so, if it were me, I might start with:

'I am seeking advice on how best to re-establish contact with someone, and if it's even advisable to do so .... '

But that's just me, and maybe that doesn't work for you, or you can find better words ....

Best, D

 

[digitalmermaid]

Hi,

thank you for your thoughtful replies. I really appreciate the advice and consideration. It’s given me a lot to think about especially as I am still learning a lot about I Ching.

I agree with much that has been said and I will hold off asking repetitive questions and do some more interpretations into my readings. I have just been anxious about thing to understand these circumstances.

I think it is best not to contact him. If he wanted to contact me, he would.