New Years Eve Sobriety and Love...

[justa]

Hellooo Lovely People,

As we all know, tomorrow is NYE and for me will be completely different than any I have ever known. It's my second since getting sober/clean. Last year I spent it with my big sis. I didn't feel strong enough to venture out and it was a lovely quiet night.
This year, the ex is taking our daughter away and I'm going out to a party with a couple of close girlfriends! It's a recovery party so it'll be alcohol free and that is going to be massively different for me. I'm excited and nervous in a good way!
I consulted the oracle asking, 'What can I expect on New Years Eve Night?' I recieved Hexagram 17 lines 2/5/6 changing to 38.
This has worried me ever so slightly as I believe 17 speaks of following and being led and maybe taking a break from stressfull situations and the lines of possible untrustworthy companions? but 5/6 are good and tell me to stick to my path, right?
And 38 is arguments between women? Ohhh, scary as last year a crazy woman who could be at this party was mean to me and I really don't want any similar things happening.
So I asked, 'How should I proceed tomorrow night?' Answer Hexagram 16 lines 3/4 changing to 15 Not sure about these but does 16 speak of being part of a group but taking on leadership role? But unsure of lines! !5 is about a modest attitude, isn't it?

Also asked what I could expect when I saw my crush there, got 58 lines 1/2/5/6 to 35! I think this is good isn't it?

Help really appreciated!

Love Justa
xxx

 

[rosada]

I get a lot of value from looking at the sequences. Not everyone agrees with this approach so don't latch onto it if it only confuses. Anyway, I think it's interesting that the previous hexagram, 16, discribes a celebration - almost like a New Year's Eve party! - and then 17 says, "The superior man at night fall goes indoors for rest and recuperation." So I think the first thing to consider is how long you intend to stay at the party. You may want to make a point of recognizing when your enthusiasm starts to wane and not push to stay till the wee small hours. You may also just need to note through out the evening when it's obviously time to change position, leave the buffet, go talk to someone else.

The lines you threw are really quite positive, I think.

17.2 If one clings to the small boy, one loses the strong man.

So you must choose to be with good company, not bad. I think you are already doing this by going to a party that will not be serving alcohol.

17.5 Sincere in the good. Good fortune.

This sounds like making a New Year's resolution! Or perhaps it means having a clear plan for tomorrow night. Like "I intend to have a good time, socialize with positive upbeat people and come home at a reasonable hour."

17.6 He meets with firm allegiance and is still further bound.

Very encouraging. Sounds like this party is setting the tone for many more. if you get through this okay you'll really be solidly on the right path. It might be useful to remember this at the party. That is, that having a pleasant, comfortable evening and coming home before you are too tired is about more than just this one night - you're establishing a pattern for the year ahead, one that will really make 2008 a lot smoother for you.

38.
Opposition.
In small matters good fortune.
Amid all fellowship the superior man retains his individuality.

Many times people drink at parties to relax them, to help them fit in. This party is to give you an opportunity to learn to enjoy yourself in a gathering whether you particularly fit in or not. As you are able to feel comfortable "amid all fellowship" while still retaining your individuality you'll be able to enjoy life without the crutch of a drink.

By the way, I heard a line recently that you might find useful. A friend of mine realized she ought not drink anymore and she explained her decision by simply saying, "I had to give it up. My reality check bounced."

Congratulations on your continuing sobriety!
rosada

 

[mudpie]

hexagram 38 seems like it could be the backdrop to your question...you are not familiar with partying sober with sober people, and you feel a little strange, perhaps suspicious....but that is so normal. Hexagram 17 is quite positive about your plans. and so is 16, as rosada says. an inspiring celebration and you gather friends around you. Hmility (15) as a 2nd hexagram is perfect as well . People who are in recovery posess a kind of humility and gratitude, and sober parties bring out the finest qualities.
enjoy yourself!

 

[willowfox]

'What can I expect on New Years Eve Night?' I received Hexagram 17 lines 2/5/6 changing to 38.

This says just go as you will meet with good people and you will find your a good friend there. Hex 38 says go, relax but do your own thing.

'How should I proceed tomorrow night?' Hexagram 16 lines 3/4 changing to 15

I think this suggests that if your man is there tomorrow stick with him, so just be yourself and you will attract people easily to you for warmth and friendship.

what I could expect when I saw my crush there, got 58 lines 1/2/5/6 to 35!

A nice time of chatting away and enjoying the moment together.