Newbie...help

[paisleyorchid]

Don't quite know how to begin. I've been having quite an interesting relationship with this gentleman. We were friends first. There was always an underlying attraction between he and I others would point it out and I would dismiss it as there is a rather significant age difference between us. I am much older than he is. It seems the more we tried to ignore the attraction the deeper it grew for both of us. We began texting one another....then talking on the phone. The more we interacted the stronger the connection became to the point of it appearing as if we could read each others mind....or feel what the other is feeling. There have been instances where I was having a really good day and out of nowhere Id feel like I want to break down and cry....only to find out later on that he had a rough and depressing day. Or times when i would be having an amazing day and he would text me "why are you smiling lol" out of the blue. I have too many instances to name. Well these past few days have been extremely hard ones to deal with for me as alot has been going on/wrong for me in my personal life. I sent him a text message just saying hello to no response....no biggie he is probably busy I thought.....I tried again the next day...again no response. ...which is odd because he usually responds to me right away...be it the way my life is going right now...my thoughts immediately went to the negative......disinterest. Part of me believes that he too is going through hell as our lives often seem to take the same course. My question was "has he lost interest in me?" Answer 22.3 changing to 27.....Please help me understand. Thanks

 

[paisleyorchid]

Update....he did finally get back to me a couple of days ago. He is starting up another business....so that may very well be the reason. I still get the feeling that something has him rather distracted and sad. Not by his communications with me because he spent the majority of it making me laugh. He does that as a means to cheer me up....even though I never tell him whats going on with me. I still have no clue as to what my reading meant.

 

[redarmada]

Yi usually doesn't answer questions about what another person thinks or feels (usually), but it's always glad to tell you where you should be placing your energies. I think that the Oracle is changing the direction of your question- rather than trying to spy inside his head, you should be examining the interactions between the two of you.
Hexagram 22 is Beauty, the process of adorning something to make it more attractive and lively, like a flower beginning to bloom and show it's brilliant colors. This is about the surface of things, not the depths- it's fire under the mountain, that is to say, the light of a campfire illuminating the slopes and making them cheery and bright in the darkness. The word that comes to mind is "superficial", but it doesn't necessarily have the negative connotations that that word has- beauty on the outside is just as important as beauty on the inside in many ways, and sometimes the two reflect each other. Line 3 says "Beautiful as if dipped in water"- seems like the situation is very pretty and charming for you (possibly for him as well)- and this leads to Hexagram 27, the jaws of Nourishment, getting what you need to be nourished.

Line 3 counsels you to "everlasting constancy" or "constant perseverance", and that's what the Yi is telling you. I think that the "beauty" of this situation is evident in this person trying to make you laugh- he wants to beautify your life, he wants to adorn the situation between you. From what you've said, it seems you two are in a similar zone, you react well to each other. And now the Yi is telling you since you find the situation so lovely, you need to see it through to find out if the beauty is merely skin-deep or if there's something more, something nourishing for you here. No guarantees, but with perseverance, good fortune. Wilhelm says: "beautiful form suffices to brighten and to throw light upon matters of lesser moment, but important questions cannot be decided in this way. They require greater earnestness."

 

[ginnie]

"has he lost interest in me?" Answer 22.3 changing to 27

Distraction. It's like someone is riding a horse but it's raining and drops of rain keep flying in his face. Yet he persists and goes on riding through the rain, because he has to get somewhere; he has a goal. This is consistent with what he said about starting up a new business.

 

[paisleyorchid]

Thank you. Your words are very eloquent and have increased my level of understanding. I never thought about looking at it from the interactions between he and I.

 

[paisleyorchid]

Ginnie I completely see the visual there