November love situation etc 49.6

[CheersC]

love situation etc in november:
49.6 to 13
Oh nice, seems like I will just have friendships...XD Or the beginning will look like a friendship. A sweet friendship.
line 6 of 49: The best of all change like a panther while others only change their face.
It looks like it is not speaking about what will happen, specifically, but it is saying I will make a change in myself...maybe more self confidence and more blunt honesty, that sometimes is needed with certain guys...

 

[diamanda]

Yes very possible it refers to you, and a brilliant change in yourself. The line says, however, that this does not guarantee that another person will change in their essence. A decent human being changes at the core, and functions according to their inner belief system. An indecent human being simply puts on a different mask, and mimicks the decent ones.

So although this may well refer to you, it also draws your attention to being very careful to spot indecent human beings. If for example you already know that a guy doesn't have integrity, then don't believe for a moment they have changed - even if they pretend to have changed.

Resulting 13 shows the need to go out there in the world and circulate. One of the guys you're already interested in will need to be left behind as he's no good, then you will seek "similar (to you) people" (13).

 

[CheersC]

Yes very possible it refers to you, and a brilliant change in yourself. The line says, however, that this does not guarantee that another person will change in their essence. A decent human being changes at the core, and functions according to their inner belief system. An indecent human being simply puts on a different mask, and mimicks the decent ones.

So although this may well refer to you, it also draws your attention to being very careful to spot indecent human beings. If for example you already know that a guy doesn't have integrity, then don't believe for a moment they have changed - even if they pretend to have changed.

Resulting 13 shows the need to go out there in the world and circulate. One of the guys you're already interested in will need to be left behind as he's no good, then you will seek "similar (to you) people" (13).

Thanks a lot, that goes both sides then. Could it also be someone who seemed indecent and then becomes " friendly "?
Or is it just someone who won't change himself? In this case, it might be the ''indecent'' guy I previously mentioned, he has a long story of experiences with girls, as all other guys and girls (I know a lot of girls who had so many guys before and they are not even celebrities...).
It seems that if a guy or a girl is handsome it is impossible they don't even have a nightstand for many years :/:/ very hard to find someone with little experience as me - maybe a priest lol

 

[CheersC]

First feedback: there was this party where I saw the guy who deleted me from friends coming back and asking me what I have on my mind and why I didn't answer to his messages. Actually, the fact of seeing him was giving me extra anxiety, so i couldn't answer the way i would have loved to answer... He wanted to have the last word and then asked me if I had forgiven him (in a teasing way...).
I ignored him during the whole evening and he found himself a girl for the night, a flirt.
Me instead... I was looking at various guys but only 2 caught my attention: i didnt approach them cuz i can't approach without looking like I'm approaching and interested in them. They both ignored me for a long time even if there were various glances between us.
Yeah, they probably preferred an ugly btch xD i dont know... But in addition, 2 guys were ruining my plans to talk to them because they both fancied me, and a third one popped out from nowhere and was jumping on me with the excuse of helping me find the umbrella. I didn't find the umbrella and he wanted to kiss me etc... I said no because i wasn't that passionate about him, and then I left.
Probably i should have stayed with the friend of my "old flame", but i didn't feel at my ease with my old flame around.

To resume, the only ones I would have fancied for the night were 2 guys who looked uninterested in me, and the guy i had liked if he only wasn't teasing me.
All the others were all guys I wasn't interested to.
This is the thing so far.

 

[CheersC]

And the guy who fancied me and I'm interested only in friendship sent me a request... The previous casting told me to withdraw totally. I made his coworker wait, even if i liked him, now i will make this one wait too.

 

[CheersC]

I met a 5th hot guy in another context.... He didn't even ask my name and contacts. He looked kind and very confident though so maybe he didn't like me a lot. Idk. :/

 

[diamanda]

So many guys! You're on a roll they all sound quite iffy though... Wait and see, hopefully one of them will be a nice person.

 

[CheersC]

So many guys! You're on a roll they all sound quite iffy though... Wait and see, hopefully one of them will be a nice person.

Hahaha on a roll.
Many guys who ignore me xD
I think I'm attracted to guys who ignore me because it gives me a quiet comfortable vibe xD
Yes, let's see what else comes!! A good one will come

Btw... I think my friends and other people didn't respect me a lot. All of a sudden they "empathized" with the guy who was just selfish and even with the unstable stalker. Well, they can say what they want, but they shouldn't criticize or judge my behavior. But i feel they are putting me down just to make me feel like a yes-man (which I've been so far! XD).
Also, if i were" mean " for real i would have written more and would have been harsher to him by cutting him off forever from my life (- excuse me for the spelling, I'm not English).
It seems like I'm surrounded by "saints",which doesn't allow me to have a personality lol.
Well, they have their personality, i have mine. I'm allowed to be fun or just myselff...if they get offended or we don't match it's their problem, they can leave if they dont care about me.
It's very subjective...
Specifically talking,the guy wasn't hurt at all in the end. Lol. He just showed a small payback, but he quickly got over it, as I noticed xD so i was right when I acted less kind and more selfish in the appearance. I just have to do what I feel like doing
So... nobody should have pretense on me to be like this or that - they can just leave. I have not to be what others say in fact i told some of my friends "u do like u do. I do it my way".
And i bet my friends are gonna come to receive advices from me when they will be sick of being mocked by someone...
I'm for sure stopping to give explanations or share my experiences...
Now, it's just for the casting's sake xD sorry if i was so loooooooong while explaining.

 

[CheersC]

I'm becoming more sensitive to the energies around me, to the intentions, and to other things. I'm willing to protect myself... No need to be always too nice :/ A person will like u anyways (unless u insult them), I guess.

 

[CheersC]

Ok, it's like i haven't said that. I was nice kind to a guy and he suddenly acted rude, annoying and arrogant. Wth

 

[diamanda]

Ok, it's like i haven't said that. I was nice kind to a guy and he suddenly acted rude, annoying and arrogant. Wth

You are who you are - you're a nice person. You have the right to be who you truly are. Likewise, nasty rude arrogant people also have the right to be who they truly are. It's a great sign that you recognise them so easily. Stay away from such people, they're harmful to everyone, including themselves.

 

[CheersC]

You are who you are - you're a nice person. You have the right to be who you truly are. Likewise, nasty rude arrogant people also have the right to be who they truly are. It's a great sign that you recognise them so easily. Stay away from such people, they're harmful to everyone, including themselves.

I would conquer the right to be ''nasty'' too. If I acted like him probably the other person wouldn't have been nice as I did. I used to get "inhibited" by ppl in my expression of my true self. These people don't, and they do freaky things ! It was unexpected, though. I will probably delete him from friends when he pulls out the photos we were all waiting for.
Darn, he is a total freak, he makes a fake striptease show in front of everyone, uses youtube to talk about his life, talks about himself all the time, sings out loud everywhere, but tells other people - for small reasons !- that they are weird/drink too much/use substances.

 

[CheersC]

Another guy ignored me, I wasn't interested in him but i had interacted with him in the past and i was in the friendly mood but he acted like if I was invisible. That's crazy, this is the hexagram of the Ghosts. I remember about anybody, I notice everyone even if they are all dressed up like mammoths and if they are distant...I notice them anyways. But these majority of guys notices u and likes u at distance only if you show ur body in hot clothes.
I can't believe i wasted so many years in not caring about appearing while with a miniskirt I'd have had more success, popularity and these people would have remembered about me XD.
Wth am i the only one to look at everybody around and remember everybody I talk to?! Unless i dont like u or im not interested. I guess it's what they all thought, simply talking. XD

So, hexagram 49.6 is about 1)meeting a lot of possible crushes, but being ignored by them. Then getting to think i am just "someone in the background".

2) I'm thinking about the lost opportunities, the guys i refused were hotter than these actual ones. Gosh, i just repressed myself and missed good opportunities. This gives me a sense of lack... But yeah opportunities are like trains, u have to pick them quickly or they leave. Life gives u things when u are not ready.

3) i keep meeting rude people also and discard them.

 

[diamanda]

I believe that line 49.6 is about the very real difference between flakey / fake people and people who have the ability to truly change, in their essence. The fake ones can only change their 'mask', but can never change the rubbish they really are. So, this month you came in contact with people you already knew they are fake, and as described by you in this thread:

• I saw the guy who deleted me from friends coming back and asking me what I have on my mind
• the guy i had liked if he only wasn't teasing me
• I met a 5th hot guy in another context.... He didn't even ask my name and contacts
• my friends and other people didn't respect me a lot. All of a sudden they "empathized" with the guy who was just selfish and even with the unstable stalker
• the guy wasn't hurt at all in the end
• I was nice kind to a guy and he suddenly acted rude, annoying and arrogant
• These people don't, and they do freaky things! It was unexpected
• Darn, he is a total freak, he makes a fake striptease show in front of everyone, uses youtube to talk about his life, talks about himself all the time, sings out loud everywhere
• Another guy ignored me, I wasn't interested in him but i had interacted with him in the past and i was in the friendly mood but he acted like if I was invisible. That's crazy
• these majority of guys notices u and likes u at distance only if you show ur body in hot clothes

Now over to you - you are a self-aware thinking person, and you do have the ability to stand in integrity, and change your essence if needed. As described by you, in this thread:

• Well, they have their personality, i have mine. I'm allowed to be fun or just myself...if they get offended or we don't match it's their problem, they can leave if they dont care about me
• nobody should have pretense on me to be like this or that - they can just leave. I have not to be what others say

Gosh, i just repressed myself and missed good opportunities

I truly don't think you missed anything of value. If all they're after is a miniskirt, then they're not interested in you as a person. They were rubbish 'opportunities'. Better to be at 'zero' than at 'minus'. And November is not even over yet!

 

[CheersC]

I believe that line 49.6 is about the very real difference between flakey / fake people and people who have the ability to truly change, in their essence. The fake ones can only change their 'mask', but can never change the rubbish they really are. So, this month you came in contact with people you already knew they are fake, and as described by you in this thread:

• I saw the guy who deleted me from friends coming back and asking me what I have on my mind
• the guy i had liked if he only wasn't teasing me
• I met a 5th hot guy in another context.... He didn't even ask my name and contacts
• my friends and other people didn't respect me a lot. All of a sudden they "empathized" with the guy who was just selfish and even with the unstable stalker
• the guy wasn't hurt at all in the end
• I was nice kind to a guy and he suddenly acted rude, annoying and arrogant
• These people don't, and they do freaky things! It was unexpected
• Darn, he is a total freak, he makes a fake striptease show in front of everyone, uses youtube to talk about his life, talks about himself all the time, sings out loud everywhere
• Another guy ignored me, I wasn't interested in him but i had interacted with him in the past and i was in the friendly mood but he acted like if I was invisible. That's crazy
• these majority of guys notices u and likes u at distance only if you show ur body in hot clothes

Now over to you - you are a self-aware thinking person, and you do have the ability to stand in integrity, and change your essence if needed. As described by you, in this thread:

• Well, they have their personality, i have mine. I'm allowed to be fun or just myself...if they get offended or we don't match it's their problem, they can leave if they dont care about me
• nobody should have pretense on me to be like this or that - they can just leave. I have not to be what others say

I truly don't think you missed anything of value. If all they're after is a miniskirt, then they're not interested in you as a person. They were rubbish 'opportunities'. Better to be at 'zero' than at 'minus'. And November is not even over yet!

Awwwww!! I don't know you but this cheered me up.
Yup, November is not over

 

[CheersC]

I saw a cute one but... I didn't catch the moment, and he found himself someone, never mind xD
I keep searching ~

 

[CheersC]

....now after years of telling me to not look for guys, family members called me a lesbian.
That's a sick conclusion. And a bad thing to say. I got offended for the logics behind it, not for the content, of course I'm not lesbian. They said it especially after treating u like if it was not normal to be sexual before being 20... Talking about the past.
We are bombed more of images of women than boys, I don't define myself lesbian if mass media chooses to put promiscuous or particularly women...i have got eyes to notice it and I'm not silent. Should i accept this? I prefer to be called jealous or envious than lesbian. And also, I don't find the connection of looking at male parts and being heterosexual: I can be attracted by guys even if i don't look at the thing in the middle. But if I do they don't call me hetero, they think it's scandal that i look at it.


Wow, seems like incoherent thinking because they got crazy if you show the booty, but if u see it on tv and that's fine and YOU have to tolerate it. What?! Oh if i make a comment on the fact it is VISIBLE or showing off, instead of saying that is true, they say "you are lesbian because u are looking at it" only because u look at something that is evident, doesn't mean I'm appreciating it. This stuff they said is all sickly incoherent

 

[CheersC]

I've been called everything in these years XD

OOh by the way: I will make a question soon, about those two foreign boys (one of the 2 asked my friendship on a social media, i accepted it with a big delay cuz i wasn't seeing him anyways since we saw just once and i didnt want to look too much interested even if i will probably look lesbian to him too then lol).
I liked his bro more but this one is more outgoing and generous.. His bro is pretty but greedy.
But i dont know them and this one fancied me a lot, which forces me to withdraw because, well, it may not look good if i consider his bro more.
This one looks a bit controlling though, he acted like he didn't want me to go away and he stared at distance, which is a thing he shouldn't do because, lol, if u like someone u shouldn't stare... XD i had the feeling of being observed and that wasn't cool. Because i didnt feel the same. He's physically nice but didn't have that "something" that catches my eye in a second. Perhaps the best thing should be to exchange a few words when I see him... He works so i can't distract him... Maybe accepting his gifts(he's offended if i dont xD lol) which is the good part because it boosts my mood
And i should be less shy and an introvert though... When he starts saying "u are beautiful" and so on I don't know what to say because it sounds so obvious ahah xD
I mean... I never told a guy "u are beautiful" to not look stupid, but guys do that and since he is kind i must be kind... It's rare to find kind people.
But i dont know him, and he could have the intentions that all guys have xD
So... If i go see him, i need to change a lot in myself...1)not being shy 2)not being introvert 3)all of this without letting him the green lights to go further with me... If he asks to hang out with me that'd be embarrassing, i wouldn't want to act like a lesbian lol but I'm not sure to accept either...
I'm gonna lose his bro, which was first interest, but maybe this will help me discover if our personalities match...
I don't know, before asking the consequences of talking to them again, i am wandering with my mind xD
Perhaps I'm "daydreaming" for nothing and we will be sharing only a small talk!!!! ¡!!!! Ahah

I'm just not used at the males rapidity, especially if it is not someone I chose from the start... It Takes me some thing to get the idea...
I may hang out with both of them, if possible ahahhahah.

Well, for now i would appreciate a friendship only because i need time and they travel too much...also,the different language might be a bore after a while. Exciting at the beginning, but then...

 

[diamanda]

Your family are gaslighting you, it's a type of psychological war. 'Sickly incoherent' is a brilliant way to put it. Don't let this sick stuff upset you, try not to pay any attention, laugh it off.

 

[CheersC]

Your family are gaslighting you, it's a type of psychological war. 'Sickly incoherent' is a brilliant way to put it. Don't let this sick stuff upset you, try not to pay any attention, laugh it off.

Gaslighting is the good definition... Psychological war is even better xD
Yeah better laugh it off... Nobody is supposed to know anything 'bout my private life or to judge it without understanding.
If a stranger person said that, instead, i would not show I'm fed up, I'd play around... Usually i answer with a silly mark to show I'm not bothered...
It has happened to me before that a girl called me lesbian and told me "X was the only man you could get" (which wasn't true if I put some effort to look hot, but she made me believe that) She said that only because she wanted to look better and was jealous that i could get the attention of a guy she liked... (She then fell in love with an half toxic and she is proud of it because he doesn't betray her...).
And also some men told me that, because they wanted my attention. It is horrible. Sometimes I think about it and say to myself, how didn't I even answer back xD

 

[CheersC]

I noticed a girl who is supposed to be my friend is jealous because of her comments who are not feminist, they justify the mentality of the men who act like insisting and needy octopuses.
That disappointed me but I answered quite directly without getting mad, that males shouldn't act like giant sticky suffocating octopus at the beginning, anyways. But i was indeed fed up inside because I trusted her and she should take my part.Then all of her comments on my dress at a party, on the fact guys are allowed to do things or behave in a certain way if you don't shout at them or push them away, because of course it is your fault if they don't know boundaries and from a nail they try to get ur arm and exploit ur kindness...but that's not fair on me XD.
She justifies the whole world (probably because it is more similar to her...) than me. And she didn't even look caring about the fact the worst people are finding a girl or a man, just randomly, and I dont xD That was weird, not a single word. But she is understanding with everyone else. Well... I notice the difference when she talks about me she minimizes what happens to me and doesn't waste time trying to understand me fully... She also acts like an oracle and says i am too serious and i take guys too seriously, but when i do tease them back with some sarcasm she criticizes that.
Despite your reactions.
she said i wasn't refusing them and i was like : were u on my mind? no...
but she didnt seem to understand so i really stopped talkin about that. I prefer to keep things for myself...these people don't judge who could be and judge who shouldnt be judged.

I just feel it's all part of the 49.6 even if it is not about love XD

 

[CheersC]

Oh plus, she as all others friends, always tells u the opposite u did, like if u were wrong in being urself and react the damn way u want lol. They speak like if they were oracles xD

 

[CheersC]

Bah. The more time goes the more i think u can be chased by guys only if u are 1)on a dating app 2)famous 3)at discoclub and finally 4) naked at a beach. Because image is an instant win.
Other ways take literally ages and it's like winning the lottery - they are always experienced anyways.
Hmm. I think i may give a chance to the french guy maybe... Even if he looked a bit too expansive xD

By the way, the boy i've been fancying for MONTHS,who is my neighbor, I think he has got some affairs or flings because I caught him with a lot of perfume :/ I felt depressed because he could have fancied me in return instead of acting creepy edgy and shy around me...

 

[diamanda]

Well, if you fancy a creepy edgy octopus guy, try one of the methods you just mentioned. Or, if you fancy finding someone normal, keep searching. None of the guys you've mentioned so far sounds sane

 

[CheersC]

Well, if you fancy a creepy edgy octopus guy, try one of the methods you just mentioned. Or, if you fancy finding someone normal, keep searching. None of the guys you've mentioned so far sounds sane

Eheh xD Yeah... It's a pity the majority of boys talks about those supermodels (just because they are half naked and dressed fine) or those women of my country on tv who have large breasts and sometimes show them; it seems it's their ideal woman, and a normal man nowadays is quite impossible to find.
We'll see though, the month is already over...! D: quite disappointing this 49. 6!!! I mean... On 12 boys, nobody xD
When all the people I see and hear about are changing from time to time. Bah!

I just hope at least the French one won't try a super straight approach (which would embarrass me more) or won't have a controlling/manipulative/possessive side I'm not aware of because I am not much able to free myself from weird situations ahahah.
Let's see, 6 days and I will make the one for December XD
It seems we can't change destiny when I receive these castings and nothing goes my way xD

 

[diamanda]

because I am not much able to free myself from weird situations ahahah.
Let's see, 6 days and I will make the one for December XD
It seems we can't change destiny when I receive these castings and nothing goes my way

You see how this reading is playing out? You keep talking about all those guys (and girls), who are all about appearance. And they won't change. However, a more intelligent person can change - not in how they look, but in their essence. This is line 49.6. I hope November has been useful to you in this sense. Because, if you don't realise what's truly going on, of course you'll be forever at the mercy of weird situations that you can't free yourself of. It's not destiny in this cast. It's a situation where you can make a change. In your essential way of thinking.

In my opinion, this change should make you fully realise that when others are so fundamentally different, then there's no point complaining about it. Just recognise that you're a different type of person. No need to try to become something you're not - and no need to complain about who they are. Everyone is who they are. We then make more intelligent choices as to who we want to spend our time with. And 13 shows 'similar' people together. Anyway that's what I think, what do you believe would be good to change in you?

And yes December is around the corner!

 

[CheersC]

You see how this reading is playing out? You keep talking about all those guys (and girls), who are all about appearance. And they won't change. However, a more intelligent person can change - not in how they look, but in their essence. This is line 49.6. I hope November has been useful to you in this sense. Because, if you don't realise what's truly going on, of course you'll be forever at the mercy of weird situations that you can't free yourself of. It's not destiny in this cast. It's a situation where you can make a change. In your essential way of thinking.

In my opinion, this change should make you fully realise that when others are so fundamentally different, then there's no point complaining about it. Just recognise that you're a different type of person. No need to try to become something you're not - and no need to complain about who they are. Everyone is who they are. We then make more intelligent choices as to who we want to spend our time with. And 13 shows 'similar' people together. Anyway that's what I think, what do you believe would be good to change in you?

And yes December is around the corner!

So you have to accept it or adapt it if u want to live better. Better being like them than tolerating... I personally can't stand this difference anymore.
Your point is a good point, to be real with oneself inner intentions, I'm reflecting on some things. But if I want to make a change it will be just for my own sake! That won't help me finding someone or feeling good with this someone because if reality is what I have seen so far, a lot of couples are pretty random and boys are attracted by those three things.
For sure being like those ppl i talked about would help out using less mind and living things better. T_T

December is coming and I will be the loner happy to be a loner but fancied by super extrovert enthusiastic ppl v.v

 

[CheersC]

Note: after meeting all these kind of boys I'm sure that I should be a bit more selfish, talkative (as a way of getting out of weird situations), and just stop feeling like I should meet expectations of everyone XD I'm a free person, if someone feels hurt, it is not intentional.

 

[CheersC]

I think november ended as it started: a bit disappointing, lacking of initial enthusiasm and curiosity. Even some of these foreign guys who looked pretty and kind at the beginning, they showed to be not that much patient. Not good because 1)it's ur job 2)ppl have right to get information and u should respect/have patience with older people than u 3)u shouldn't feel criticized anyways (otherwise, just accept it). I suddenly feel like some were a little bit fake. Even if so much handsome and curious to see at the start. Lol they should run into more "bossy" people to test them xD
Gosh, why do I have too much high standards now.
One of them didn't recognize me when i approached him to say hello then he looked a bit hmmm sleepy xD I didn't actually get if he was teasing me or being nice without forcing me or if he were just bored, but he realized later that he had already seen me before. And i wasn't overbearing, or using some humorous line to "reveal" him. I was only submissive xD I sensed some coldness on his behalf but perhaps he was just shy. I don't know... I didn't have a good feeling when he looked at me in that weird way though - I felt like I had done something wrong but saying hello and smiling isn't wrongXD his face was like saying "who the f are u and what do u want now" xD or he was just tired... but... He wasn't like this before. Even if I had sensed fakeness in his kindness also before, to be honest (but at least he tried to be kind).
Perhaps it's because i delayed of a lot of time in accepting his friend's request (but we couldn't see eachother anyways xD). I feel pessimistic but I had also sensed he wasn't spontaneous. Perhaps the one who fancied me was more sincere and outgoing.

About the inner change, instead, I will learn - but i couldn't be less passive/fearful/compliant xD even if sometimes i wished i was bossy, decisive and persuasive, but in a spontaneous way, like with no fears or whatever xD.

By the way, the month is over!
If you could please check my new thread about December, I would be grateful!