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modesty

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Hi all,

I have consulted the I Ching for a long time and this is one of those rare occasion where the reading seems good and I would appreciate any help and comment coming my way.

After 3 very difficult years of marriage, my wife and I have agreed to part way and I made all the preparation to move on. If I leave aside emotional baggages, my head tells me that it would be a lot easier for me to strart again than to fix this marriage. I am still crying for my young son growing up without both parents.

With my son in mind, I acted contrary to my resolve and asked the I ching" is this marriage beyond help?". I got Hex 28 +2+4 => 39.

I could not help laughing of line 2 that compared me to a withered poplar tree (how alp!I am feeling like a dead tree, and begin to look that way too(sign)),but having a young wife. Is this possible that this marriage can still be saved or whether I would move on and meet someoneelse?

What about line 4 and hex 39? I would really appreciate some help out there.

modesty
 

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"asked the I ching is this marriage beyond help?". I got Hex 28 +2+4 => 39."

Hex 28.2 this line suggests that your life wakes up again and begins to grow into something stable and lasting. New life has entered the relationship between you and your son, a new time of mutual growth.

Hex 28.4 this is about joining with others, friends, neighbours, teachers, baby sitters etc and about stablising your life and your son's life, so with other peoples help you can achieve that goal.

Hex 39 your marriage is facing an obstruction and the obstruction is your wife, if you remove her then there is no marriage, as she has removed herself, there is no marriage to be saved anymore. Therefore, retreat and form a solid relationship with your son, you are his father, so he has one parent. So, now is the time to be careful and act with caution, for you are going from a time of chaos back to a time of order and it does not include your ex wife.
 
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jesed

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Hi modesty

Since your first answer, the advice was to save the marriage; and that is the same advice now. Would you listen this time?

Best wishes
 

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Interesting......I am with Jesed. The question was about the marriage and the yi says it can withstand the pressure.... 39 says to come back and face the difficulty
 

modesty

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Saving the marriage

Hi Jesed, Listener

Yes, since your first comment. I did exactly what you suggested (despite your assumptions about the cause of my marriage difficulties). Because of my son, I have no pride left and behaved as if all the faults were with me. Well, I guess that did not work either. I can not force my wife to stay, the ball is in her court so to speak. The purpose of this reply is not to justify my action (as I said, I have no pride left!). I guess I still worrying about my own life and that of my son and like to seek that little comfort with the I Ching.

Assuming that my wife wants to come back once more, this is only the first step of saving the marriage, I am trying to figure out if there is any connection between this first step and what I (and my psychotherapist) believe to be crucial in stabilising the marriage, namely, two to four years of psychotherapy and medication. I just can not make any connection with the moving lines.

Anyway, I appreciate your input; and my many thanks to Willowfox as well.

Regards,

modesty
 
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jesed

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Well.. not exactly why I suggested...
example: I suggested not to reunite with your wife in the short term..

Anyway, best wishes for you and your family
 

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