Patience 5.1 to 48

[ec456]

Hello,
So I posted a relationship question to the IChing. Lately me and my girlfriend have had some diffiulties, we are long distance and I plan to go visit her in July. It has been 4 months since I saw her, and she is more distant each day. We had a recent fight a couple of weeks ago where we almost broke up. It feels like I am the only one who expresses that I care about the relationship. On Saturday she told me its best we don't talk much until I come see her. She continues to do subtle things which really indicate she doesn't care much, or atleast thats what she is trying to convey?
So I asked the IChing "Why is X being so indifferent towards me?". I received 5.1 changing to 48. Any thoughts? I interpret it as I will have to be patient with her for a while and use this time for inner reflection. But I am not sure if that is the proper reading. Do you guys see this as a auspicious or inauspicious reading? Thanks for your input.

 

[chingching]

Perhaps just trust the connection, 48, enjoy the waiting time, stay steady. Solving a fight over the phone isn't always that preferable, maybe she feels that in person is a better time for it, and there is something to be said about non vernal communication making conversation, and conflict resolution, clearer and quicker. She might just be processing emotions, and she has simply asked for time, which is quite responsible of her really.

Perhaps really what is going for you is you might feel a little cut off from the source of connection and love in your relationship. The reading is saying, wait for the rain to stop (the emotional state), stay steady, and while you are waiting get some yummy food, kick back and relax. No point spending the time in anxiety, when anxiety and worry will not affect or change anything. xo

 

[blue_angel]

I agree, in my own words the reading says, you wish for mutual communication, join with others and enjoy your life, yet continue towards your goal. IF there is an issue it will reveal itself in time, no sense in worrying about it now, especially if it is something that time might work out. Let it unfold how it will naturally.

Best wishes on your journey

 

[ec456]

Thank you for your input blue angel and ching ching. I of course have had great amounts of difficulty with patience during these past 4 months, and looking back I wish I could have been more level headed and not pushed her away as much.
I asked the IChing if I should trust in this connection, between me and her. I received 33.4 Retreat changing to 53, Gradual Progress. I suppose this means if I can act gracefully and with integrity, pulling back at this time - the relationship will gradually progress itself. I am doing my best to do so, and not get emotional as I was in the past.

 

[mirian]

Hi ec456,

Your question was "why is X being so indifferent?"
Answer 5.1 » 48 is about keeping distance from a situation when there is nothing else that can be done at the moment. It is like switching the relationship to pause mode and carry on with life as usual.

You want to know if you can trust the connection. I would say that you should trust the process that you both are going through. With hex 33 you take a step back to avoid defeat and have the chance to re-assess where you stand. Line 4 tells you not to try to achieve something beyond your means. Being able to do that will make you wiser.:bows: