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I am in the midst of breaking up with a boy under exceptional circumstances and really don't know what to do - I don't want to break up but feel as if this hope is slipping away.

I asked Yi:
What should I do about our relationship? I got 16>8 (change in 4th & 5th)
I interpreted this to mean that I should be confident in what I believe even though I am under so much pressure to accept a breakup. Hexagram 8 seems to be telling me to let go of fears..does this mean that I should let go of the fear of parting ways?

How should I approach him regarding our relationship? I got 28.2.3.4>8
The oracle is so right in saying that this is an exceptional period! I felt that it was saying that I should again be proactive and take action but then change in the third said that:
"The ridgepole sags to the breaking point.
Misfortune."
Does that mean that I shouldn't push things too hard if at all?
Does this contradict with change int he 3rd:

"The ridgepole is braced. Good fortune.
If there are ulterior motives, it is humiliating."

Have I interpreted things correctly? I feel so emotional it is hard to be totally open to the answers I recieve..if anyone is able to shed some light into this it would be so much appreciated xx
 

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What should I do about our relationship? I got 16>8 (change in 4th & 5th)

Well, for a start you need some enthusiasm and hope that you can bring it all back together and the next line says that even though the relationship is very sick, it is refusing to die.

How should I approach him regarding our relationship? I got 28.2.3.4>8

You need to inject some new enthusiasm here but do not try to force the issue, you need to listen carefully to others and what they advise, then you can perhaps rescue the relationship.
 

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Thanks for your reply Willowfox. I never thought of the relationship as being "sick" but that is like the most appropriate term now that you mention it!

People I have spoken to have pushed at the idea of just accepting a breakup...so I really am not sure about their advice.

Following on from what you said, I asked Yi:
How can I inject new enthusiasm into the relationship? 22.1.4>56
What does this reading mean? I found this answer a bit vague...
 

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How can I inject new enthusiasm into the relationship? 22.1.4>56

The lines suggest this, that you use your own abilities, step by step, it will not be easy, you will need to be open and sincere with him, it is like getting back to the basics, no frills, just you and a big heart.
 

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How can I inject new enthusiasm into the relationship? 22.1.4>56

be willing to stand on your two feet. "he is not a robber, but a suitor," expect honesty. don't assume he doesnt really love you. but be honest with yourself....

which doesnt mean you should not walk away -56, if that is what it seems you're being encouraged to do by him or others. sometimes walking away is the best way to bring new life to a love that has lost its footing.

the 28> 8 means there is pressure, and it could go either way, but stand firm in your feelings/need ( you got 8 twice). IOW, don't compromise yourself, but dont give up hope.
 

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It's been over a week since I've felt like I have any emotion at all. I realised from your replies that I was probably pushing things a little too much (but then again I felt like it was the right thing to do because it was quickly slipping away..).

So during the last week I have tried to well..not do anything!
Was that what you were suggesting Listener?

Surprisingly things turned well better than I had hoped? (or was that because I wasn't hoping for much?!) The boy had an unexpected couple of days where he was resigned to bed with all the time in the world to think and then after that I felt that the mood had changed and that he was reconsidering the situation like I had always wanted him to.

That was last week..come this week I was starting to loose it with all this doing nothing. It feels like we're more than ever in no-man or girl's land! Sort of more than friends but not truly going out...

"..it is like getting back to the basics, no frills, just you and a big heart."
I wonder where my heart is these days - just feels lost or buried under rubble or something.

It's probably time to seek the advice of Yi again....
xx
 

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Still having big doubts about pursuing with this relationship so I asked Yi once again:
What should I do about our relationship? 19.1 to 7 came up
..once again it is suggested that I persevere(?), be constant in my beliefs and put effort into the situation. Hexagram 7 I felt was trying to tell me to take charge of my life, be disciplined and focus on my goal(s)..seems to tie in with the 28>8 before

Currently my goal is just to try and make things better between us. I consulted Yi: How can I make the relationship better? I got 30.1.2.3.4.6 > 7
I have never had so many changing lines like this! How should I go interpreting it?
should I apply some things that were suggested in this thread upon myself? http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showthread.php?t=4802
 

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Bumping this thread...is there anyone out there with some experience with interpreting hexagrams such as the one above with lots of changing lines?:eek:
 

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