PLEASE HELP - What does this mean?

[jross]

Some of you may remember a number of weeks ago I asked for some advice about an ongoing problem I was having with an ex-boyfriend. I am now in a new relationship wiith someone I am extremely fond of and who I have great respect for - however, I still have feelings for my ex. I know this is wrong, but I can't seem to let go of him. I think I still love him. I truly thought that the relationship with him was over - so I moved on and gave up on him.

Two weeks ago I saw him out for the first time and all those feelings that I thought had disappeared returned with a vengence. Seeing him again filled my stomach with butterflies. We laughed and when he found out I was with someone new, he became very defensive and argumentative. I have been in contact again and he has suggested we meet up as friends. I have been lost as what to do - so I asked the I Ching the question a few days ago what should I do now? It came back with 5.3;4 changing to 58. I again asked it a further question last night: Am I clutching at straws/is there any hope for us or is this relationship really over? The I Ching came back with 49.2 changing to 55. What does this mean?

Can anyone offer me some clarity on this reading please. My head is all over the place.

Thank you.



Minnie x

 

[frank]

See my other post...

 

[dobro p]

"what should I do now? It came back with 5.3;4 changing to 58."

You should abandon the way you're waiting right now, cuz it really isn't good for you.

"I again asked it a further question last night: Am I clutching at straws/is there any hope for us or is this relationship really over? The I Ching came back with 49.2..."

The time is ripe for old, outmoded forms to be thrown off

 

[julie]

Hmm... 49.2 doesn't change to 55; it changes to 43. Is that what you meant?

Dobro's interpretation of 5.3,4 sounds right to me. Don't wait. But changing to 58 is really interesting. Go for the joy. Stop waiting and go for the joy. I don't know whether that means the old relationship is good for you or not, but waiting around the way you are is certainly not good for you.

Julie

 

[dobro p]

Julie - I used to think that 58 was joy, yeah. But now I think it tends more in the direction of joyful expression, opening up joyfully, bringing it forth joyfully. It's the bringing forth which is the key, I think, and the joy is an aspect or quality of that bringing forth. Just my two cents.

 

[jross]

Yep sorry Julie I meant 43. Thanks for all your comments. I don't understand why I can't let go. Can't move on. It's as if something is holding me there - the waiting is near enough killing me and I don't know what to do anymore.

Thank you though.

x

 

[jross]

Yep sorry Julie I meant 43. Thanks for all your comments. I don't understand why I can't let go. Can't move on. It's as if something is holding me there - the waiting is near enough killing me and I don't know what to do anymore.

Thank you though.

x

 

[julie]

Don't ask yourself to do something you can't do. Don't wait around, expecting the ability to let go to just come to you somehow.

Dobro's interpretation of 58 might suggest opening up.

43 also points in the direction of speaking up. Howl! That's the way to eliminate evil. It won't be pretty -- you'll feel like you're being skinned alive (49). But it will lead to change.

Julie

 

[dobro p]

Jross -

"It's as if something is holding me there - the waiting is near enough killing me and I don't know what to do anymore."

This is a perfect subjective description of what's imaged in 5.4 - "Waiting in blood; emerge from cave"

It's a kind of waiting that's doing you real harm, and you should emerge from your seclusion as soon as possible. It's time to stop saying 'I can't' and start repeating the Nike motto to yourself: just do it.

Good luck with it. I know how hard it is to just do it when inertia wants to keep you where you are. But what kind of friend is inertia?

 

[jross]

Thank you Dobro - again you are right and I am trying very hard to let go. It will happen, but everytime I think I'm getting somewhere I see him again or he gets in contact/I see a friend of his. I just have to be strong. I have a very strong intuitive side and for some obscure reason I am unable to let go. It's very weird.

Just do it!!

Minnie x