please,help with feelings and actions and lines: 63.2.3.5 to 61 and 9.5 to 26

[petra33]

Hi there!
I am posting again about a younger boy, really problematic... We are getting closer, but it is still difficult a clear communication... I've tried to me less nervous and I have made some friendly deeds for him.. In the end, he said clearly that he noticed that and he said thanks to me... But it's a busy period for both and we don't see each other... I am still feeling not confident enough, probably because I don't have clear feedbacks from him.. So I asked what are his feeling for me now..even because I am really tired, without energies to fight for anybody..He doesnt do anything to see me, but he leaves me to believe that he preferes I do something for "us" (like text him, ask to him to go out etc etc)... I know he is suspicious about me, but I know that when he wants he is not that shy with other girls..I don't really want a guy that push me, texting me 10 times a day, but he is so absent! We meet really often because of common friends and his job, but we don't date I'd like a proper date, but I am really scared to ask (and to do it too, to be honest).. so I've asked "how his feeling about me are evolving? and I got 63.2.3.6 to 61
I also asked if he will do any action to get (finally) closer to me and I got 9.5 to 26...
It seems that he is full of dubt, powerless and not ready, but that's something is moving in a more "active" direction. Like if he is still deciding what he actually feels and what he actually has to do in general..


But do you think he cares about me or not? Do you think he will do any actions? I know they are silly questions, but any advise (especially from personal experience) is really welcome. I have no energy to carry on with someone who doesn't have enough character (somebody can says "balls"), or that is playing with me (but I don't think that that is the case).
All the best to all.

 

[foxx777]

I think you are very stressed about this situation, and that your reading may be reflecting this stress. Even though you have asked about HIS feelings, I believe it is YOUR OWN feelings and potential which are being addressed. But I think there is some positive potential here:

63. Already Across (perhaps you have already "gotten across to him"?)

Line 2:

A woman loses her carriage-screen.
One should not run after it.
Seven days to regain.

Losing something that exposes one. No need to run after what was lost. After a bit of time it will be regained.

Line 3:

The Eminent Ancestor attacked the Ghost region.
The third year he conquered it.
Ordinary people were not employed.

For this hard and difficult undertaking, that takes quite some time to complete, one must not deal lightly with things. One cannot leave this to be done by just anyone.

Line 6:

His head gets wet.
Danger.

Being completely immersed in the situation. This is risky.(perhaps you are over-stressing yourself?)



Hexagram is changing to:

61. Inner Trust

Inner trust of piglets and fishes.
Good fortune.
It is beneficial to cross the big river.
It is beneficial to persist.

Having confidence like piglets and fishes have. Things go well. This is a good moment for big undertakings. Keep going on. It seems to be telling you to be natural, to build trust, to have confidence.)
(Inner trust is trust in oneself: confidence. The natural behavior of young pigs and of fish is with a lot of confidence.)

As far as HIS actions, and the oracle of 9.5 >26:

9. Minor Restraint

Line 5:

Having a trusting relationship,
enriched by one's neighbor.

Being supported by someone near in a relationship of trust.

Seems he will trust you, and things will then go well. It could be that it is more special that he is allowing you to pursue him, but that is my own particular bias I will admit. I tend to be a pursuer!

 

[petra33]

thanks a lot fox777 )

dear fox777
thank you very much for your advise....
yes, I'm really stressed and I should take things in a easier way.. but it's a really stressful time for a lot of reasons....and this situation with this boy doesn't help )
I really would like to have some feedbacks from him, to have a good thing to take out a bit of my stress...but in the end, I will be better soon (for example, I have an important exam and an interview in a few weeks..after which I'll be less stressed...hopefully)..
63 to 61 it's still difficult to understand.....
but I got much more sense by 9 to 26.... Coz, I guess he will leave me to "pursue" him....but I dont know it it is what i really want...As i already said, I'm tired, and I'd like to be "pursued"....I'd like to act as a woman, not as a man...I need someone that is looking after me... but maybe at the first stage I can be happy to know that he is interested on me...Now I don't know...I know he likes me, but I don't know if this thing is superficial or not....And as I said before, he's not always that "passive" with other girls...I'll see what is happen this week end...But what I see from these tosses is that the situation is still "open", it takes time and I don't know if I have the energies to carry on... maybe the first cast says that : "you don't have the energies now, but you will find it later"...
I need to think about it: yes, I can get something, but I don't know if I will be really happy...
Oh, I'm still so insicure....

 

[foxx777]

dear fox777
thank you very much for your advise....
yes, I'm really stressed and I should take things in a easier way.. but it's a really stressful time for a lot of reasons....and this situation with this boy doesn't help )
I really would like to have some feedbacks from him, to have a good thing to take out a bit of my stress...but in the end, I will be better soon (for example, I have an important exam and an interview in a few weeks..after which I'll be less stressed...hopefully)..
63 to 61 it's still difficult to understand.....
but I got much more sense by 9 to 26.... Coz, I guess he will leave me to "pursue" him....but I dont know it it is what i really want...As i already said, I'm tired, and I'd like to be "pursued"....I'd like to act as a woman, not as a man...I need someone that is looking after me... but maybe at the first stage I can be happy to know that he is interested on me...Now I don't know...I know he likes me, but I don't know if this thing is superficial or not....And as I said before, he's not always that "passive" with other girls...I'll see what is happen this week end...But what I see from these tosses is that the situation is still "open", it takes time and I don't know if I have the energies to carry on... maybe the first cast says that : "you don't have the energies now, but you will find it later"...
I need to think about it: yes, I can get something, but I don't know if I will be really happy...
Oh, I'm still so insicure....

Well, it is not an easy situation, is it? Let's hope that the I ching is advising correctly, and that you can get beyond your stress, and something good will come from this guy-------and if not from him, then from someone else. Time will tell, just get through what you have to.

 

[petra33]

48.1.6 to 9 line in deep contraddiction (

Hallo again , gantle ppl
I maybe made a mistake, but I just had another toss: coz I am still worried... I am still acting as "man".. I am the "more active" part... and now I am worried to be for him just someone to use to get favours.. In some ways it's my bad, coz I never ask to him anything to check that.. But he is nicer with me and I am getting more confident.. thus my feeling are growing (and I get happy but scared)...
So, maybe wrongly, I had another toss, more specific and I think that the answer is ambiguous
What is gonna happen in a month? (because for me is gonna be a really intense time for me....full of important changes)
and I got
48.1.6 to 9
for me (and considering the situation), it can be "nothing: the situation will be confused as always, because the energies in action are not strong enough"...or "you both will forgive each other for the past (we had a lot of arguments in the past), to start step by step a relationship"....
or "you have to accept that we can be just friends and not immediatelly"

What do you think about that?
also 9 is connected to May and 48 to June (maybe it counts, considering that I've asked about a month from now).

the line 48.1 is maybe the worset line possible in this hex. and the line 48.6 is the best: how can I see the situation? and even hex. 9 can be good or bad...

I am a bit confused...or I simply have to accept that the I-ching doesn't want/cannot reply... oh, it's so frustrating!
any advise is welcome....
all the best to all

 

[foxx777]

Hallo again , gantle ppl
I maybe made a mistake, but I just had another toss: coz I am still worried... I am still acting as "man".. I am the "more active" part... and now I am worried to be for him just someone to use to get favours.. In some ways it's my bad, coz I never ask to him anything to check that.. But he is nicer with me and I am getting more confident.. thus my feeling are growing (and I get happy but scared)...
So, maybe wrongly, I had another toss, more specific and I think that the answer is ambiguous
What is gonna happen in a month? (because for me is gonna be a really intense time for me....full of important changes)
and I got
48.1.6 to 9
for me (and considering the situation), it can be "nothing: the situation will be confused as always, because the energies in action are not strong enough"...or "you both will forgive each other for the past (we had a lot of arguments in the past), to start step by step a relationship"....
or "you have to accept that we can be just friends and not immediatelly"

What do you think about that?
also 9 is connected to May and 48 to June (maybe it counts, considering that I've asked about a month from now).

the line 48.1 is maybe the worset line possible in this hex. and the line 48.6 is the best: how can I see the situation? and even hex. 9 can be good or bad...

I am a bit confused...or I simply have to accept that the I-ching doesn't want/cannot reply... oh, it's so frustrating!
any advise is welcome....
all the best to all

Here is what I get from that reading:

48. The Well

Line 1:

A well's mud one cannot drink.
This old well is without any birds.

An old and neglected source that hasn't been maintained. It's not of any use anymore.
It is time to stop "acting as a man", and allow him to give back to you? Of course, he needs to be willing....hmmmmm
Line 6:

The well receives.
Do not cover it,
have trust.
It is a source of good fortune.

Someone (or something) who is used to providing now needs to take in. Like a teacher who now needs to listen and learn, someone who usually nurtures who now needs to be nurtured, or a giver who needs to receive. There may be a tendency to resist this, but it shouldn't be resisted. Trusting that things will be all right if one lets this, will allow for replenishment of the source.REALLY CONFIRMS WHAT WAS SAID OF LINE 1 ABOVE.



Hexagram is changing to:

9. Minor Restraint

Minor restraint.
Progressing.
Dense clouds, but no rain
from our western outlands.

One is held back, but things are progressing nevertheless. There is a potential for new resources, but they are not yet coming.
to me, it sounds as if things have a potential for changing in a good way here. This is what I see in the hexagrams and lines.

 

[petra33]

thank you very much foxx777...wow! I didn't see the toss from this point of view (which got sense)... I'll see..... at the moment, he just pissed me off...He was in a bad mood and I can't say that he treat me badly, but he kept the distance...and that annoyed me, because I came to him to say a good thing that happen to me: I wanted to share a good thing happened to me with him, and because he was in a bad mood I couldn't...maybe it's not his fault or mine, but I gonna keep the distance too from now..I want to show to him that I gonna quit..and if he doesn't do anything it's over...if my issues never count, I don't want to carry on...my biggest wish is to share things of life with him, if he can't I WANT to go far away: I really cared about his things, trying to help him and he appreciated it (making me happy for that)....but I'm realizing that it is not enough at all if he always need to be under the spotlight )
I'll see...fingers crossed and all the best & thanks a lot!

 

[foxx777]

I think your attitude is correct, and I think that is what the line 6 is saying: It is time for YOU to receive instead of simply giving, and if he cannot do this, you must wait for one who can. If he CAN, then that is what the new start should be based on: Him meeting you halfway, or more.

 

[petra33]

I think your attitude is correct, and I think that is what the line 6 is saying: It is time for YOU to receive instead of simply giving, and if he cannot do this, you must wait for one who can. If he CAN, then that is what the new start should be based on: Him meeting you halfway, or more.

really wise words ) eheheheh!
and I think I'm finally getting wiser ..
thanks agai and all the best )