Please help with Hex 4.1 to 41!

[veronica]

Hi Guys,

I have been dating this guy (B) for a 4-5 months and I have now reached a point where I feel a bit stuck. I am unable to actually specify why I feel this way, whether it has something to do with my past bad experience, with fear of getting attached again and being disappointed or whether my intuition is telling me to step back (for whatever reason). This guy has been bending himself backwards right from the start, buying flowers, coming over every evening, sending loving text messages, gifts etc and I don't know if it's the intensity of it (he has already mentioned he would like us to move in together in the new year) that made me have second thoughts (he wanted to know after 2 months if I loved him) or the fact that there are issues in his life I am just not so sure about (he seems to drink quite a lot, he apparently works for himself but I don't see him actually doing that much) or am I just picking on little things (he wears socks full of holes! and his shoes are never clean...) trying to uncover something bigger???. Or perhaps I am not ready for a new relationship? OR maybe I am just too demanding!

Anyway, I have cast a reading last night: What should I do about B? I got hexagram 4.1 to 41. What do you guys think???

 

[icastes]

4 describes someone who doesn't know what to do and because the person cannot handle the situation any love interest will not succeed. 41, however, bodes well, as it does not bring immediate success, but can do so with sincerity and consistency. The problem is that line 1 does not bode well generally, and probably will lead you to failure, but one that can be overcome in the future in another way, a way attained by decreasing what you and increasing what others need.

 

[veronica]

Hello Icastes, many thanks for your comment, I've been sitting here by the computer hoping for some responses as I really need some help. I have always been accused of focusing too much on other peoples needs and trying so hard to fulfill the expectations of others that I always ignored my own needs. Now it seems to end up in disaster when I try to focus on what I want or feel. So hard to find the balance!

 

[veronica]

Just another thought, Im actually not asking the Yi for a future forcast but for some advice (What should I do with B?)... Struggling here what the advice actually is??? Please help

 

[veronica]

I think you are spot on Rosada, that's exactly how I feel right now, like I just need to stop trying to proceed. I have tried to explain it to B that I need my space and to slow things down, I think he has been quite hurt by it but has given me more space.

 

[rosada]

Thank you Veronica.
I removed my post cause I was trying to tweek it a bit just as you were replying. Guess it was okay as it stood!
-Rosada

 

[veronica]

Does anyone have anything else to add regarding the advice please?

 

[sooo]

To me it looks and sounds like your baby needs to grow up and take care of himself before he can take care of a gf or wife, or worse, your children. Flowers aside, I read 41 as saying to cool this relationship down.

4 may also suggest some naivete on your part, thinking you can change him, or your own desires.

Be honest with yourself and don't be ashamed of your feelings toward this person. Please don't sell yourself short.

If you're sure you wish to continue the relationship anyway, you could tell him to cool his jets and not rush or try to push you or the relationship into being what he thinks he needs. Be properly selfish concerning what you need as well.

Giving him new socks for Christmas should reveal if he can take your hints.

 

[veronica]

That is just too accurate Soo! It made me smile because I just bought him 4 pairs of socks for xmas as well! In fact we had a conversation earlier on today and I tried to say that although I appreciate his attention, kisses and cuddles I need to see that he can look after us if we were to move in together and then he immediately started changing the proposed date from the New Year to the summer!

Is there anything in the reading which suggests to give him a chance to change or am I wasting my time here? Now the reading is starting to make sense, funny that I just couldn't make sense of it myself.

Any more comments highly appreciated!

Veronica

 

[sooo]

That is just too accurate Soo! It made me smile because I just bought him 4 pairs of socks for xmas as well! In fact we had a conversation earlier on today and I tried to say that although I appreciate his attention, kisses and cuddles I need to see that he can look after us if we were to move in together and then he immediately started changing the proposed date from the New Year to the summer!

Is there anything in the reading which suggests to give him a chance to change or am I wasting my time here? Now the reading is starting to make sense, funny that I just couldn't make sense of it myself.

Any more comments highly appreciated!

Veronica

Glad it makes sense to you, Veronica. Thanks for your feedback.

I don't read it as a death knell necessarily, but for sure a reduction of intensity (as you had originally sensed and said). They may be one and the same. Time and socks will tell. chuckle