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Please help with several readings. Who text me? 25.3.4>37; Who is him? 61.2.3.6>63

petra33

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Please help with several readings. Who text me? 25.3.4>37; Who is him? 61.2.3.6>63

Dear all,
I'm asking for advice because I am confused.

Months ago, I have found the strength to quit a (bad) potential relationship with a coworker and I resigned my job. The 2 decisions were independent to each other.

In the beginning everything was more than ok. And I was fine, but after about 2 months I had a lot of fit of tears missing this guy. In a middle of a dinner with friends, or in other social situations. What I could do was running to the toilet with an excuse. I also started smoking again, because it seems helping me to stop crying. I feel like I lost him as he's dead. And rarely I experienced such a grief even when someone actually dies.

Instead, he is alive and in very "in a relationship" with a girl (he made it official just after I block him on Facebook and on my mobile, but I founded out they were dating from several months).
But, time to time ppl refer me he is always on his own at work and he stops to do his things and starts to eavesdrop anytime someone talks about me (I am really missed at work, and I still go out with some of my ex colleagues). Basically he still thinks about me.
I also receive a strange text from someone just after there was a rumor about me and another guy (false). I called the number after a few hours and a female voice replied and when I asked who was, she hung off my call (but I think behind this there's him). He also changed his number. So, maybe he wanted to know if I still have the same number? Long story short, I can say who have sent that message knows me for sure.

When I left, I did not gave him any hope (you hit my limits, enough is enough, I will never come back) and he did not tried to stop me or to apologize.
I am really focused on my career right now and I have a good social life. I am not dating anyone, but I have been courted several times before and after him (and he knows that).

But I don't let him go...it's like a karmic thing...So, why we are not together? Maybe it's simply not the right time and I have to wait for it, but I miss him now :( I would like to share this positive time with him and I can't. I look at the mirror and I like myself probably more than ever. And it's sad he cannot be with me. But I cannot wait for him. And I keep going, and even though I am not rich at all, I am managing to travel around to visit friends and to attend seminars (I am also looking for jobs in another countries). I'm happily doing huge changes, but I would like him in my new life.

So, I had several tosses in the last 2 weeks... I probably don't want to see the bitter true... And I don't even know what to do if he comes back..
I also meditate, do EFT, take Bach remedies to let him go..But he is still in my mind

What's gonna happen in August? (I know it's almost gone, but I've asked 2 weeks ago)
40.1 > 54
Overcoming the problems, little by little, sober communication (40.1).. but I don't get 54... he is younger with a younger girl. But I don't think I am the "first wife", coz my position is more similar to the younger sister.. And August is almost gone. I know he heard about me from others (and for me the same), but there's not a direct communication at the moment. could wish to become the second wife (the second sister who replace the sterile older sister in the legend), but I see it as too optimistic.

What I have to do to make him come back to me, with serenity and willing to have a serious relationship? 20.2 > 59
I read a lot about it; and once I had it. It says I have a too narrow prospective right now. I should find out more?(but I am trying to forgive him actually). Maybe he is not who I think?. Maybe I have to take more information (be ready for everything) but let him to do the first step? or it's just something like "Forgive and Forget"?

What are is feeling for me?
55.3.6 > 21
He is in conflict (55), strong/opposite feelings are getting his limit (it's noon),
he is confused and ask for advise to the wrong ppl (55.3)
he thinks I should get in touch first for arrogance and fear of loosing what he thinks to have achieved (55.6) perhaps with his actual relationship?
But he cannot keep going like that so long, coz he cannot hold on this inner conflict and he want to clear the air, he want to find a radical solution (21)... Does he wants to talk/come back to me or to cut me out of his life for good?

Who sent me the text?
25.3.4 > 37 someone of his family has stolen my number texting me?.. no clue... But I have to say that I already had line 25.4 for him (when I read "what it's yours will never be loose" it always touching me)..

What is gonna do about me?
38.3.4 > 26
Again the conflict...one moment he want me and the other he doesn't (38). It seems he feels isolated and humiliated; probably because he knows to have been really bad with me and now he feels ashamed and he doesn't know what to do to sort the situation out (38.3) but he will redeem himself at the very end (how?)
But no good ideas for 38.4 (in terms to know his action).. What is the wise man in this case? Maybe he will ask for advise to someone wiser?
So he's also trying to make his feelings and energies in balance (26), but in order to do what?

Then I rethought about 20.2 > 59.. Maybe he is not who I think? Maybe is just mad?
So I asked
Who is him? 61.2.3.6 > 63
It's pretty hard to read, to be honest...
Maybe it says he is basically a genuine/correct person (61).. but with me he said so many lies!
he is probably secretly looking for real relationships, with ppl whom to feel linked by deep connection,affinity like he is straggling to find them near by himself (61.2)
he is also really emotional and tends to overreact (for the good and for the bad) especially when he finds what he wants (38.3)
(insecure?... I do believe he has abandonment issues, not just considering these 2 moving lines).
line 61.6 it's a bit harder... Usually talks about arrogance.. Or about someone who talks a lot but don't deeply feel what he says. But here it could talk about his communication issues. And 63 could say that it's up to me , because he is pretty like this: big heart, moody, emotional, arrogant, with communication issues (the rooster sing pretending/wishing to be another bird, but it also ask for help, trying to get in touch to the Heaven)...

Sorry for the long mail, but I wish anyone can give me his opinion to feel better..maybe just about one of them to clarify my messy feelings.
All the best to all :)
 

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Although I am by no means a practiced diviner, Petra, and you should take what I say with a very large grain of salt, I hope you will not think me presumptuous if I respond to your thread. I have asked the I Ching about other people and I have found its answers are always really about me. You said, "Maybe he is not who I think?" I believe none of us are who we think, let alone who others think we are. When I have asked the I Ching to explain other people's behavior or interior state to me, invariably the response is about myself or my actions within my relationship to the other people. I'm sure this person is as big a mystery to himself as to you, or as any of us are to ourselves. But this person has free will and the I Ching cannot change that. Therefore, unless that person is the one asking the question, the I Ching cannot influence his thinking or decision making and will have limited predictive or explanatory power (my opinion, your mileage may vary). I feel the questions you are asking about him are really questions you are asking about yourself. I received Hexagram 61 with moving lines 1 and 6 in response to an important question I asked today, and I think the essential message, to proceed from a place of your heart's deepest truth, is excellent advice for both of our situations, as far as I can understand them. But Hexagram 63 usually indicates an ending and, by implication from the doctrine of eternal dynamic change, a new beginning. It seems to me you may be guided to consider radical alternatives to your present situation and to cast your questions and concerns into different terms. I offer this perspective only because it sometimes helps to see things from an outside point of view and I merely hope to give you something to think about, for what it's worth. If you think shenanigans, that's fair. I wish you all the best.
 

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Dear Daniel, sorry for the late reply (I had a deadline and I couldn't come back for a proper answer..sorry!).
Thanks a lot for you answer, anyway.

I know it's not good asking about others' feelings. I personally change mine every day. And in this situation, I am actually in love with him, but he probably thinks I moved on already...
My last question was important for me, considering the situation.. And I am a bit confused, realizing I care about this person more than I think.. I wanted to know his nature in general, not his feeling. I don't know 100% mine ;)
I left the job, knowing I probably would't have any more chance to see him. But it was the right decision, even though I am suffering now.
And I asked about him, because I cannot do anything. Not because I don't have the guts to be the first to get in touch, but because he is so insecure that it could be worse (he use to come back and run away a few times)..And I don't think it's because he is getting pleasure to play with me, but because he didn't know if we could last.. But I cannot be sure..
And I have to put myself first, despite my feelings..or maybe considering them (I never told him I really care about him.. but every time I opened up a little bit, he was panicking)..
My feelings overwhelm me sometimes, and I am worried to have idealized him (not just because of 20.2>59), but because it's in the human nature..
I am trying to stop to think "what if he is coming back?"..
But it's hard, because I miss him and there are a lot of things not very clear..
Anyway, thanks for your answer, at least you tried to make me less worried ;)

All the best to you too.
PS:If anyone else has direct experiences about my tosses, please feel free to share :)
 

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