Please,I really need your opinion: 32.2.3.5 to 45 are we meant to be together?

[petra33]

Dear kind people,
I am in a kind of "triangle" situation. A guy asked for a second chance and as soon I open up he ran away again
I decided to ban him from all my contacts because he was really "pushy" to have another chance, but when it was the time to make a move he ran away. He didn't turn up after begging to see me every day for a week.
Every time I go away he comes back. And again, as soon as I get closer he panics (basically, going back to another girl).

So, I decided of banning him (on mobile and internet), saying him he is not behaving normally and I cannot do anymore else. And after that, a friend of mine told me he "made official"with the other girl on Facebook (to let me know it? To make me feel bad? Because he is simply crazy?). The 2 things are connected (me dumping him and he making the other relationship official in less than 24h).
And what if he comes back again in a few weeks? Will I be strong enough to kick him out of my life? Is it the right thing to do?
I just realized he probably has problems for which he should ask for help to a therapist or something; because he sabotages our relationship every time we get really close. But he is still young and I understand he is scared...
And everything is so intense for both!
But I am trying to put myself first: I need to keep going with my life and goals...I need some advise. Every time I "let it go" he comes back.. but then he runs away..
So I asked "are we meant to be together?" and the answer is 32.2.3.5 to 45

these 2 hexs are actually about long lasting relationships? Please, give me your opinion, because (reading also the moving lines) it seems to says "you will find out by yourself if it is so". But I need to know to make sense of it, and to move on asap and with faith in the future.
Please, share your opinion.
Thanks anyway and all the best to all.

 

[blue_angel]

In answer to your question I think the reading says "no, you are not meant to be together at this time". What I have learned about 32 is we have to have endurance in ourselves, our path, our character before we are ready to have an enduring relationship. And to have that endurance we have to know where we are, where we are headed, and what we will accept or not accept in another. The lines seem to point to you not being quite ready and he is not quite ready either. The advice I find in your reading seems to be to not act or react in extreme. To not allow him to cause you to be emotional. 45 in my experience is a group connection. Not necessarily a romantic relationship. I am sorry I do not see your reading as something more positive. Perhaps someone else can shed more light on your situation. It seems this one is not good for your energy.

 

[kincadefoster]

I just ended a relationship with someone like this. If he is like my ex he has had so many bad things both childhood and in relationships that he feels completely lost and doesn't know how to trust an intense and good connection. It really sounds to me like this is a person who has major fear of abandonment and commitment and I seriously doubt the other girl is having any better time with push/pull behavior than you.

32 is about consistency, the planets are fixed in their orbits, but also about renewing cycles of love.
Line 2 says be consistent in character(grounded, centered, middle path)
Line 3 is about someone who has no consistency in character which always leads to regrets unless the person learns to consistently mend errors(my guess thats him?). Also It could mean that in the past being loyal to one person has often ended badly for him?
Line 5 is about someone maintaining consistency or loyalty leading to good fortune(you maybe?)

45 could be about gathering yourself together.

I would suggest you make him come to you. You have blocked him on your phone as well as social networking because you felt it was right, right? So to talk to you again he will have to come in person and you must stay strong and consistent(32, lines 2 and 5). Take things slow, don't see him so often and make him work a little to get you back. Don't let him mess with you. The main reason for going slow is to make sure you aren't allowing yourself to invest more than he does, to make sure you aren't being fooled or messed with in any way. Just because he may have a shitty past is no reason to place yourself in a bad position. Self respect is key.

I hope this helps but cannot guarantee success. The truth is there are probably plenty of men out there who will treat you right and adore you and NOT push/pull you. Only you can decide for yourself if this situation is worth it.... :bows:

 

[petra33]

Dear blue_angel and kincadefoster, thank you very much for your replies.
I think they are really useful. And reading again the fifth line, I see it probably mirroring and advising both of us, giving advises. I have to be strong and he has to grow up. We are not ready for each other and/or for someone else if we don't. So, no one can be good if I don't do that.
We are both scared of commitment. So now to get him or someone else, I have to be focused on my self development, first. So, if he will come back, I will know what to do to make it work out. Also if he will come back, he has to put an extra effort as kincadefoster said. But yet, it will be not enough if I don't stand up for myself. I never asked for something exclusive or serious, not just for the fear of being rejected, but also to commit to someone who can hurt me later or I discover is not good for me (avoiding to be responsible for his eventual disappointment). Probably it said that there is hope if I put myself first, believing I am worthy of good things.
So for now I let it go and next time I will say clear what I think I deserve: commitment and exclusivity, because I am worthy for it. I'll keep you updated and thanks again for your help