Potential romance? Hex. 31

[dark opal]

Hi everybody,

I asked the I Ching if my recent friendship with someone I met a month ago has potential to become a love relationship. I got hexagram 31, changing lines 3 and 5. Future: Hexagram 16.

I'll appreciate all of your insights!

 

[chloe123]

Amazing. I had the same question a week or so ago and got the same reply.
AND...I don't think it's going to work. I asked myself if it's what I really want and it isn't.
I think of him all the bleedin' time but pocossin told me that 's just because of a little bonding hormone. lol.
I held to him in the thighs..I wanted to follow my thighs, walk towards him, get into bed with him etc ..all the things thighs get involved in !
I hold to him in the back of the neck ..which is where I hold stubborn ideas, where I don't let go.
i.e. I want him, I want him, I want him. !!
But he's not the right fellow for me. I know this 99.99% to be the belief I should hold deeply and remember. But in the back of my neck is another idea clinging. It's all hard. But you know what it's teaching me? To have immeasurable patience. Because everything changes and all sorts of things could happen. I could wake up one morning to find the little hormone gone, he could have a religious experience and change his whole life around and become the perfect person for me, I could meet someone else, he could meet someone else... We just don't know.
Anyway, with this hexagram and those lines 3 and 5, I'm taking it very very very slowly. I'm giving my preference to being in the present moment as much as I can and letting 'bonding' thoughts go. The message for me, doesn't say 'go and get involved'. It says be very cautious.
Anyway..good luck with it.

 

[dark opal]

Hi chloe123,
I read your post, and yes, it's amazing how two different cases can have a similar guidance. In my case, I met a month ago this man who's single and looking. We have great rapport eventhough our personalities are complementary (not opposite). I intuit that he's interested in me, but he keeps acting all cool and.. Well.. Just "friendly". I feel comfortable with this situation, I'm not emotionally attached to him and there hasnt been any physical intimacy between us at all. In fact, if we stay friends that's cool ( for now since I haven't developed feelings for him ).

My intuition says that what the IChing is saying in my particular case is that romance is possible. But also that, if it happens, its gonna take time to develop the emotional intimacy. I don't know, that's why my question is open.. There could be things in my reading that I don't see, like not understanding the changing lines.