Problems (52 > 58, all changing lines)

[akath19]

Hey!

I've been having some problems (OK actually I haven't had any problems, just a complete communication cut) with a friend for the past 2 months, here's a little background:

2 months ago a member of my family got into some trouble with the law and of course everyone in my family (including me) was extremely shocked, especially considering that he's not guilty of what he's being accused and absolutely everyone knows it, sadly he's "guilty by association". Anyway I called my friend and said that I needed a friend to talk to, she said "of course, call me tomorrow and we'll grab some coffee and talk", the next day I called her 3 times and she didn't answer the phone, she called me late at night and said that she was sorry and she was with her nephew (the kid's 4) and we'll grab the coffee the next day, the next day she didn't answer the phone and I even left her a message with her mother saying that I wanted to talk to her.

Fast forward 2 months, I still haven't her anything from her and I was mad (what was I supposed to feel), so I asked the Yi: "What's the problem in my relationship with X?" to which I got the most complex answer I've ever gotten I got 52.1.2.3.4.5.6 > 58, now I tried tackling this the simplest way possible by saying that the lack of communication (and my unresolved feelings of anger) was draining our relationship of all the joy and happiness (seeing it also as a lack of interaction of any kind), however I feel that there's something else below that I just can't see, maybe because six changing lines are a little overwhelming for me.

Does anyone see something else besides what I said?

Thanx


P.S.: Sorry for the long post.

 

[heylise]

I got 6 changing lines once, hex.1 changing to 2, years ago, for a very important problem which was at the time beyond my ability to solve. Not absolutely impossible, just too hard for me. Less than two months ago I could finally bring it to a good outcome - more or less.

Guess this is not of much help, but it might be what is happening.

 

[Trojina]

Hey!

I've been having some problems (OK actually I haven't had any problems, just a complete communication cut) with a friend for the past 2 months, here's a little background:

2 months ago a member of my family got into some trouble with the law and of course everyone in my family (including me) was extremely shocked, especially considering that he's not guilty of what he's being accused and absolutely everyone knows it, sadly he's "guilty by association". Anyway I called my friend and said that I needed a friend to talk to, she said "of course, call me tomorrow and we'll grab some coffee and talk", the next day I called her 3 times and she didn't answer the phone, she called me late at night and said that she was sorry and she was with her nephew (the kid's 4) and we'll grab the coffee the next day, the next day she didn't answer the phone and I even left her a message with her mother saying that I wanted to talk to her.

Fast forward 2 months, I still haven't her anything from her and I was mad (what was I supposed to feel), so I asked the Yi: "What's the problem in my relationship with X?" to which I got the most complex answer I've ever gotten I got 52.1.2.3.4.5.6 > 58, now I tried tackling this the simplest way possible by saying that the lack of communication (and my unresolved feelings of anger) was draining our relationship of all the joy and happiness (seeing it also as a lack of interaction of any kind), however I feel that there's something else below that I just can't see, maybe because six changing lines are a little overwhelming for me.

Does anyone see something else besides what I said?

Thanx


P.S.: Sorry for the long post.

She's acting like you aren't there isn't she, very 52 ish. I'm thinking perhaps this is more to do with whats happening for her, that shes overwhelmed in some way, needs to cut others others out to retain her equilibrium. I don't see anything about joy being drained...that would be more 47 ish...This looks more like someone totally taking time for herself becasue she needed to and maybe just didn't know how to say so.

It is a difficult reading to deal with thats for sure !


Seeing this as a sentence "joy in stillness"...or even "stillness in joy"...I'm wondering if she just needs all her communing to be with herself rather than others. In 52 you go to your inner space and you don't need or want to deal with others. This can give you the opportunity to commune with yourself much more deeply...and can be very pleasurable.

Thats my take so far. Thats its about her need for her own space. naturally it would have felt hurtful to you...yet its very difficult to explain sometimes if you want to withdraw for some time, maybe thats why she didn't.

However thats pretty much guesswork...guess only talking to her will give you the answer

 

[my_key]

Your Question was "What's the problem in my relationship with X?"
The juxtaposition seems to come from here.
52 - Thus the superior man does not permit his thoughts to go beyond his situation.
58 - Thus the superior man joins with his friends for discussion and practice.

I see the answer as more being around your relationship with your friend rather than her with you. Look at how you worded the question.

A total change on all fronts seems to be required to get from A to B. Remember that it is important in this situation not to take anything personally.

Be Well
Mike

 

[willowfox]

How far away does she live, as it can't be far if you were going to have coffee together.

Therefore, why can't you pay her a visit, so simple, puzzle solved.


Hex 52 shows that she is still around but just ignoring you, so obviously she wasn't and still isn't in the mood to talk to you, you have become excommunicated.

 

[akath19]

Well, after a long time I decided to talk to her, turns out we had a disagreement the last time we talked and she didn't want to talk to me afterward, but now everything's solved.