Progress 45.4 > 8

[Levonne27]

Hello everyone,I am new to this and hope to get some insights on the hexagrams I have drawn. I have met this guy in my previous workplace last year December, I actually thought he's not bad but have known that he's a married man that's why I didn't bother to get to know him more. Throughout the next few months we only contacted each other for work, until one day in end April/early May, I cried in office due to workload stress and that was when he started talking to me more. We talked more and more each day and then started going out. We grew closer and then somehow fell for each other. During the start he had always warned me that he's not a good guy, but for me I just enjoyed talking and hanging out with him. In the midst he started getting greedier and wanted me all alone to himself. I felt that throughout the relationship he has become gentler and gentler to me, unlike during the start where he likes to just bully me and tease me like how "bad boys" would. He told me a lot of times he's afraid to lose me, often he would go against his character just to make me happy.One day one of my close colleagues came to know about this due to some reasons. She told me that she has actually known that we secretly admired each other for quite some time, before me and him even get closer. She told me that she also had noticed a change in him, he's much more cheerful. He admitted that he noticed me all along but didn't try to get closer because he is not in a position to do so. We have been together for three months now. Experiencing lots of different things in and out of the company. He treated me really sincerely and has been very honest to me, sometimes honest to the extent which hurts me. I know the situation between him and his wife, he doesn't indulge much but I know he doesn't enjoy his time with her, my colleague also overheard his conversation with his wife in May before and know that there is some problems in his marriage. I don't really dare to touch on this topic all along until recently we came across the topic of his wife suspecting things, he's afraid she finds out because of assets problem. I asked him will he be able to give me a future? He told me as of now no, but he doesn't know what will happen in the future. Which left me feeling conflicted. He doesn't seem to want to sacrifice anything at the moment.Currently he's in a lot of troubles due to family and company shares, I didn't want to add on to his troubles so I just let nature take its course and try to lighten his stress. However a lot of times I feel stucked, because I am at the age whereby I would want to find someone to settle down with but I just can't seem to leave this relationship. I asked Yi how will things progress between us in the future? I received 45.4 > 8From the looks of it, it looks auspicious. But for my question and the situation I am having, I wonder is it still auspicious?

 

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[equinox]

45.4 indeed talks of luck luck and says that you are blameless, even if the position you are in is not correct. I'm not sure this man will contribute to your happiness to be honest. Maybe I-Ching gives you an answer that reaches beyond this particular situation.

The facts: He is unhappy in his marriage, but at the same time he is, at least right now, too comfortable to draw the consequences. So he cheats on her with you, you who actually doesn't want to be a secret lover but to settle down, which is ultimately a disgraceful situation for everyone involved, except him (but in the long run it is also unfortunate for him, I am sure). At least for now it is the easiest way for him, he is the one who profits most. I wouldn't allow him to do that if I were you. I can't imagine how dishonesty can lead to good fortune in the long run. Maybe you can positively influence the dynamics by not allowing him to do so. People can change, he may change as well if he can't avoid it any longer.
Only if he has to make a decision he can find out what really means something to him in life. If you let him go the seemingly easiest way he won't consider it necessary to change anything. Why should he if he gets away with it and has the self-conception of a "bad guy" anyway?

 

[equinox]

By the way, I would generally always be careful with people who refer to themselves as "bad guys" -- even if this may sound playful, they are often right with this self-description. Because this self-image shows that they are not ready to work on their weaknesses, but rather accept them and even coquette with them. When someone said to me "I am a bad guy", I would say: Okay, then try harder.