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Hi..
Taking rosada's advice, I asked Yi what the reality of our (P's and me) connection was.

15(1,4,5,6)-->13

Hmmm..I dont know what to make of it. Any help is appreciated :)
 

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Hi Rose
Some things you might want to consider regarding the reality of your connection with P:
15.1 - Relationships are best when they are kept on the smooth path. Demands and extremes place unnecessary stress on the relationship and cause friction. Consider carefully and start as you mean to go on.
15.4 - Choose to work as a partnership or you may find that one of you undermines the other and does not give the respect required for an equal relationship to develop.
15.5 - One has to stand one's ground at times to ensure the equality in the relationship is maintained. Be careful that one of you does not become overbearing.
15.6 - Take responsibility for how you act correct any shortcomings with enthusiasm. This will show that you are walking your talk.

13 - Inner strength and understanding of others can be used in a discerning way to allow over time the best to come from the relationship.

Mike
 

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First of all , let me express my gratitute for this site and its people.

I went to bed last night thinking about what was weighing on my mind and it just felt so wonderful to know that there is actually a place I could go to, and admist all the questions other people like me put up, someone offers their wisdom. Everyone gets answers or a new perspective. How wonderful is that.

I am really touched. It is a small act of kindness but that which means so much. I dont think I say it out often but I am learning to express gratitute for the good things. And this Im truly grateful for!

As I asked Yi all these Q's that I typed under Q and Q(2), and the perspectives I got from Rosada and Mike, I feel Yi is telling me:

A date starts off without having a face, infact we unconsciously put our best foot forward. Oh the thrills of the adrenalin rush after a date has gone so smoothly and seems so perfect. I gave it a perfect expression (hex 22) but that has to meet the twists and turns and reality of life (hex 29).
So probably what I feel is a very beautiful picture that I made up in my imagination. Where are we headed to I asked. I barely know this person and already dreaming of the future! So..maybe what Im afraid of is being lonely.

Next I asked "Is he the one". Dear god, after ONE meeting!!! maybe I think I'll never meet nice guys or one as nice as this. Hmm. Like Rosada inferred, it's too early to be asking this! (53.1) I got (53.5 and 53.6). Maybe if I allowed it time to evolve and show itself for what it is, it could be beautiful. If not all I am putting myself up for is hurt (36). Asking if he's the one, wanting to know where this is gonna lead. Gees Im SO afraid of being hurt!!!

Then I asked why he didnt call me back as he said he would. See I was returning his call that I missed and when he snswered he was cooking and halfway thru the conversation he said his battery was running flat and that he would call me back. Which he of course never did. Ouch. Did I really need to have asked Yi why he didnt call. Wasnt it plain obvious that a person only calls back if they are interested?!!!
I got 16.4-->2
I still dont know quite how to interpret that. Rosada said maybe Im not the only one who finds him uplifting. Hmm. Met him at a dating website. Maybe there are others he's more interested in. Anyways I think with Hex2 it's about letting him take the lead and work in a supporting position.

A day later he was one of the recipients of sms's when I was texting my friends and family at 12 midnite on NYE. He rang me back right after getting the sms and apologized for having not replied to my email (which was his purpose of calling me up previously, the call that I missed) and not calling me back the previous day. I got the feeling that he was sincerely apologising and he wished that I get everything I wanted in this New Year. I just get the feeling he is a very nice guy but not into me the way I am into him.

I went on to ask Yi about the reality of our connection. This is what I gather after Mike's words. I dont want to place a demand that he's to be more than a friend. Every human has a right to choose. He has a right to say no. I should respect that. I should take responsibility for the way I have felt and feel I dont want to feel like this anymore. Inner strength and understanding has evolved from this.

With my intense desire for things to work out between me and this guy I could have gone after him with all the passion in the world. But where would that have led me to? just pain and sadness in the long run, when even I would know that ours getting together was not a 50-50 desire.

So I simply let go. Trust this is the best way things are to work out. i may or may not hear from him, but that's not a question anymore.
 

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Next I asked "Is he the one". Dear god, after ONE meeting!!! maybe I think I'll never meet nice guys or one as nice as this. Hmm. Like Rosada inferred, it's too early to be asking this! (53.1) I got (53.5 and 53.6).

The obvious answer to this is: yes, he's the one. 53's about taking things slowly to a higher level, and there's a subtext about a life partner as well, and 53.5 and 53.6 are sort of saying 'nothing can stop this, plus it's got a higher purpose'. Not only that, but 53.5.6 takes you back to Hex 15 again, which is always the best news you can get from the Yi.

My only disclaimer on this one is that personally, I don't believe that there is only ONE for anybody on this planet. I think there are possibly 50 or 100 or even 1000 ONES, but the problem is meeting them and recognizing them for what they are. It looks like you've connected with one. Good luck with it.
 

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Hmm..I got 53(1,5,6)>36 when I asked if he's the one.

Isnt that bad?

maybe Dobro thought I got 53(5,6)>15?
 
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It gives me the impression of two people who are too different.
Him ("the young son") at the very beginning of the journey.
You having waited too long, and flying really high.
Sounds like different stages of the 'journey' towards marriage.
The fact that the situation departs from 'marriage' and is heading
towards hurt (36), does not bode very well i'm afraid....
 

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Hmm..I got 53(1,5,6)>36 when I asked if he's the one.

Isnt that bad?

maybe Dobro thought I got 53(5,6)>15?

Dobro did indeed think that.

My take on 53..1.5.6>36 isn't all that different from what I said before because the overall meaning of 53 stays the same, and the individual lines are all good. As for 36, it doesn't mean 'injury and hurt' so much as 'hiding away from injury and hurt'. So in answer to the question 'is he the one', 53.1.5.6>36 might be saying: "Take it slowly and gradually, one step at a time, and don't reveal too much of yourself right now, so that you don't get hurt."

See, when you draw a result from the Yi, it can mean either:

* the way things are now and the way they're headed

* the way you can usefully deal with the way things are right now

So, 'gradual advance that knows how to keep its head down' is the general meaning of what you've drawn. Okay. So...how do you feel about that? Does it feel like it's a description of how things are in this case, or does it feel more like a prescription for how to deal with it? Description, or prescription? I like that lol.
 

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Description or prescription ey? ;-)

I was thinking that I was over my ex and looking forward to the future. I dont love him the way I once did. I have had no contact for abt a year and I took that as Im over it! After 4 years post break up of agony and trying EVERYTHING to make him feel the way I did.. woohoo!

Woohoo - Not.

Cos yesterday I stumbled upon the fact that he finally is with a girl, a fact he has publicly announced. The guy who didnt want any commitment, now in one. And they have been holidaying together, something I wished we did but at the time he was against. I just felt like my mind shutdown. Tears flowed. I cried. Not knowing why!!! Was I crying for a lost love, the unexpected confrontation with myself that he is happy and moved on and I have no one. I simply cried. Broke down.

Then from nowhere Hex 36 came into mind. Right. I was in danger - not from my present or future but from my past. "This is the time to begin something new if you can accept the work and lonliness involved in being out there all by yourself. Your deliverance is already being prepared. It can begin a new time" part of Stephen Karcher's Symbols of Love Hex 36

When i drew 53 (1.5.6) maybe this was the adversity I had to face that changing line 1 referred to?

Here I was wanting to know if this new guy was the one, feeling the first blush of love, without realising there are chords with my ex that i have not cut yet....

"Is he the one" isnt simply about him being the one, it's also to do with my desire for marriage, and the msg I ultimately got was to clear out the old so the new can come in.

Me thinks Yi is a superb doctor and that this is a descripton of a prescription...haha

I was headed for danger (53.1). But the other changing lines (53.5.6) tell me how beautiful it'll be with 'the one'.

And I asked the reality of the connection between the guy I presently met and me. I got 15(1.4.5.6)->13. It seemed gd enough for alarm bells not to ring and go with the flow.

I know not where I'll end up with P, heck I havent even heard back frm the guy yet, but I'll let it go and see how things evolve and not push it.

I trust the future brings me happiness regardless :)
 

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