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Quality of treatment 37.6>63

Florafauna

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As I have written here before, I am concerned with understanding simple interactions with people. I've had a lot of surreal things happen while interacting with others, since I was young, that always left me curious about why it happened and how I could do better next time. My demeanor is always soft, gentle, open, I'm always pleasant and honest with others. I think others believe this translates to be being a pushover, and while I will go out of my way to please others, like anyone else, I have boundaries, which I state firmly and gently.
I was a private music teacher for 15 years in an suburban, high class community, and I left this community 7 years ago to start an herb farm/apothecary. I had a partner who did all the marketing, selling, customer service. My focus was solely on planning, growing and making medicine. So, I had very little contact with the outside world. Now, in the last year and a half, I have come back into the world, in a new community, seemingly like coming out from under a rock. I have very few contacts or long term relationships. It seems like everywhere I go, people are cold towards me. I understand, I'm a newcomer. But it just seems that people are just plain mean to me, at the store, at the dentist, at community events, strangers at the park or beach. So i wanted to know about my own approach to others, if somehow I am causing this, if I am so out of touch with the times.
To begin, I asked "what is the quality of my treatment of others?"
Answer: 37.6>63
Yes, I believe I treat everyone like family. Like we are all in this home together, and I think I have the hierarchy correct. Respect and obedience for elders, and equality for equals. I have not been in a position to take the lead, or have authority, except in my own decisions about what I do withy own body.
Line 6 with truth and confidence like authority. In the end good fortune.
This is very much how I perceive myself from my perspective, and how I naturally believe what others extend to me as well. Is that how others perceive me? Is that their truth I'm perceiving in cold interactions?

63 already across. Calm and settled describes me to a "t". This is my natural demeanor, despite what's going on around me. I never freak out or demand any other treatment than what I'm getting, I feel it is a test, a lesson. I'm always centered and balanced. Or so I think. I honor the spiritual medicine plants that can flourish and thrive in adverse and even toxic environment.
 

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I am .... Or so I think ....
Or, is there a bit of Confirmation Bias at work here: the tendency to interpret new evidence as confirmation of one's existing beliefs or theories.

Which might lead to ... Hex. 63 .... “confused at the end”.
 

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Or, is there a bit of Confirmation Bias at work here: the tendency to interpret new evidence as confirmation of one's existing beliefs or theories.

Which might lead to ... Hex. 63 .... “confused at the end”.
Yes, I can see how my unmovable, calm balanced state is also in a way stubborn to the movement of flow. Can be an obstacle to interactions. So my thinking I'm always fair can also be hugely unfair. Sticking to principle isn't always lenient towards others. I get it, or so I think. I will always be learning and refining, that is life. I do want to grow, and belong, so I will keep the confirmation bias in mind. And accept differences as healthy, not to be confused with a conflict I'm causing. People pleasing is not the same as bridge building, that is the skill I'd love to learn.
 

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