Query regarding choice

[nicolab2010]

Excuse the background, but it's necessary. I left the father of my children over 2 years ago as his behaviour was, over a period of years mean, aggressive and irrational (he was later sectioned) and showed now sign of changing just getting worse. I returned to my home country for 3 months, then my children were due to go on holiday with their paternal grandparents & father. I took them to the airport to meet their grandmother for the ski holiday and they never came back - the french family enacted the hague convention & we are still in court to this day. The initial court case declared the children french and they have lived there for 2 years, I am allowed holidays. Their french family requested that the children go skiing several months ago and would swap a week. I requested the extra week at christmas holidays which they refused. They have gone ahead and booked a ski holiday in the time that is due to be spent with me, and are telling the children that they are going, when they are not due to - they are getting the children to ask me to let them go. I am not adverse to the children skiing, HOWEVER....this is total manipulation. I risk either the french family manipulating the children to make it look like I am a "baddie" and the kids missing out on their yearly ski (I cannot afford to take them). Any advice welcome on my reading, I feel very dilemmaed and pressured.
My reading is:
Should i let the children go skiing

Your reading resulted in the following hexagrams:

changing to
15 23
Hexagram 15, Integrity



Key Questions

What is the simple reality?
How might you return to a state of balance?
What if it didn’t all depend on you?

Oracle

‘Integrity creates success.
A noble one completes it.’

To experience Integrity is like coming face to face with your real self – plain, simple and unadorned. To have Integrity is to be whole, at one with yourself and with reality. It means being honest about your own capacities, holding yourself in creative balance with your world and not exaggerating the importance of your role.

These qualities enable the noble one to bring whatever work presents itself to completion. Since she is not overly full of herself, she has space for the real world; she isn’t hampered by an excess or by a lack of confidence. Since she isn’t caught up in a personal story, and doesn’t identify her work with her worth, she is free to do what needs to be done and move on.

Image

‘In the centre of the earth there is a mountain: Integrity.
A noble one reduces what is too much and increases what is diminished.
Weighing things up to even out their distribution.’

Sequence

Integrity follows from Hexagram 14, Great Possession:
‘Great possession means being incapable of arrogance, and so Integrity follows.’

Pair

Integrity forms a pair with Hexagram 16, Enthusiasm:
‘Integrity takes itself lightly; Enthusiasm is careless.’

Changing Lines

Line 3

‘Toiling with integrity,
A noble one completes it.
Good fortune.’

Line 6

‘The call of integrity.
Fruitful to use this to mobilize the army,
And bring order to city and state.’


Hexagram 23, Stripping Away



Key Questions

What has worn out?
Is there a less painful way to let this go?
What is underneath the surface?

Oracle

‘Stripping away.
Fruitless to have a direction to go.’

The surfaces are cut and sliced away; the old and unviable is stripped back to expose the living core. This inevitable, natural process often feels like a flaying: the more you have invested of yourself in these old things, the more painful it will be.

It’s no good, at such times, to imagine the future and make plans. You need to bring your energy back to the centre and honour the process: this is a time to be transformed, not to act. Moreover, until the old is so utterly stripped from you that you have no choice but to think in new ways, you will only be able to re-create the old patterns.

Image

‘Mountain rests on the earth: Stripping Away.
The heights are generous, and there are tranquil homes below.’

Sequence

Stripping Away follows from Hexagram 22, Beauty:
‘Involved in brightening the appearance; this means success will be truly exhausted, and so Stripping Away follows.’

Pair

Stripping Away forms a pair with Hexagram 24, Returning:
‘Stripping away: rotten. Returning: turnaround.’

 

[nicolab2010]

Should i let the children go skiing

Your reading resulted in the following hexagrams:

changing to
15 23
Hexagram 15, Integrity



Key Questions

What is the simple reality?
How might you return to a state of balance?
What if it didn’t all depend on you?

Oracle

‘Integrity creates success.
A noble one completes it.’

To experience Integrity is like coming face to face with your real self – plain, simple and unadorned. To have Integrity is to be whole, at one with yourself and with reality. It means being honest about your own capacities, holding yourself in creative balance with your world and not exaggerating the importance of your role.

These qualities enable the noble one to bring whatever work presents itself to completion. Since she is not overly full of herself, she has space for the real world; she isn’t hampered by an excess or by a lack of confidence. Since she isn’t caught up in a personal story, and doesn’t identify her work with her worth, she is free to do what needs to be done and move on.

Image

‘In the centre of the earth there is a mountain: Integrity.
A noble one reduces what is too much and increases what is diminished.
Weighing things up to even out their distribution.’

Sequence

Integrity follows from Hexagram 14, Great Possession:
‘Great possession means being incapable of arrogance, and so Integrity follows.’

Pair

Integrity forms a pair with Hexagram 16, Enthusiasm:
‘Integrity takes itself lightly; Enthusiasm is careless.’

Changing Lines

Line 3

‘Toiling with integrity,
A noble one completes it.
Good fortune.’

Line 6

‘The call of integrity.
Fruitful to use this to mobilize the army,
And bring order to city and state.’


Hexagram 23, Stripping Away



Key Questions

What has worn out?
Is there a less painful way to let this go?
What is underneath the surface?

Oracle

‘Stripping away.
Fruitless to have a direction to go.’

The surfaces are cut and sliced away; the old and unviable is stripped back to expose the living core. This inevitable, natural process often feels like a flaying: the more you have invested of yourself in these old things, the more painful it will be.

It’s no good, at such times, to imagine the future and make plans. You need to bring your energy back to the centre and honour the process: this is a time to be transformed, not to act. Moreover, until the old is so utterly stripped from you that you have no choice but to think in new ways, you will only be able to re-create the old patterns.

Image

‘Mountain rests on the earth: Stripping Away.
The heights are generous, and there are tranquil homes below.’

Sequence

Stripping Away follows from Hexagram 22, Beauty:
‘Involved in brightening the appearance; this means success will be truly exhausted, and so Stripping Away follows.’

Pair

Stripping Away forms a pair with Hexagram 24, Returning:
‘Stripping away: rotten. Returning: turnaround.’