Question about approach

[Bree60]

I asked the Sage a question about what I need to know about myself in relationship to another person. I got #45 Gathering together (change at lines 1,2,3) changing to 43 Break-through. Both of these seems to refer to leadership in a group situation. I'm confused about how to interpret this...is the reading really about an intimate one-on-one relationship, or is it answering another question that may be more urgent? Can anyone shed insight?

 

[blue_angel]

43 there's a breakthrough, 45 can refer to a group with common interests. The lines all seem to describe a story of 2 people kept apart by others, maybe everyone doesn't agree this is a healthy relationship. Could just refer to mixed emotions amongst these two people. But it seems through sincerity, and balance, these two people naturally belong together, and will find their way back to each other. Was there some sort of misunderstanding maybe? Where one doesn't really get the other? Or perhaps deep inside there's another on your mind, and this person is merely a distraction?

Just seems some reflection needs to be done. Once you are sure, sincere, and balanced, you'll move in the direction towards the one you have a natural connection with. Then there may be some small, minor regret but all will be well again.

 

[sooo]

is the reading really about an intimate one-on-one relationship, or is it answering another question that may be more urgent?

This always is a question worth asking, but I always apply the answer to my original question first. Sometimes the fit isn't very clear, and we can more easily apply it to something else, but that doesn't mean it's necessarily as Yi intended, though sometimes it may be. Sometimes Yi speaks to the reason I ask the question in the first place: insecurity, fear, pettiness, etc. But the benefit of the doubt should at least be applied to our question first, I think.

The general impressions I get from your answers are that there's nothing really wrong, unless your association winds up being an occasion to cry on one another's shoulders, and that's not exactly a great way to hit it off. But then neither is oppressing feelings or words. Speaking out your truth is a vital part of getting it on with someone important to you, and likewise for the other person. Just don't let it become a whine fest.