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Lucky me all of a sudden it is raining what appears to be 'decent' men!

I guy asked me out to dinner when I was trying to establish a relationship with the now long gone truck driver but I said no cause I was hoping for a relationship with the truck driver guy.

Anyway last night he asked me out to dinner again and this time I said yes.

I quite like him but I don't have that real overwhelming chemistry feeling about him but yeah I just like him - not sure how to explain that.

Anyway I asked what can I expect if I pursue a relationship with him Hex22.1.4.6>62
It sounds quite sweet which that is my feeling about our connection so far but I am wondering really about Hex 62.


Just thought I would also ask how ready am I for a new relationship Hex 16.4.6>23

Hex 23 I feel may have already happened in regard to relationship and line 4 looks good but then line 6 looks like I might change my mind.

thku
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Lucky me all of a sudden it is raining what appears to be 'decent' men!

I guy asked me out to dinner when I was trying to establish a relationship with the now long gone truck driver but I said no cause I was hoping for a relationship with the truck driver guy.

Anyway last night he asked me out to dinner again and this time I said yes.

I quite like him but I don't have that real overwhelming chemistry feeling about him but yeah I just like him - not sure how to explain that.

Anyway I asked what can I expect if I pursue a relationship with him Hex22.1.4.6>62
It sounds quite sweet which that is my feeling about our connection so far but I am wondering really about Hex 62.


Just thought I would also ask how ready am I for a new relationship Hex 16.4.6>23
Hex 23 I feel may have already happened in regard to relationship and line 4 looks good but then line 6 looks like I might change my mind.

thku
Melissa xx
My read on this is that the fellow you're out with now has a more "acceptable" or "upmarket" exterior -- if you can use those words to describe a person -- than the truck driver. But you're going to pine for plain and simple and somebody you feel more rapport with. There's nothing at all wrong with this man, but you can't just let your hair down and be yourself, which is essential to you -- or anybody.

This will go along for a bit and isn't a bad thing, but it's not the ultimate either.

Whether you are ready for another relationship, well I'd read that it depends on whether another relationship is there, is forthcoming. Something has to "click" and you need to feel inspired, like it's the right thing. It's not so much a thought process as a feeling one. It's not something you can conjure even if it does rain men. The right guy has to be among them -- and that you will recognise in a heartbeat. Hex 23 would say to me that the ground is prepared for something new, there's nothing in the way of that. There just has to be that inspiring moment and person at the same time.
 

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It all depends on what you want with this man. Are you searching for love or marriage? 22 is only slightly good, so to speak, because it is all about a wedding and the Yi is very reserved and cautious with respect to marriage in general. So, this connection has possibilities, but it would only work if you give up any high standard for what you want. Thus, of course, you won't. So, we get 62, which really says that the two of you are not very compatible and that one of you will probably will have a change of heart. As for 16.4 indicates that it is good for you to gather people around you and the entire hexagram indicates that you are ready. Nevertheless, there are very great problems, because the ensuing gua, 23, is that something will break you up if love is what is sought, and a bad match that cannot hold over time if marriage is what you want. Thus, the Yi warns you and anyone else you want to have to act unselfishly, as well as to regard the emotions of the other. If not, then the whole thing will end in failure.
 
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Tks arabella and icastes - damn! I want to meet 'the one' although there is no hurry it would be nice. But to have one romantic interest and then another I don't like that Damn!xx
 

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:rofl: yup that soundtrack has played in my brain each time i saw the title of this thread


infact most threads automatically get supplied by a soundtrack by my brain...its a facility i can't seem to switch to 'off'
 

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I have to hand it to you Melissa, credit where its due, you don't hang about do you

One truck driver dismissed....bring on the next candidate :rofl:






just kidding

seriously though relationship readings can be so temporary...you hardly know him yet do you so its unsuprising you get 22...that may change. If I were you I'd take it as it comes, enjoy what you can and see where it goes. 22 has to be fun doesn't it ..

......meanwhile the guys in Australia had better watch out :D
 
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Hey thks topal!!! And trojan after all the serious, emotionally attatched bs I have gone on with in regards to men over the last months or more I am actually hoping to really enjoy this one and have fun and if it turns into something deeper then it does. But no you are right I was disappointed about the truck driver but..... what the hell.....next!....Girls Just Wanna Have Fun and I have done enough crying over men to last me the rest of my life time.
 
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Oh dear - looks like maybe the inevitable has happened
'There's nothing at all wrong with this man, but you can't just let your hair down and be yourself, which is essential to you -- or anybody.'

So we like each other so very much and there is a lot going for this relationship but.........different lifestyles. I rely on peacefulness in my life and do not rely on outside stimuli(momentary pleasures) for nourishment.
He on the other hand does not appear to have very much peace within and has a lot of inner dialogue going on in his head as well as using things that give momentary pleasure.

So I asked how will our lifestyles merge - Hex 58.2.4>3

So yes Hex 3 difficulty at the beginning and Hex 58 line 2 and 4 to me reads as talking and discussing these differences will lead to still following what is right for our own individuality but comprising willingly within the parameters of each others differences.

We had a small conflict last night which made me think about what is going on. So we are meeting today to discuss if and how we can work together to maintain a intimate and healthy relationship.

I know it is very early in the relationship but I seem to have a habit of seeing possible conflicts in relationships straight away and not overlooking things because of the chemistry - Gene, I think, once commented to me about how women seem to allow the chemistry to take over clear thinking so I am trying to do my best.
I guess that's why the truck driver was here one day and gone the next......

thks for further interpretations and or confirmation I am on the right track with this reading. xx
 

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Oh dear - looks like maybe the inevitable has happened
'There's nothing at all wrong with this man, but you can't just let your hair down and be yourself, which is essential to you -- or anybody.'

So we like each other so very much and there is a lot going for this relationship but.........different lifestyles. I rely on peacefulness in my life and do not rely on outside stimuli(momentary pleasures) for nourishment.
He on the other hand does not appear to have very much peace within and has a lot of inner dialogue going on in his head as well as using things that give momentary pleasure.

So I asked how will our lifestyles merge - Hex 58.2.4>3

So yes Hex 3 difficulty at the beginning and Hex 58 line 2 and 4 to me reads as talking and discussing these differences will lead to still following what is right for our own individuality but comprising willingly within the parameters of each others differences.

We had a small conflict last night which made me think about what is going on. So we are meeting today to discuss if and how we can work together to maintain a intimate and healthy relationship.
its all very intense isn't it...discussions at this early stage about a 'healthy' relationship....phew. I can't understand why you can't just hang out together and see how it goes. It can't be fixed this early....You don't even begin to know someone till after about 3 mnths and then you go by what you intuit and feel as well as what you think. Thats my opinion...no the reading...well actually Hex 3 says its way to early to be making a direction, things are just beginning and you are talking about it and weighing it up (58.2.4) I think all Yi has done is give you a picture of what you are doing


I know it is very early in the relationship but I seem to have a habit of seeing possible conflicts in relationships straight away and not overlooking things because of the chemistry - Gene, I think, once commented to me about how women seem to allow the chemistry to take over clear thinking so I am trying to do my best.
I guess that's why the truck driver was here one day and gone the next......

thks for further interpretations and or confirmation I am on the right track with this reading. xx
LOL I think where 'chemistry' over riding thinking is concerned men have the edge.

maybe all this worrying stems from wanting to ascertain if he fits the role you want to give to the man in your life. I don't think theres any way to tell other than by continuing to hang out with him and talk to him...but don't make the mistake of believing at this early stage what he says about himself. he will obviously present himself as he thinks you want to see him....


I don't think you can rush the 'getting to know you ' stage. Maybe you are trying to pre empt it.

Maybe you have less inner peace than you think and maybe he has more than you think.....our self perceptions can be way off too.


I think the reading is quite encouraging....and I think this can be fun, so I think you should just keep on keeping on. You may get to like some of his 'momentary pleasures' and he may get to like some of your inner peace. You don't have to live together or totally merge lifestyles......do you ?
 
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Thku trojan it has all been a bit intense and you are probably right we need to just hang out and see. He had become a bit obsessive instead of trusting. He is no oil painting and 9 years older than me so he just kept obsessing about why I would want to be with him and that seemingly made him say or do insecure things so that really had a lot to do with what our 'discussion' was about.
He then told me he suffers from anxiety generally although he is very confident in his job and about other things in his life. He hasn't had a partner for a number of years and said that he had resigned himself to the fact he would spend the rest of his life on his own and then I come along and turn his World upside down. I have known him for a while to chat to and say hello.
Our lifestyles are different in ways like he likes constant stimulation likes the sound of tv or having people constantly around him, doesn't think about what he nourishes himself with and I can't stand constant noise, would rather sit in the garden watching and listening to nature and I am very aware of what I nourish myself with.
I said to him what you think is right for you is right for you but It's not necessarily right for me and vice a versa but said there is nothing wrong with that. Anyway it just makes you think about how you conduct your life so we've just been talking about that.
The discussion made a huge difference and I sorta think there is a lot more depth to this guy than he's showing so I am very interested in getting to know him further. I am going away with a girlfriend for a couple of days so it will give us a break from the intensity of it cause he only lives about 10kms away which makes it easy to keep seeing each other everyday.
Not sure how to approach the anxiety thing with him but I guess it will just become obvious what it's about as we go along. have a lovely day xx
 
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So as the time has passed - the relationship is best of all 'nice' and enjoyable but not anything to rave about. He has a lot of past stuff to deal with before he can really be in a great relationship and although I enjoy him I sort of feel I don't want to be in a heavily committed relationship. I don't know if that is because I don't have strong feelings for him or I had really just begun to enjoy my life after the long haul it has taken for me to get over the end of my marriage.
Anyway I asked what is the potential of this relationship Hex 17.1.3.4>39.

So I read this as things have been kinda limping along a bit between us and line 2 as ‘Bound to the mature man, Letting the small child go.
He has been acting fairly immature on the emotional level.........
but not sure about the rest.

thks for your help as always
Liss xx
 

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I would read the changing lines in 17 more or less consistently to say you shouldn't abandon your own needs and keep the lines open because there is someone more suitable for you. If you are closing off other chances by being completely preoccupied with the viability of this connection you could miss what's coming along the road -- which would be a shame.
 
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Thks arabella - what you have said is good cause that is what I am hoping. No he's not 'the one' and I am not closing off any others coming in. This relationship with him has definitely been a good insight into just how far I have come in myself. As much as I like this guy I am not abandoning my own needs for him in anyway and I think it will just wind down of it's own accord and we will remain friends. We move in the same circle and live in a smallish community so I believe it will be fine.
I believe he is a man of integrity. xx
 

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"Lucky me all of a sudden it is raining what appears to be 'decent' men!"

LOL ... If I were you, I would get outside and dance in those rain-showers!!!

Woowhoo ... You go girl!!

Enjoy in joy ...
 
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Yes ace I am trying to do just that and I am certainly enjoying the attention I am getting. Unfortunately this present guy is extremely possessive so that is taking the fun out of just enjoying his company.
We share mutual friends and social haunts but if we are there at the same time he wants me perpetually by his side..........blah! xx
 

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