Readings for a very personal relationship

[foreverthine]

I don't know how to start this thread because I feel as though everyone here has been so supportive of my readings already. Yet I seem to be at a loss and my heart is not providing the right kind of guidance for a relationship that seems very important to me. I have been involved with someone off and on for the better part of 3 months. My first readings about a long-term relationship with this person was 51.1.2 with the outcome of 23.5. It has been a rocky road with both intense closeness followed by intense separation. I have asked a few clarifying questions this morning because from this point and after some events this weekend that were wonderful and terrifying at the same time I feel the relationship can go in several directions. I am torn between wanting to explore more or leaving it altogether despite the energy I have invested in it up until this point.

1. What is best for me here: i ching hex 57.4
2. How should I proceed: 57.4
3. How do I 57.4: 6.5
4. What does he want from me: 16.3
5. How should I feel about him: 17.5
6. How does he feel about me: 59 (59 in what way: 8)

I think I understand 57.4 and at the same time I don't know how to go about it. He is 11 years younger than I am and recently asked if I was emotionally available to him and if he could lean on me. I don't know if his words were genuine or if he was just asking me because he doesn't know where I stand. I haven't told him what I've wanted from things and up until now the relationship has been mostly physical although we've both made attempts to turn it into something more. The truth is, I don't know what I want. I have pretty much surrendered to the physical aspect so perhaps that is all there is. I don't know. We make a good team when we work together - a comment he made. He talks a lot and I listen, but it takes me several days to process. Then, I feel as though too much time passes for my response to his words to mean anything. The truth is, I loved him from the moment I met him (not in love, just general love and acceptance). Any insights would be welcome.

 

[juaneros]

Hi again. 57.4 talks about remorse/aversion going away... so whatever is holding you back will pass away, everything is temporary, what ever you feel now you won't feel as time passes by, and when that happens it will be easier for you to take action. What's the best way for it to go away, 6.5... by communicating with this person, what is better for a relationship than talking about where a relationship is heading, or if it is not heading no where for you and you want it to be casual then let it be, it depends on you if you want it to progress, the same for him, it takes two to tango, right? 16.3 of what he wants from you, maybe this has to do more of what he thinks of you, hesitating a bit much, maybe what he wants is for you to seize the moment, to take action. Well, the question of how you should feel about him... well that is definitely your choice, I Ching just reminds you to be benevolent with 17.5. What does he feel about you... 59, well, because you also got 8 with this, could it probably mean that this union with you is a bit watered down for him? Maybe he really wants more. Anyhow,I think your answers are pretty interesting but it's always your interpretation that counts the most Good luck with it!

 

[foreverthine]

Juaneros: I can not tell you how grateful I am for the response. What do you mean: watered down?

I have hesitated and for many reasons.

When we were together before he ran in the other direction and so we didn't see each other for six weeks until recently. I did bring that up to him (the running) this past weekend to which he said he would not do that again. But it appears he has. I asked how to proceed and I received 49.5 - does that mean go with the changes underway or give him an ultimatum that we either become official or go our separate ways?

I asked if we would see each other next weekend and I got 4.6. Coupled with the 49.5 I'd say I will need to ask him to make a decision. I refuse to convince anyone they should be with another person. Our own hearts should always dictate who and what we decide to join with.

Many thanks again as I try to navigate this. I think it comes down to staying or leaving, which is also perhaps the 49.5.

 

[juaneros]

Hi again, sorry for the late reply, just needed to catch up on old posts. Hmmm... well I was thinking about 59 again and 8 that you got on how he feels about you or maybe the relationship, maybe it's all dissolving for him, but it's hard to interpret bcs it has to do with his feelings, maybe he is wanting that or maybe he is just feeling that, well we can't know other's feelings totally. Anyhow some days have passed so maybe something happened already. Well, I think 49.5 is total revolution on the way you are facing this relationship, maybe you are finally getting it, and it will totally change you, and of course for the better. I think the tiger animal mentioned is a good animal to be like, nobody wants to mess with a tiger, hehe. And if you are getting a lot of 4s, well maybe this is a real learning experience for you overall, and that is a good thing for later relationships. Anyhow, you're welcome... hope all is well after this weekend.

 

[foreverthine]

Thank you, again. I was thinking on Hex 59 and 8 as well and came up with the conclusion that the relationship was dissolving. I've also been thinking about what I want from him and the answer I keep coming up with is absolutely nothing. I am not sure if I am in 49.5 right now although I had a flash of insight the other morning that knocked my senses back into me. I hate that I came across as watered down because that is not my personality. Many thanks for your replies. Nothing more has happened this weekend so I am going to focus more on the present!

 

[foreverthine]

So I've been thinking, thinking, thinking about 49.5 and it finally dawned on me ... Set the boundary!! It may be too late with this one, but it's never too late for the next. Many thanks ... Also, what helped me realize this was, in another forum post on here (not mine) someone mentioned the book Catch Him and Keep Him. So, I signed on to receive his newsletters and downloaded one of his programs, which I've been listening to this week. Then the answer hit me!