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rodaki

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Hello everyone,

Very new here, even though not so new with the i-ching . . It's been 6 years that i'm using it (with long intervals in between) but often held back from totally embracing the answers. I usually tend to see various ways of interpreting the hexagrams thus not recognizing which one is the most correspondent to my situation.
This time it is a romantic issue that got me into making questions. Two weeks ago went to a concert with some friends and by the end of the night ended up exchanging phone numbers with the singer. I had no intention of getting involved, recently broke up from an important 4 year long relationship so didn't really think about the next guy. This was a pleasant surprise then, mostly since it came about so harmoniously (almost like getting into a kind of dance) but since then has turned complicated.
The first thing was that it took us some time to actually arrange a meeting (like both of us really resisted but still wanted to meet). We went out to a place called "The Green Elephant", were a bit awkward, i turned it into enthusiastic talk, he got looser after a while. laughed a lot but kept distances. We left saying we would meet again.
The next day we exchanged messages, caring but still distant. The weirdness really begun the following night when one of my flatmates met him (accidentally? so she says) in a club, danced, drank and ended up sleeping over at his place (not with him though) because she couldn't get back. The same morning, still ignorant of the situation, sent him a message with info he might be interested in but got no response. Since then neither me nor her have heard from him (she is in a relationship but not sure where it's heading and really into this singer). Tomorrow night (exactly 2 weeks after the 1st concert) they are playing again. We all got emails about it from their mailing list but no personal invitations.
All this set me off in a series of questions:
1) Why did this turn into such a knotty situation? 16.4 to 2
2)Will he call me? 16
3)What is the dynamics between us? 55.1.6 to 56
4)is it wiser to not go in the concert? 55.2.4.5 to 5 (note: I have a thing with 5, i think it is a wining number for me)
5)What will happen if i go? 20.6 to 8
6)Would an involvement with him be positive in my life? 16.1.3 to 55

the first 2 questions I couldn't really grasp, the 3rd for me showed that if i wanted sth i had to move, 4th that i had to let him make the 1st move, 5th was clear that if i moved we would get together emotionally, but the 6th really got me confused:
Obviously i am excited and enthusiastic about him but if i keep on with this approach no good is coming in any way (1) but at the same time, (line 3) that I should be inspired, show initiative and not be slow in going on. The 2 changing lines seem completely contradictory to me, whereas the relating 55 could be both positive (no fear) but also negative (decline to come).
(also in asking 'what will happen if i go to the concert but not with my flatmates' i got 1.4.5.6 to 11)

Sorry if i tired you with my long post but I really need to hear sth coming from a different point of view on all this!!
Thnx for your patience . .

rodaki
 

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Hi twilight,
thnx for taking the time. Truth is, not another sackload coming across, and i probably wouldn't go off into this one either if the first answer wasn't so intriguing(h 16); it brought together so many elements of what was my meeting with him (the music, dancing, the symbol of the elephant with it's connotations) that made resulting 2 pointing towards sth more than i first thought (nice but not working).
Anyway, I didn't want to bog down the whole thing and I do see how most answers form together an organic whole but I wanted some insight on the recurrence of the two hex. 16 and 55 in the context of the rest
I do tend however to make 'sackloads' -i'd call them 'flocks'- of questions if the first answer i get contradicts my sense of the situation. I won't go off and make all overnight (this one took 2 weeks to get to that point) but i will get back to the subject if there is an aspect that keeps me wondering and then stop questioning altogether and try to see the pattern that comes out of them,the direction they are taking.
Obviously in this case the direction is 16, 55 with both negative and positive tendencies and that's why I decided to ask advice
I don't know what people here think of making groups of questions rather than single ones, if you think it is some form of transgression or not, but I'd love to hear your say

cheers!
 

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Just an observation: You met at a place called the Green Elephant, and scholars tell us that the text of Hex 16 is about an elephant. Quite an interesting coincidence.

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Hi Tony L,

that was my thought exactly . . and then I got to thinking how we met at a concert and how our flirting was almost not conscious, like it was mostly a corporeal thinking that brought us side by side in a dance like manner of gestural give and take (LiSe translates: "The ancient kings composed music, honored virtue, with dancers worshipped the Lord on High") that made me go back and ask all these questions
Actually for the past 1 year I have been having often instances of recurring 'themes', or words, or objects. Sometimes it is really like certain periods have themes. Some of them I have tried incorporating in my work (I do interdisciplinary research in humanities), but most of them go by without me understanding what they stood for. I still haven't asked the i-ching about it because i feel that there are questions that need to grow before being asked, they are not available just for any time . .
Also have been running into lot's of synchronicity and strange coincidences . . Feels like I'm tapping into a huge reserve but not quite sure how to handle it. So if someone wiser and more experienced would be willing to give suggestions about any of the above, I'm all ears!! :)

Dora
 

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