Recurring dream, to continue or terminate?

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Hi hi
I had a recurring dream 3rd already. It's about me getting angry with my baby sitter/carer to my 9 months baby. In the first 2 dreams, she was very rude and disrespectful even after doing something wrong. And I was so angry and threatened tk send her back. In the latest dream 2 days ago, she passed something to my husband but kept holding his hand and stroke it.

So I asked I Ching whether why I kept having this recurring dream and I got unchanging hex 3.
Then I ask whether I should let her finish contract which is another year before sending her back, and I got hex 44 with changing line 1.

How do I interpret it?

My next question is should I replace her now and I had hex 36 with changing lines 1,2,4,5. Which then changes to hex 28.

Wow! I don't know what I Ching trying to say?

 

[free]

Is Hex 47 foreboding? A bad omen?

Hello,

I just asked this question that if I continue to let her finish her contract which left a year, how will it affect my family?

I got unchanging 47. Exhaustion, stiffling.

Does this mean exhaustion for my family or exhaustion for her? She has to look after 4 children aged 11yrs, 8yrs, 6yrs and 9 months.

Too tired for her? She felt stiffling?

Oh... someone please just drop a line to enlighten me please.

Thank-you anyone for any replies:bows:

 

[Trojina]

are you basing your decision about this woman entirely on a dream interpretation via the I Ching ?

that wouldn't seem fair to comment really...it is her livelihood at stake and your dream could be all about you. Maybe you feel you are not a good parent and can't consciously admit these feelings so in your dream place all the anxieties onto her.

Maybe shes not good with the kids, maybe she is coming on to your husband, I don't know, you don't seem to know, but surely its not fair to sack her without some evidence of either neglect of your kids or attempted seduction of your husband

I think the best thing to do is watch her and talk to her, talk to the kids, how do they feel about her You only dreamed she was very rude....she hasn't actually been rude has she ?


I'm not the most unbiased person to respond since I find women always find fault with those they employ to care for their children and I always think well why not care for them yourself and keep the pay you pay them. I'm sure its more complicated than that but the child carer is not a package you can 'send back ' because of a dream is it. It also bugs me how the mother of the kids often thinks if you are caring for her kids in her home that you are coming on to her husband in some way. I have had this experience myself...I kind of feel "well make your mind up if you are going to have another woman in your home to care for your kids she has to be friendly to the husband too" she is in a very difficult role and generally underpaid and over used as it is..


Bet you wish I hadn't answered. ..but I don't think you can make this decision without some evidence that the woman is doing the things you dreamed about so I can't comment on the readings.

 

[pocossin]

I asked I Ching whether why I kept having this recurring dream and I got unchanging hex 3.

You are having this recurrent dream because you see the baby sitter (Nanny? Au pair?) as a threat to your position in the family. The baby sitter partly displaces your function as a mother. You should not act solely on dream fears. Perhaps greater involvement in the care of your children would relieve the fears. Difficulty at the Beginning seems especially appropriate for care of the young. The Judgment advises appointing helpers rather than terminating them.

 

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Its my inner insecurities

Hi Trojan and Pocossin,

Glad you two reply. I agree with you that its my insecurities acting up. Especially my baby is close to me and I feel insecure because I'll be going back to work in Jan'12.

Although my questions to I Ching is about her, from what both of you seem to imply is that I Ching may be addressing my inner insecurities and talking about me and not her.

Am I right to say so?

 

[Trojina]

Hi Trojan and Pocossin,

Glad you two reply. I agree with you that its my insecurities acting up. Especially my baby is close to me and I feel insecure because I'll be going back to work in Jan'12.

Although my questions to I Ching is about her, from what both of you seem to imply is that I Ching may be addressing my inner insecurities and talking about me and not her.

Am I right to say so?

yes it could be...but it could also be your fears are justified. I'm in no position to say. Thats why i suggested further investigation on your part is the way to allay fears. Is the baby happy with her ? The children are old enough to voice opinions and they will see how she is with the baby so why not ask them ?

I admit I'm quite puzzled you are trusting to strangers interpretations of dreams when you have 3 kids who can tell you all you need to know about her. If your dreams make you uneasy then maybe you really do need to look at this square on, properly. Somehow perhaps you are avoiding some issues

 

[pocossin]

I admit I'm quite puzzled you are trusting to strangers interpretations of dreams when you have 3 kids who can tell you all you need to know about her.

Ah, but we are especially empathetic strangers, aren't we? And adults too.

 

[free]

Hi Hi

Yup, I've asked my kids and they are so far quite ok with her although there are times they do complain about her pulling them roughly. I'll continue to observe and have asked her how she is coping and whether the work is alright etc. When her contract finishes, I'll not employ her again.

Anyway, thanks adults for your perspective on this issue.