Relationship 19>51

[Valeria]

Hi!
I'm new here and with the I Ching...
I'm in a conflicted situation with a very important person for me...We had a discussion and now I don't know if he still feels something for me.
So I asked if there is a chance for us to have a relationship...
19.2.4>51

Can you help me?! Thanks

 

[casstone]

Sure there is.

Hexagram 19 talks about taking charge, assuming responsibility and approaching. Having discussions isn't a bad thing, although How we discuss obviously matters. Discussing often helps to clarify a situation and gives us different ways to look at it.
Perhaps, during the discussion you felt angry and were upset. When we feel so we often say things we don't really mean and we tend to become a bit inappropriate. If you might have said something you regret, hexagram 19 suggests it would be a good idea to approach that other person and talk about it. You might even have a calm talk about that discussion and what both of you really meant in case it wouldn't be clear already.

Line 2: United in commitment, Promising, Nothing cannot be turned to advantage.
This lines relation to hexagram 24.2 (Content to return, Promising) suggests it would be a good idea to get back on track. Diversity is good, nothing wrong with it. Turn this discussion into a treasure, you now know each other better.

Line 4: Complete commitment, Without mistakes.
This line relates to line 4 of hexagram 54 (Marriage delayed beyond term, Late is timely)
Let the situation mature, no need to be too stressed about it.

Hexagram 51: Resounding thunder. Arousal (shock), The noble young one makes use of fear and alarm to adjust and examine.
Basically this hexagram represents a situation where something occurs and produces a great shock that has a lot of impact. People involved are alarmed, they are startled but nevertheless do not lose concentration (Do not let drop the ladle of sacred wine). There is no real harm done. You might even look back and make fun of the whole situation!

 

[Valeria]

Wow! You've bene so accurate in your reply!
Thank you Casstone!
You're right, I'm very stressed about it because it's important for me... but now we Are in this situation and I've lost hope...
But maybe there's still a chance...

 

[ginnie]

The next time you two talk, things will go much better than that other time. Don't give up all hope!

 

[Valeria]

Thank you, Ginnie!