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Relationship 47, 1,2,3,4,6 -- 37

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mega_biscoito

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I left my country to study 5 months ago and when I left I met someone there.Being far away we talked on telephone and slowly we developed a very deep conection.-She tried sometimes to move away since she said she had problems with far away relationships. Bt she always would come back.-We were together in my Christmas vacation but after that she moved away in a more definitely bway ecause she said sooner or later we would get hurt, because a long distance wouldn't work. She said she would cut all contact with me, but one month she started talking again.-In 2 weeks I'm going back definitely to my country. She says she likes me, but does not promote the same contact before.I'm not sure if she really likes me as she says or if these are all excuses to cover something she doesn't want to tell?-I asked the book "What I need to know about a loving relationship with S?"-47 1,2,3,4,6 --> 37-What it means?
 
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Freedda

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I don't see anything in particular that's hidden here. And I do think you should meet to see what's there between you two. (And on a practical level, I would not put too much stock in your thoughts or feelings about what she does or doesn't feel - that's likely coming from your fears and less from what she may actually think and feel.)

But it does seem that things are strained and perhaps one or both of you have already become tired or exhausted by the situation; that is reflected in the many, many moving lines you have which could indicate imbalance. There are just too many balls in the air right now.

One thought that comes to mind - when you speak of 'love' does that include the prospect of family for either of you? Maybe that could be the 'filter' through which you view your time together: does this person feel like family to you? Do both of you want a family? And if so, could you see it being with this person?
 
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mega_biscoito

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Maybe she is affraid of a distance relationship and one step back when she feels I'm insecure about the new course studies I made. She thinks I don't believe enough in myself.One the other hand I'm tired of her always going away and coming back.But yes, I see her as a potencial woman for a family. For her I have the right balance of love. I can love her and at the same time be myself. I imagine myself with her.I don't know her opinions about this.But I decided to move away and work on myself.
 

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