Relationship 50.2.5>33 & 31

[anyah]

Hi and thank you for having such a kind and wonderful discussion board.

I hope it is okay to ask a question here. I've been dating a man on and off for a year now. The relationship has its problems, but is also very wonderful. Lately he's been fading away to such a degree that I have to believe it's over. In sadness I asked if we'd get back together

50.2.5>33

50 looks promising but moving into 33, we are already at 33.

So I tried "Does he want to get back together
31 unchanging


Last question was "What do I need to do"
I really don't know if I should let him go or keep putting energy into him.
15.1.6>22

This one seems very contradictory. I should be both humble and gather an army? I'm confused here.

Blessings

 

[tifa]

From the moving lines in hex 50 and resultant hexagram 33, I would suggest retreat from the idea of going back together.

Moving lines in hex 15 further support the need to retreat from your current thoughts and situation. It further support the message behind hexagram 50 = replenish yourself with good stuff.

Unchanging 31 refers to you (rather than him), the hope to get back together.


Hope it helps.
T

 

[anyah]

Thanks T! It's really amazing how right IC is. But I find I really have to ask for outside help for things too close to my heart. I called him up today and had to ask. He's going through a lot financially and says he doesn't have time or energy for romance. I know what he says is true, I've been watching him struggle. And I know what it feels like to have such pressing needs. I've had really good relationships that were tbe wrong time/place and had to let them go too. IC was really great for helping me think about it and being in the right place before talking. So I'm grateful. Who knows what the future holds and we will continue to be good friends. He says he thinks there is still a possible future. I need to move on though for my benefit and let someone new into my life.

Blessings
A

 

[anyah]

Hi,

Hope it's okay to ask a follow up question. I had decided to let this person be because he was pulling back from me and my reading seemed to suggest I let him go, for my own benefit. So while I was working on filling my life with other people and things he was bombarding me with invitations to hang out.

So, I hung out with him the past couple of evenings. The effect is that I feel so alone and emotionally distant in his company. I don't know what changed so much and being busy seems like an excuse. He did tell me last week that he was retreating from everything. And for me the alternating warm cold is too much to take. I think I need to not hang out with any more. I will miss him, if he would just leave me be.

I asked what the nature of our relationship is and got 34.3>54
Where are we going. 27.1.2>4

It seems so negative.

Any advice?