Relationship advice

[Miki123]

There s this guy that flirted with me, showed interest then ignored me until recently. I believe he is somehow attracted by me but I think it s possible he may still have feelings for his ex (who I know, we re all part of the same group). I asked "how genuinely is x interested in me?" And got 50.4.6 changing to 46. How can I interpret this?

 

[Miki123]

I also asked, is he afraid of a potential relationship with me? And got 28 unchanging which really confuses me.

 

[diamanda]

Hi Mihaela,

how genuinely is x interested in me? 50.4.6 > 46
It sounds to me like he feels he has messed it up with you already, and that you have already left him behind. Can you remember what signals you sent to this guy? Did you reciprocate, did you show your interest in him clearly? If not, he feels gutted. If you have indeed showed your interest in him clearly, then he practically messed it all up already, and you're better off heading somewhere else. In this answer the past is left well behind, so his ex is not part of the equation.

is he afraid of a potential relationship with me? 28 unchanging
I find this a strange question, why would he be afraid of you? You don't have vampire teeth or horns or something, do you? lol. 28 shows a male who can't find release, he feels so heavy in himself, so frustrated, that he ends up feeling compelled to make a panic move, any move, as long as it gets him out of his 'heaviness'. So, no, he's not afraid at all, he just feels overwhelmed (not sure why, but he certainly doesn't feel great at the moment).

Strange answers... something tells me that this guy is actually very interested in you.
But it sounds like he's not emotionally competent to handle it, so far.

 

[kttuan]

dear,
50.4.6: at first you are very interesting to him, after a time, he felt that even you can be his life partner. during his hesitation, he recognized some nagative signs from you (in his thinking).

 

[Miki123]

Diamanda, thank you for your answer. I asked if he's afraid because my gut is telling me that he's just not ready for another relationship yet, that he might run away from some potential feelings. On the outside he gives this indifferent vibe and like he's not in the mood for pursuing someone, but.. it is just strange, I feel like I don't know how to handle him, like he could slip through my fingers from nothing. Because I don't know how to act, I asked: for me and x to be together, is it best to give him space or make a move right now? And got 26.1.2 changing to 52

 

[Miki123]

Kttuan, thanks for your input. Your replies really make me see things from another perspective..

 

[diamanda]

Well, "running away from some potential feelings" is one of the biggest misconceptions ever.
In real life, I have never, ever, witnessed anyone, man or woman, "running away from feelings".
On the contrary, people like feeling in love, especially when the other person reciprocates.
So ok he gives an indifferent vibe, don't be fazed, that's what guys are supposed to do, appear tough ;-)

For me and x to be together, is it best to give him space or make a move right now?
26.1.2 > 52
Definitely don't make a move, at all, whatsoever (26.1 and 26.2).
Don't make either a move forward, nor a move backward to 'give him space'.
Remain completely still at the exact position that you have right now, to the point of obstinacy (52).

I don't really get why the advice is such, but that's how it sounds to me.