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willowindasaurus
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I have been dating someone, a 37 year old Capricorn male, and I am a 33 year old Virgo female.
On our first date we met up for breakfast, but ended up hanging out together for the next 24 hours! We discussed past relationships, family, what we want in the future, etc...details regarding things that people generally would not discuss on a first date. Although he seemed a bit eager, I am also someone intense so did not get incredibly alarmed.
Second date, we met for dinner and then ended up hanging out until 5pm the next day! That evening, I had also met a few of his friends before we left dinner, and he put his hand on my arm while we were chatting with them...he will often reach out to hold or caress my arm/hand in public. Again, when we spent this time privately together...intense conversation, he shared some of his past heartbreak. He has spent some time with me and my children, and complimented my parenting.
Through the course of our conversations he has also told me, though, that he sometimes uses beautiful women to feel good about himself. He has also lamented about a relationship that ended suddenly for him a few months ago...and how lonely he has been. he has put himself on a dating "time out" before...and is taking one soon?
I find his behavior a bit confusing and impulsive, and recently told him that I do not want to be someone's stepping stone. I also told him that I believe he may have a little too much going on emotionally and asked him for some space and to not contact me for a bit.
I'm getting mixed feelings...he is coming on very strongly, but also making statements that indicate to me he may just need a friend. He is someone that I could really like if I allowed myself (he is handsome, charming, intelligent, and we have a lot of emotional and physical chemistry)...but I'm scared that he may simply be flighty, immature and unsure of what he wants. Also, that I may simply make him feel good about himself.
I am feeling torn about the choice to have cut him out, and we have sent some texts since. In the last discussion we had, I told him that ir was up to him to decide what capacity he wants me in his life, and he stated that he is not sure he could be a good partner to me right now because he is being so reckless.
So...this whole thing has left me very confused...fast moving, then on with the brakes. I consulted the IChing regarding the situation...two questions. Now I am EVEN MORE confused!!!!!!!!!
The first question was: "How can I proceed for the best possible outcome with this person?"
Cast Hexagram:
53 - Fifty-Three
Chien / Gradual Progress
Changing to Transformed Hexagram:
46 - Forty-Six
Shêng / Upward Mobility
The second question was: "What are the results of my communicating the way I did with this person? Where is this going now?"
Cast Hexagram:
31 - Thirty-One
Hsien / Attraction
Changing to Transformed Hexagram:
8 - Eight
Pi / Bonding
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On our first date we met up for breakfast, but ended up hanging out together for the next 24 hours! We discussed past relationships, family, what we want in the future, etc...details regarding things that people generally would not discuss on a first date. Although he seemed a bit eager, I am also someone intense so did not get incredibly alarmed.
Second date, we met for dinner and then ended up hanging out until 5pm the next day! That evening, I had also met a few of his friends before we left dinner, and he put his hand on my arm while we were chatting with them...he will often reach out to hold or caress my arm/hand in public. Again, when we spent this time privately together...intense conversation, he shared some of his past heartbreak. He has spent some time with me and my children, and complimented my parenting.
Through the course of our conversations he has also told me, though, that he sometimes uses beautiful women to feel good about himself. He has also lamented about a relationship that ended suddenly for him a few months ago...and how lonely he has been. he has put himself on a dating "time out" before...and is taking one soon?
I find his behavior a bit confusing and impulsive, and recently told him that I do not want to be someone's stepping stone. I also told him that I believe he may have a little too much going on emotionally and asked him for some space and to not contact me for a bit.
I'm getting mixed feelings...he is coming on very strongly, but also making statements that indicate to me he may just need a friend. He is someone that I could really like if I allowed myself (he is handsome, charming, intelligent, and we have a lot of emotional and physical chemistry)...but I'm scared that he may simply be flighty, immature and unsure of what he wants. Also, that I may simply make him feel good about himself.
I am feeling torn about the choice to have cut him out, and we have sent some texts since. In the last discussion we had, I told him that ir was up to him to decide what capacity he wants me in his life, and he stated that he is not sure he could be a good partner to me right now because he is being so reckless.
So...this whole thing has left me very confused...fast moving, then on with the brakes. I consulted the IChing regarding the situation...two questions. Now I am EVEN MORE confused!!!!!!!!!
The first question was: "How can I proceed for the best possible outcome with this person?"
Cast Hexagram:
53 - Fifty-Three
Chien / Gradual Progress
Changing to Transformed Hexagram:
46 - Forty-Six
Shêng / Upward Mobility
The second question was: "What are the results of my communicating the way I did with this person? Where is this going now?"
Cast Hexagram:
31 - Thirty-One
Hsien / Attraction
Changing to Transformed Hexagram:
8 - Eight
Pi / Bonding
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