Relationship on the rocks?

[annietyme]

My boyfriend of 9 months & I have spent nearly everyday together since day one. We were instantly comfortable w/ each other in everyway yet now he is very distant saying that he can?t help but think of his last relationship [which ended in a messy divorce], and he is scared to be involved. He doesn?t want to lose me nor make me unhappy. He doesn?t make me unhappy at all. He has been saying that he in general is really unhappy & not feeling himself yet he is happy when he is w/ me. So I don?t understand why he keeps pushing me away.

My question was for the I Ching to show me an image of what he is going through. I received 18 w/ the top line changing it to 46. One thing I also did not understand is there was a red box by the change at the beginning. Does that mean that that line applies as well?

Please can any one help me w/ an interpretation?

 

[shaoqi]

Ok Hex 18 "Gu" means worms which symbolizes a situation of ruin and decay and a need for remedying and innovating.

Also in the commentary it states "that every ending follows a new beginning. This is the course of heaven."

So my decypherin' of this Hex is that if you dont fix(remedy)this problem then you will lose him and have to start over again for this is the end of your relationship, but if you do remedy the problem then the situation will become sublimely prosperous an smooth.

The top moving line says "Not serving Kings and Lords; Highly elevates his own pursuit" meaning that he's concerned with himself right now.

Relating Hex 46"Growing Upward" is a extremely good Hex:

"Growing Upward"
Sublimely prosperous an smooth.
Appropiate to see a great person.
Do not worry;
Moving foward to the South:
Good fortune.

After bringing together, growing upward follows.

So this Yi Jing session is telling you indeed there is a problem an that it can very well be fixed if you plan it through an act as a remedy for ya b/f. Right now your b/f is goin through alot right now an he's unsure of himself(maybe tryin' to find himself because he's confused). The relating hex is showing that things will work out in the end so just serve as his remedy an all is good.

Im still a beginner @ Yi Ying but I hope I helped a lil bit, people feel free to correct me if im wrong, I reply in great humulity.

Thank You....shaolin

 

[annietyme]

Thank you shaolin for your interpretation. That sounds a lot like what I was thinking. However now I just have to figure out how I am to be his remedy. Should I give him his own space to figure things out for himself & just be there when he asks for me? It's all so confusing but whatever I can do to make sure we see the relating hex come to light then that is what I must do. I don't want to lose him.
thanks again! annie

 

[shaoqi]

Your more then welcome, this serves as great practice for me.

U should consult the book of Yi again asking What will happen if i give him his own space and wait for him to ask me for help?

Thats what I would do.

1...shaolin

 

[annietyme]

Okay I did & I received 16. Yu / Enthusiasm
w/ changing line in the first taking it to 51. Chên / The Arousing (Shock, Thunder). you take on that? ;-)

 

[shaoqi]

ok,
Hex 16 means "Enthusiasm or Delight". After humbleness, delight follows.

Your moving line says "Signing out delight: misfortune. Ones will comes to an end.

The key to delight is humility an sincerity. But your moving line is showing overexcitement and being over satasified an this will exhaust delight an bring misfortune.


Hex 51 "Taking Action" Prosperous an smooth. Thunder comes---Alarm Alarm! Laughing an talking---haha.

This hex suggest taking action brings success, & it is tempting tryin' to enhance success. The wise man keeps himself calm an remains at ease. He does not let the excitement lead to failure in important matters. With a cautious mind he cultivates his virtues an examines his errors. This is the key to success.


Ok so my decipherin' from all this is:


If you wait for him to ask u for help it very well might be to late an end in misfortune.

The relating hex Thunder(Taking action) is telling you to take action, this will lead to success, so I would defenitly try to help him before it's to late.

so remember this advice, for it is very important:

"The wise man keeps himself calm an remains at ease. He does not let the excitement lead to failure in important matters. With a cautious mind he cultivates his virtues an examines his errors. This is the key to success."

Good luck, please let me know how everything goes....1....shaolin

 

[annietyme]

OOh wow! Thank you again & I certainly will keep you updated.

~Annie