Relationship question 51 twice

[ichinglover]

Hello

I'd love to get some insights here
2 uqestions:

What is my best course of action wrt person X? (ex b/f)
51.4 - > 24

and

Is my relationship with peron X permanently finished?

51.2.4 - > 19

I can't understand these...
any help, please?

 

[my_key]

What is my best course of action wrt person X? (ex b/f)
51.4 - > 24

Your best course of action wrt your ex boyfriendis to see this as a wake up call for you. Things are a bit cloudy for you now but if you give things a while to clear you will see the whole situation and how you have reacted to it in a new light.

Is my relationship with person X permanently finished?

51.2.4 - > 19

51.2 talks about not pursuing what is lost. Not grieving. The situation you find yourself in will rebalance especially if you can find some ways to raise your spirit.

MIke

 

[willowfox]

What is my best course of action wrt person X? (ex b/f) 51.4 - > 24

For the moment you cannot take action, therefore stay still and wait for things between you to get better which will take a while.

Is my relationship with person X permanently finished? 51.2.4 - > 19

No, like I said above, you need to stay still and be patient as there is nothing to be done at the moment but I would say that in a few months something exciting will happen.

 

[ichinglover]

Thanks a lot for the insights...

Though, somehow I don't see him coming back...

I asked an additional question:

How probable is that he will contact me? ( on two different dates)

I got

40.2.3. ->62

and later to the same question

5.1.5.6 -> 18


Do you think he will contact me based on these readings?

 

[ichinglover]

Oh, and one more question

what does he feel towards me?

26.2.6 -> 36

Not very flattering, is it?

Not sure what to make of it...

Please-please help me

 

[ginnie]

Give It A Rest

Back a bit you received hexagram 24 as your second hexagram, and that means to rest.

Whenever you get hex 24 with regard to any particular situation, asking more questions is not going to benefit you in any way. You are just working yourself up when you really ought to be giving it a rest.

Oh, yes, moving line 5 in hex 5 says go out and eat, drink, and be merry.

While waiting for what you want to happen, why not just relax and take it easy -- even have some fun --, since there's really nothing you can do to push things along anyway.

 

[ichinglover]

Thank you, Ginnie!

it sounds very wise, though really hard to do!!

I even asked my final question:

Should I force myself to forget about him, let him go and stop asking i ching about him...

I got: 37.1.2 -> 57

Does it tell me I should not forget this person???? Why???

 

[ginnie]

If I could put it in one sentence, this is what I think the I Ching just said to you:

"You got it! That's it! By the way, ichinglover, look around yourself. Isn't there some cleaning up around here you could be doing, instead of worrying about this guy?"

I think this is one of those jokes the I Ching sometimes makes . . .

Or it's saying: You'll get more done if you attend to matters closer to home . . .

 

[willowfox]

Your other questions just above basically said what I had said earlier, wait and see what happens, and therefore be patient.

Should I force myself to forget about him, let him go and stop asking i ching about him...

I got: 37.1.2 -> 57

Perhaps it would be a good idea to restrain yourself in the question department and again it suggests that you get on with your life in the meantime but it does say not to give up on him things will eventually change, that's why.

 

[ichinglover]

Thanks Willofox!

Why not forget him if he does not seem to come back?

based on 40.2.3.? in my previous post?

it's killing me, i ching telling me not to forget him, cuase i'd love to

 

[willowfox]

Why not forget him if he does not seem to come back?

based on 40.2.3.? in my previous post?

it's killing me, i ching telling me not to forget him, cuase i'd love to

The IC is only giving you advice, you don't have to accept it if you don't want to, your answer is giving you a likely future if you follow what has already been said but if you want to walk away, then up to you, do not let the IC stop you.

 

[ichinglover]

Thanks, I do understand that this is just an advice...
But I don't understand the advice it's giving me...

Well, thanks for your ideas!!

 

[ginnie]

But I don't understand the advice it's giving me...

It's not that you personally don't understand.

The average Westerner never heard of waiting as something to do. We are always being urged to be pro-active, take the bull by the horns, make a phone call, and so forth. Culturally, waiting goes against the grain and it takes a long time to accept the I Ching's teaching that "letting it go" is often the best course of action we can possibly take.

 

[ichinglover]

Ginnie,
I know it's hard to wait ...

But my confusion stems from the fact that I don't know what I am waiting for...

Based on the answers the guy is not coming back to me...

So what is there to wait for?????

 

[ginnie]

The Tension of Waiting

You put your question very well, very articulately. Yes, when we're waiting, we experience the tension of waiting.

Being able to relax when waiting, especially when we don't know what we're waiting for -- how do we do that? That's up for each of us to learn on our own, because we're all different that way.

 

[ichinglover]

Ginnie,
thank you for your support!

It's really hard to wait....
As a Westerner, I'd rather do something, like an effort of forcing myself to forget...

There is another thread i posted with the question that concentrates on the forgetting aspect of this non-existent relationship

Can I ask to you to comment on that?

1.2.5.6 -> 55

Does it tell me to forget him????

Thanks a lot for your time and expertise!!!!!