Relationship Questions

[Elainey]

Hi everyone,

I am recently rather bothered about my boyfriend's ex girlfriend. They were in a long term relationship which ended some time mid last year, and we got together few months ago, everything was happy until I realized they have been keeping in contact because she would still confide in him. I kept it in until few days ago I talked to him about this and he told me things in his position, that it's not possible to totally ignore her but he cares for her just as a friend. He gave me assurance and promised to lessen the contact, and I discontinued the topic.

I asked I-Ching

What is my position in his heart? 26.3 to 41.

At first sight I kind of focused on the 41 decreasing and I thought my position in his heart is decreasing.

However I came across an interpretation of from one of the threads: If you acquire something beautiful or precious, you also acquire the worries, duties and care that go with it. Accept them as being part of it, do not see them as negative but as essential parts of your life. A careless life without possessions can be alluring, but a life with care and possessions, and the ability to cope with them, is complete.

Is this applicable for my type of question?

What is her position in his heart? 48 uc

It speaks about nourishment and resource, I feel maybe she is someone whom have deep connections with him because of their past which will not change?

How will we progress after the talk that day? 1.2.4 to 37
This seems positive to me because of 37.

Appreciate any insights, thanks

 

[rosada]

26.3 A fine horse needs training.

You and your friend are still working out the rules and boundaries. You can’t just go with the flow here and expect things will end up as you would like them to. You need to speak up and let him know what makes you uncomfortable. I think this is a positive reading for your relationship because it implies he wants to do right by you and just needs to know what you are wanting.

It is very tricky to navigate ex-lover situations. I live in a small town and I have a friend in his late 80s now who has had various long term relationships over the years. At his birthday party last month there were four of his former girlfriends and everyone enjoys each other tremendously and even jokes that while Jose is impossible to live with, he sure has great taste in women! Furthermore, as he is showing signs of aging now it is a great blessing that he has so many caring friends who will be sharing the burden of looking out for him in the future. Is it possible that you could make your boyfriend ‘s friend your friend too?

 

[rosada]

The Well is a community resource that benefits everyone. Getting this image for the place this woman holds in your boyfriend’s heart mirrors what he has told you, that he considers her a friend and wishes to be helpful towards her. The fact that the hexagram is unchanging suggests to me that he is not prone to wanting to make use of this connection. Still though I wonder if it’s a head’s up that you should be aware of her even though you not demand she be abandoned?

I think getting The Creative changing to Family is a very positive omen for your talk leading to greater understanding, particularly for creating the boundaries that make your union real.