Relationship & Understanding Motives

[piasa]

Hello, I asked the oracle a series of questions about how to proceed with a problem I'm having in a fairly young committed relationship. I am still a novice at interpreting the answers and would appreciate any clarification or additional insight.

Why is the situation bothering me?
3, no changing lines
Difficulties & confusion?

Why are SO's priorities what they are?
26.3.4. I do not know how to take changing line 3. 4, I am reading as SO is trying to avoid problems in the future.
changing to 38 - SO's viewpoint is the opposite of mine?

How should I proceed?
44, no changing lines.
I am having trouble finding the advice in this one. I am not seeing how the judgment attaches to the question, so I thought about the names of the hexagram from various sources: Coming to Meet, Providing, Liaison. Is it saying that I need to come meet the problem by re-addressing it?
Am I missing something with the Judgment? How could this be interpreted?

How can I find happiness in regard to my situation with Significant Other?
53.2.5 to 18
I am taking line 2 to mean I should spend more time with other people, with line 5 supporting this.
18 initially seemed straight forward to me "Work on what has been spoiled," but the more I think of it, the more I am not sure where it applies. All aspects of life? All relationships in my life? Or this specific relationship?

Thanks for any help.

Piasa

 

[my_key]

Why is the situation bothering me? 3

no changing lines

A part of you is just starting to grow. These are the growing pains that you are feeling.

Why are SO's priorities what they are?
26.3.4. ........changing to 38

26 - old habits die hard
26.3 - Although he is trying to, he is afraid to step outside of his comfort zone
26.4 - He's chosing to hold back rather than experience something different.
38 = He's going to have to resolve this internal battle at some point.

How should I proceed?
44, no changing lines.

You are being drawn in by something here, and you may be well advised to take a step back.

How can I find happiness in regard to my situation with Significant Other?

53.2.5 to 18

53 - Don't fly off the handle. Stay calm and dignified and look to take things forward slowly.
53.2 - First work to get to a position where you feel safe and secure then reassess what you are feeling and need to do next.
53.5 - To get to where you truly want to be you need to have people on your side and believing in you. Take things slowly and people will come around to your way of thinking.
18 - You are going to have to mend a few bridges and look at what has gone on dispassionately, perhaps even change the way you approach certain things.

the more I think of it, the more I am not sure where it applies. All aspects of life? All relationships in my life? Or this specific relationship?

I don't think anyone can answer these queries for you. When you start working the process you will gradually begin to know .

Take care and look forward to a great New Year. You have made a brilliant start by asking these questions.

Mike

 

[piasa]

Thanks, Mike. This is very helpful for both my personal life and my learning to interpret the I Ching. Happy New Year

Piasa