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Im still dealing with a separation from my ex. Our relationship has improved over the last couple of months and I find her calling me almost daily. When I mention something about starting over she normaly skates around the question. Shes been very affectionate toward me lately, but there is still some hesitation to get back together. On another note i'm financially independent and she is not. I worked with this women for 4 yrs and attempted to get us into a situation where we could be self sufficient. She didnt see the oppurtunity in front of her then, but now since we separated and shes having financial difficulty she wants to work together again now. Im not interested if were not in a relationship. Why should i give my knowledge to her if shes not with me. So i asked the question. What does she want our relationship to look like going forward. I got 40 L1 and L4 changing to 19. I also asked what does she think about getting back together and i got an 8 L 4 changing to 45. My last questions was What is the possibility of reunion with my x and i got 37 L4 changing to 13. Can someone help shed some light on this, because i dont want to feel like shes just in it for the cash.
 
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What does she want our relationship to look like going forward.
what does she think about getting back together.


Why ask the same thing twice, where I Ching discourages repeated questioning? They are called "questions as a result of doubt", compared to well reasoned questions. All you did here was move words around a bit. The questions have the same intentions within a huge overlap. If the answer to the first is that basically she does not want a relationship, the second bungles.

What is the possibility of reunion with my x

Same footnote that I gave to libelula, a few days ago: A lady comes to a shrink and the shrink feels that her relationship is over when she says: “There is something wrong with my relationship with John”.
The shrink notes that the relationship would probably be alive if she had said: “I love John, but why can I not reach him ..?”
He explains that in the first case the woman has removed herself from the actual emotional happening, by abstracting John and herself as “the relationship”.
In the second example she IS (represents) the relationship; alive in her emotions.

My hint is, you could have asked something like: Am I doing well with x? In this case you get your answer in the form of possible changing lines. Whatever you may want to know about X may be reflected in (deduced from) these answers about YOU. And X may also appear in those lines that the changing lines relate to.
In any case, I Ching is not a tool to sneak into somebody else's mind:bows:

(To be continued in Exploring Divination?)
 
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Thanks for the reponse but the first question i asked was what does she think about getting back together followed by what does she want our relationship to look like going forward and then what is the possibility of us getting back together. I didnt know it mattered what order the questions were posted in. Any comments are appreciated.
 
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I also asked how she feels about comming back and i got a 37 L4 changing to 13.
 

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What does she want our relationship to look like going forward?

40.1
No blame.

She wants there to be no hard feelings about the break up.

40.4
Deliver yourself from your great toe.
Then the companion comes,
And him you can trust.

She knows she has become dependent on you but she does not see you as her true partner. She wants to not have a relationship with you that is so close it would interfere with her having someone else as her boyfriend.

19.
When the eighth month comes there will be misfortune.

She would like to have a fresh start with you but she does not foresee a renewed friendship going as far as you would like it to go.


What does she think about getting back together?

8.4
Hold to him outwardly also.
Perseverance brings good fortune.
45.
Gathering together..the superior man renews his weapons in order to meet the unforeseen.

She would like to have a connection with you, something honest and open that would include you in her circle of friends - but again you should be wary of thinking her overtures of friendship mean anything more.

What is the possibility of reunion? How does she feel about coming back?
37.4
She is the treasure of the house.
Great good fortune.
14.
Possession in great measure.
Supreme good fortune.

Although the text says "she" is the treasure of the house I wonder if actually YOU are the treasure of her house as you have been so helpful in literally creating treasure for her. If that is the case I think although these are positive statements perhaps we should consider that the possibility of reunion is just based on her wanting your $$$ assistance.

Astrologically the planet Mars has just this weekend turned retrograde in Leo, the sign of romance. Perhaps this is an omen to slow down and not push for a deeper commitment at this time. Based on these lines it sounds to me that the girl would like to have you as a friend but she is also in a habit of turning to you for help which is not really appropriate. Basically it all seems to pretty closely confirm your own suspitions - that you are letting yourself be used. I think you should look at the situation without any rosy colored glasses and ask, "Given that this lady wants to continue to seek my company and advice but has no desire to be my girlfriend at this time how should I play it?" You say you don't want to continue a relationship with her if she is not interested in being your partner but it maybe that if you really did call it off completely you'd miss her and decide you would want to be connected, even if it was strictly a friendship. I say this because those 37.4 > 14 lines sound so positive.

Best wishes,
Rosada
 
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Thanks Rosada. But the changing line was 13 from 37L4. Does this change the interpretation
 

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Oops, sorry. Well I think this would just put more emphasis on the idea that there is potential for you to continue to have a social connection but only if just Fellowship is enough.

Rosada
 

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