remove the shackles?

[kincadefoster]

Those of you who have followed my threads over the past year know there have been a few people I was forced to cut off due their behavior.

One of these people has been trying to contact me. And no, I'm not saying I will let them back in right away but I asked a question...

What does Y want from me? 4.1>41

Line 1 talks of removing shackles and freedom and learning from mistakes.

So I think it means they feel they are being punished by not being in my life and they wan't me to remove the "shackles" in the sense they want to be allowed back in...

Or it means this person needs to be free to make whatever mistakes they will because this is the only way they will learn...

 

[folledeschiele]

Hi there,

I would have a tendency to favor the latter sense-- and that the "punishment" (not allowing them back into your life) is ultimately just. It's not overly harsh, necessarily, especially if it serves to keep proper boundaries in place. And yes, this may just free this person to learn from their mistakes-- sometimes not interacting or engaging is the only way to do this, if the relationship is toxic. Of course, I'm a bit biased on this point because there have been a couple of people in my life, notably an emotionally abusive and narcissistic ex, who I've decided I simply can't communicate with any more. I send them love and wish them well in my mind, but interacting with them is toxic, and the boundaries guarantee peace and safety.

Also, the resulting hex suggests diminishing, not increasing, contact or engagement-- again, to the ultimate gain of all. Good luck.

 

[canislulu]

Kincadefoster, What is it that you want from Y ?

What do you need to know before you would be willing to remove the shackles? And how could you get the information?

 

[weaver]

What about asking a supplementary question, like What is the response that is in the best interest of everyone involved?

 

[kincadefoster]

I think since I asked what does y want from me that is the question the IC answered. This person had tried to contact me via social media a few times as that was the only method available since they don't have my number or anything. The last message was an apology and I waited and kept looking at that apology for a month. I had already decided to forgive this person, but somehow I couldn't bring myself to it or figure out what to say and when I finally decided to, they had deleted their social media account...

Now I'm at a loss..

Best course of action? 37 unchanging
I had accidentally knocked one of the coins on one roll so I asked again to clarify 8.1>3

 

[radiofreewill]

Hi kincadefoster,

"What's my best course of action?"

37u "Stay close to home."

"What's my best course of action, take two?"

8.1 to 3 "That one's gone." Auspicious.

The lateness in replying to the apology caused the other person to cut you off. Still, they might reappear ("like a snake" ~ possibly thru a fake social media account) to say something hurtful. The Yi says that as long as you are ready for it, no harm will come.

Overall, the message is for you to stand by "sincerity" as a non-negotiable in your meaningful relationships. The Yi says that Sincerity is so powerful that it can attract good fortune to itself from nothing.

So, in this case, the Yi is saying ~ despite the hesitancy around the apology ~ it is auspicious to let this mistrustful relationship go in favor of keeping to a higher standard of sincerity.

I hope this helps!