Repeated Delays for Surgery 24.4-> 51

[mulberry]

Hello all,

My mother is supposed to have major surgery for an uncomfortable but non-life threatening situation soon. Her surgery date, however, has been pushed back again and again. First it was going to be in late March. Then it was scheduled for today. It was cancelled for today because the surgeon is being wishy-washy. The delays that have cropped up have been very frustrating. The first was because my mother had a cough; the surgeon wanted to have a chest X-ray done (the surgery has nothing to do with the lungs... it is for a female issue). The chest x-ray was clear. Then, during an invasive diagnostic test two weeks ago my mother had a panic attack; one of the attendant nurses said the word "seizure" and now she is having to go through test after test to rule out seizures (she has no history of them). It was almost certainly a panic attack, but no one will sign off for the surgery until she has every single test done, simply to cover themselves. However, the surgeon kept going back and forth and not communicating about the need for the follow-up tests, and my mother's primary care doctor didn't communicate at all during Passover last week, so only today was everything sorted out and my mother given a referral for the neurologist.

I asked Yi, "Why do these delays keep cropping up for my mother's surgery?" and received 24.4 -> 51.

Admittedly I was slightly alarmed by this, and took it to mean that perhaps it is for the best that the surgery is delayed, or that the neurologist will uncover something. (I still doubt it though).

Thoughts? I thank anyone who has insight into this unpleasant situation.

 

[Lavalamp]

"Why do these delays keep cropping up for my mother's surgery?"
24.4 -> 51

I think this line says you should not be pushing more strongly for this operation than your Mother or her Doctor. It is your Mother's life, it is her Doctor's responsibility, if they are not 100% comfortable they shouldn't do it, and 24.4 says you need to meet them halfway at least and understand this. 51 says this is a big scary deal for your mother and the doctor feels this too. Everyone needs to feel good about this, and as you say, it is not life threatening, so ease up.

- LL

 

[mulberry]

Thank you Lavalamp. I think I didn't express myself clearly in the first post or you misunderstood me.

Out of everyone, it is my mother who has been pressing the most strongly for the surgery and is the most upset about the delays. I am relieved actually that it didn't take place today as I am superstitious and don't like all the repeated delays. That said, her situation is extremely uncomfortable and impacting her daily life and ability to do things she normally does. (For example she can't lift anything at all right now, and needs to have all groceries delivered or me pick them up, etc.)

She told me today that she fears the repeated delays, and her physical discomfort, is impacting her emotionally and mentally. She has felt severely depressed.

Also, there is a great headache involved because she had all of the paperwork sent through at her job for her to go on disability, and then the surgery was postponed...she handles cases at work that are scheduled weeks ahead of time, so now she is at work but has little to do.

The surgery relates to the female reproductive system. Cancer has nothing to do with it. I'd rather not go into more details, nor do I think they're relevant.

My main question to Yi was about why the delays were coming up, as they are odd, and repeated, and both the nurses in the practice of the surgeon, and the doctors my mother keeps getting referred to, are baffled by the continuing problems.

 

[Lavalamp]

You asked "why" and the Yi says "meet halfway." People have concerns that need to be accommodated. Your Mother did have a panic attack, and that's very 51, shock.

If you want advice about how to better deal with the situation, that is a different question.

 

[Liselle]

I think lavalamp is right, and that the reading is probably describing the doctor's viewpoint. Your question was "Why are there so many delays?" and Yi is saying, "Because that's how the doctor wants it." (Whichever doctor it is who's holding things up.)

It's not saying whether the doctor is right or wrong - it just means it's his decision, and he will do what he thinks is necessary even if he's alone in thinking it. ("Walking in the midst of others, One returns alone.)

 

[mulberry]

Thank you, Lisa. I guess when I asked Yi, I was really asking with a tinge of worry, as in, "Is there some underlying problem that is causing all these delays?" But I can't ask yes or no... Right now it seems more than anything to be because of the panic attack and then lost paperwork/offices being closed/faxes never sent... sort of endless. But I can see it being from the doctor's viewpoint as well.

 

[Liselle]

Yes, I can certainly understand viewing an answer in light of the entire frustrating situation, but I thought in this case it was probably just a very direct response to the literal question.

But I didn't pay attention to the lost paperwork sorts of problems. I don't think the reading is addressing that part of it. Maybe because those delays are easier to understand? Not easier to deal with, but you don't need a reading to tell you that closed offices are going to delay things. Why they keep losing paperwork and not sending faxes, though...maybe the hex 51 also means the situation exists in a whole sea of chaos and disruption?

 

[Liselle]

Mulberry's update that was lost in the forum hack:

Originally posted by mulberry:

I thought I would come back and update this thread, though I have no firm resolution to anything. My mother had the surgery, after the repeated delays from the doctor (all to check on possible conditions that turned out not to exist). The surgery itself was rife with complications-- none expected, and none to do with anything that was tested for ahead of time. (For example, she ended up with sciatica from the position they put her leg in...) I like the surgeon very much personally so it is hard to admit that maybe she made a few errors. Or maybe it isn't a question of admitting it-- it just felt like some kind of complication was unavoidable and it had nothing whatsoever to do with the surgeon. That was the air of the whole situation. And I think the surgeon picked up on this-- she was a very intuitive person-- hence the endless testing for things that didn't turn out to cause issue, and issues ending up being caused by things that could not be tested for. I assume it was simply my mother's karma. It's so strange when karma makes itself present, very very present, in an inaccessible way. Almost like a presence.

Anyway, she made it through, though the recovery period was 3x as long as expected. She ended up needing a second surgery for something discovered in a huge round of surgical follow up testing by the very careful surgeon, and despite being a far more dangerous surgery, the second one went without a hitch. All is well now.

I hope this update helps someone down the line.