restriction for a happy union question...

[dragona]

Ok, don`t laugh but I am a little impressionable creature.
Always thought that the answer to this will be YES and did not want to ask such question in yes/no kind of a way, but seen hopex done it so -
Will I achieve a lasting romantic union with a man (not necessary a marriage)?
Hex 60.3,6 into 9!
Rules and limitations do not strike me as an auspicious answer - saying I failed to use them but if I apply too hard, it will be a disaster...?
I think there is an significant message for me there, perhaps it is still refering to my prior cast of 60.2,3,6 into 37 about another situation I am struggling to overcome, but I cannot understand it.
Maybe someone had the simillar casting experiance? :bows:
It just couldn`t be 11, 1 or 37 or 8

 

[chingching]

I think ginnie once pointed out that 60 can come up a lot for women who are thinking circuitously about their beloved. 60... measure twice cut once is the way to proceed with limitation, but measuring 10 times before you cut is overkill/a waste of your time energy and I apply that to the bitter restraint that 60's judgements says shouldn't be preserved in etc.

For me the third line is like Wednesday, hump day (as in apex), the turning point of the week. And the sixth line, I think it has been written by a few people, is where the 60-ness of the time you are in is at an end. closure. If you find your self bitterly restrained, stop that and regrets disappears, the time of measuring is over, time to cut the fabric and sew the garment, imperfections included. 9, only small things can be done, doesn't mean they don't count, on the contrary yes? I think both of these hex's are great because you asked about achieving a lasting relationship, and relationships that last are made up of small accumulations.

Both have a very practical feeling for me. All that being said line 3 says no fault for not being restrained so on Wednesday one might go over board analysing what you started on monday when its time to get going, but you can still do that on thursday and friday, just make sure by sunday it doesn't continue so you can have the whole day to relax. Metaphorically speaking of course.

 

[beyond_the_veil]

Hi Dragona,

I was just wondering what you mean by lasting romantic union? How would you describe that? Also, what "type" of man do you envision? Try to be specific and avoid generalities. I will bet that by answering these questions you will know the answer of the hexagrams.

I thought that I would take this route because if we really start to define terms, we will come to a specific understanding of our desires giving us a clearer picture to scrutinize against the answers that the I Ching gave us. Blessings!

 

[dragona]

Thank you both:bows:
so am I to gather that both readings are talking about my former connection (in which I was trying to be restrained cos affraid of exactly what had happened, btw) and not of the future outcome/possibilities?
I would normaly prefer to ask such a question regarding a specific man, but since low spirited, I ventured this way, thinking of an fulfilling relationship even without legalization other then recognition and comittedness between ourselves. Perhaps I only dream.

 

[chingching]

I think sometimes defining what you want out of life in a loose an open way is closer to being a defence mechanism against failure as opposed to being open to whatever richness life has to offer you.

the judgement of 60 is really important

LIMITATION. Success.
Galling limitation must not be persevered in.

even limits need limits and although what you are trying to do with your question is a sort of releasing of expectations around relationships you are still imposing restrictions on yourself. Not for what you want outwardly, from another person and relationship, but from what you are allowing yourself to want inwardly. I do this all the time. Kinda of a "I'm not where I want to be so I should ask for less" but it doesn't work because deep down you want what you want. There seems to be more of a sense of compromise in your want of a committed relationship that can take non traditional forms than a sense of adventure.

Maybe a better way to lift the restriction would be to say " I don't know what can happen for me in terms of relationships, it could be anything, anything is possible." keep the adventure and excitement alongside the re-defining of relationship goals. The limit is best when limiting the extremes... of wanting absolute security in a traditional way vs. compromise of what you want because of a past failure, which in the end is still wanting security.

60 is not a bad hex, it promises expansion and the lines tell you how you have been relating to the process of expanding with limits, line 3 is your past regrets, line 6 is you now taking the limit too far but if you stop now, no harm no foul.

unfortunately its not an 11 time for you in love, it does seem easier small goes great comes, sounds good but there is right time for everything. And perhaps seeing as you've had two readings with 60 its what you need to focus on right now.

 

[dragona]

Thank you chingching very much,
you are very insightful person ideed but perhaps I should say something about the question asked. I have seen many bad marriages and my parents did not even have a great one, devorced friends are not realy rushing into new one`s either, and I always thought that one can be happy with someone else when really happy with him/herself first. So asking the q. like this, I was simply thinking - marriage is not a must to legalise a happy life together.
Buuuut....
Will I marry? Hex 30.3, 5, 6 into 17
It`s like...to be continued reading