Romance/Love Questions: 37.5 > 22 and 37.1.3 > 20

[ddream]

Hi I Ching Community,

I have/had a crush on a coworker. A few weeks ago, I attempted to flirt with him through e-mails. It didn't work. He replied to all my messages, but never in a flirty way. Later on, I found out he is actually married. That explained everything. I apologized to him, but things seem different between us now. I don't know if it's just me, but I feel a distance that wasn't there before. I was curious so I consulted the I Ching. Ironic how I got 37 (Family) for both questions!

Why is he distant after what happened?
37.1.3 > 20

This one seems clear. It talks about discipline which, in this case, makes totally sense. Is here any other meaning I don't see though?

Line 1

The family is a well-defined unit. Every member knows his place. From his earliest years each child must be treated with kind and loving firmness so that he learns discipline. If he is allowed to exercise his whims and passions he and his parents will eventually regret the indulgence.

Line 3

Discipline tempered with tenderness is the best means of preserving concord. Too great severity is to be avoided. Nevertheless, in case of doubt, strictness is to be preferred to indulgence and brings happiness.

How does he feel about me?
37.5 > 22

I can't figure out this one. How do I link family (or is it talking about his family?) and feelings, especially when it talks about him being a king in his own house?

Line 5

When a husband governs his family as a king governs his kingdom (or conversely) all is well. Ruling justly and kindly, evoking love and banishing fear, he brings prosperity to all.

 

[soujiroelric]

Since I'm quite new to I-Ching myself I'm not totally sure about this, but

Ruling justly and kindly, evoking love and banishing fear, he brings prosperity to all.

I believe this has something to do with your question. "Justly and kindly" to his family, at least to me, means he shouldn't betray the feelings he has for his family. And maybe he'd feel like he does if he had any kind of feelings towards you.

Take my words with a grain of salt though.

 

[dragona]

Hello ddream,
it would be good to know what is your corellation at work, is one of you superior to another, or simillar.
How does he feel about me?
37.5 > 22
Just looking at the line this way, I would say that he has his priorities straight and he will treat you with politeness but nothing more.

 

[ddream]

Thanks to both of you. He is not in a position of superiority. We are at the same level. He is a hard worker. Politeness ("he has his priorities straight") therefore sounds like it could be possible. And now that I see re-read the line ("ruling justly and kindly"), politeness really makes sense. Well, both your answers are possible answers, in my opinion, actually. Very interesting!