Romantic relationship with a coworker? 46.2 > 15

[lamethy]

Hello fellow members,

In the past couple of months, as co-worker and I were getting closer, I've started to see her differently and discoverd how wonderful a personn she is.
Although it is not a good idea to have a romantic relationship with a coworker, I can't help to ask myself what if... Plus, we are going both to leave this company later this year.
So at that time, I've asked

Could a romantic relationship exist between A and me? 19 unchanging

19 unchanging to me means that it is indeed a time when we are getting close to each other and that the situation is full of potential but lot of effort have to be made.

So I interpreted the answer as a positive one.

A month later, I've felt that no much progress has been made. I've received 17.5 > 51

I interpreted it as : A connection has been made, have no doubts

Another month later, which is now, I've asked
What is the best behavior to have towards A? 46.2 > 15

46.2 speaks of being sincere, the acts need not to be big or flashy as long as one is sincere. But it also says to abandon all ambition, to have no direction. That's where I'm a bit confused.
Does it says that I should abandon this idea (of being with her in a romantic way)? And just behave as the usual me and not try to make more connections with her?

Thanks in advance for your enlightments

 

[white owl]

Hi Lamethy,

You will never know until you try..if it or will be the 19.

Hex 46.2: I think is saying in this situation to you is be totally casual & natural. As if you are just asking to borrow a stapler or something. I agree do not be showy or make a big deal about asking her out..make it feel like it would be the most natural thing in the world to do is go out with you. Even just meeting to go for a walk along a beautiful trail to just chat or meet up for coffee are good start suggestions. She sounds like a down to earth person that requires that type of approach.

 

[tifa]

If memory serves me right,
hexagram 46 is a slow progress. Don't whine! at least there's progress and you have to go through step by step. Though it may seem like no or little progress to you, the cast suggest there is already ongoing development.

I doubt yi is telling you to drop (more) connections with her. I would take the changling line as,
skip the fancy restaurant and cook her some dinner

 

[lamethy]

Thanks to both of you for your answers.

I really do feel no progress at all, rather regression. Hope it is just me being clueless about the all situation.
Maybe 46.2 is telling me to stop worrying about where it is going. Just keep doing what I'm usually doing and don't get caught by all those questions.

 

[modestlearner]

"What is the best behavior to have towards A? 46.2 > 15"

Concentrate your will toward your goal (46), be aware of your environment and that you are co-workers, but continue to show your sincerity and your goodness, and you will be met with a response (line 2) of modest success (15).


Just a guess based on Wilhelm's translation.

Good luck!
modest

 

[lamethy]

Thanks Modest.

I will try to keep my faith in the Yi.
I was starting to have doubts and members of clarity online help me to get back on track

 

[modestlearner]

I also would suggest rewording the initial question "Could a romantic relationship exist between A and me?"

To me this question could always get a "yes" sort of response because in literal translation why would the answer ever be a "no" unless the person was no longer living?

You see what I mean?

 

[lamethy]

Yes, I know I shouldn't have ask that question that way :/

That's why my last question was about how I should be so this could happen. It' comes from Hilary's stickied post about relationships question, and asking Yi for advice.

I might try to ask for what relationship we could create next time.

Thanks for this reminder

 

[modestlearner]

I was thinking that you might say that! I decided in case you hadn't review it, you might find it helpful.

Good luck!
Modest Learner