second chances and waste of time.

[pepita45]

Hello everyone,
I have been really stupid recently and I need some advice on how to behave with more wisdom in the future.
I was texting and quite intensely with someone I met on a dating site 2 months ago.Then suddenly radio silence and no reply to my messages. I just put it down to the dangers of internet dating. 3 days ago he got in touch again, to my surprise ,saying that he met someone soon after talking to me etc.. I was very scathing with him, but somehow he convinced me to start texting again , and yes, you can imagine he has gone radio silent again. I cannot believe I have been so stupid in giving this guy a second chance ! I asked the Oracle what is the best course of action now and I got 26.2 >22. So I take it to mean restraint ,nothing you can do, it was a very superficial connection.I then asked will he try getting in touch again and I got 34.2.11 this I find difficult to understand.Not that I would engage in any more texting now, for sure.I just want to make sense of a very cryptic answer
Please any opinion would be so gratefully received, as my common sense seem to have disappeared!!

 

[pepita45]

Anyone, please help? It 's the second reading I am having problems understanding.Thank you.

 

[pepita45]

My mistake 34.4.>11

 

[diamanda]

will he try getting in touch again 34.4.>11
I'd give it 50/50 chances. 34.4 means that he's not 'stuck' anywhere, i.e. he doesn't feel tied with you, or with anybody else. He feels free to advance wherever he pleases. So at the moment of your question, he didn't really know (or was bothered to think) if he wants to get in touch or not.

what is the best course of action now 26.2 >22
It sounds like the opposite for you. Don't make any move. If he does, just be superficially polite (22) and nothing else.

Really sorry you encountered this type of low-class male. They seem to be very abundant on dating sites.

 

[Freedda]

Pepita45:

I think it was Shakespeare who said love is a madness.

In your case that was made manifest by you conversing with a stranger on the internet, having him disappear for a while, only to return and say he'd been dating (whatever that means in the cyber world). And your response: invite Mr. Right back in for round two. Is that about it?

For your first query, hexagram 26 - the image text reads: The noble one acquaints himself (or herself) with many sayings ... and deeds of the past, in order to strengthen her character. The oracle: Not eating at home brings good fortune. It furthers one to cross the great water. And for line 26.2: The axle mounts are taken from the wagon.

Putting this together, it seems that something is broken here, which could be this particular website, or how you are making use of it; or it could be -- especially if this seems like familiar territory to you -- some attitude or mindset that you need to change.

While Mr. Right has maybe acted less than, I'd suggest that this is an opportunity to learn from what has happened (your own personal 'many deeds of the past) - for example, maybe to set better boundaries, or to be clear about what it is you want and how you want to be treated when dating.

One take on the oracle is that it is suggesting you expand your world in some way, maybe to get out and about, doing some things you enjoy and connecting with people in other than cyber ways.

Hexgram 22 is Adornment, which brings to mind jewelry, dressing up, beautifying. It also included grace and refinement, and perhaps seeing past the facade and veneer of things. Maybe this is a good attitude to consider, but in case it turns you too cynical, don't forget the part about grace.

As to your second query, if Mr. Right will ever again grace you with his presence, you got 34.4 > 11

... so, first I have to ask, why would you give a rat's patootie if he is going to contact you again? Is it so you can be prepared or give him a piece of your mind? (Understandable.) Or is it to invite him back for round three? (Not so much!)

Whatever the reason ... 34 is inviting you to be your best self now --- to be big and strong, to act with great vigor. It fits well with the advice from your first query. One interpretation of 34's name is The Rule of Stillness. This suggests that not all of this bigness and strong-ness needs to comes from an external, kick-boxing, Nike commercial 'get your game on' kind of place; that you can also find strength from stillness, from within.

 

[pepita45]

Thank you Fredda, for your thoughtful reply. I think it's me that needs to revaluate what I want. I must admit I loved his attention, as from the photos, he is very handsome, but I suspect he is into mind games. I will never contact him again, and the power of indifference is not be underestimated!! But perhaps being on a dating site, has been a bit of a substitute for a social life. So need to go out and about more, definitely the Oracle is right there!! Having said that, I have dates with some lovely guys, but no chemistry!! I will not be renewing my subscription on this particular site. Once again, Thanks for helping me to make sense of a cryptic reading. I am truly grateful.

 

[pepita45]

Thank you Diamanda for your reply. I will certainly be very superficial, and would never give him the satisfaction to know that he had me peeved. I was just flattered by his attention, and thought he deserved a second chance. He certainly does not deserve a third!! I have also started to think he is into mind games.Anyway upwards on onwards for me, and once again thank you for your help in interpreting this reading.