Serious STD 56>62

[becalm]

My son and his girlfriend split up 2 years ago to sort out their own personal issues and she chose to go overseas whilst he stayed close to home to finish his apprenticeship. Just as she was heading back home with their intention of seeing if they could make their relationship work this time around she tells him she has a serious STD. He now has a decision to make as to whether he will accept this and learn to live with it and try to build a new relationship with her or move on without her. What do I need to know about his decision to move on without her as part of his life Hexagram 56.6>62.....This reading looks to me like he will move on without her but with sadness and regret things didn't work out.

 

[Freedda]

My son and his girlfriend split up 2 years ago to sort out their own personal issues .... Just as she was heading back home ... seeing if they could make their relationship work ... she tells him she has a serious STD.

He now has a decision to make as to whether he will accept this and learn to live with it and try to build a new relationship with her or move on without her.

What do I need to know about his decision to move on without her as part of his life ....

Becalm, this was a bit confusing for me since you said "has a decision to make as to whether he will accept this" - as if the decision to try to be together still needs to be made, versus, you asking: "about his decision to move on without her ... " which almost sounds like your desired outcome?

Best, David.

 

[becalm]

"has a decision to make as to whether he will accept this" - as if the decision to try to be together still needs to be made, versus, you asking: "about his decision to move on without her ... "Yes he told me he has to make a decision whether he'll accept this as part of and parcel of their relationship or never be involved with her again.

 

[chingching]

I guess line 6 almost describes how your daughter as a traveller through some kind of carelessness or calamity 'loses her cow' and gets lumped with an STD - I take cow to represent the body, the animal part of us.

I like 62 for an STD too, especially the viruses. It's basically a message, information that causes your cells to behave differently, and can topple the whole system.

But for the part that is directly from your question I would agree with you.

It might be a good thing that he decides no? Perhaps the STD is allowing your daughter to vet out a really genuine loving partner for herself?

Well, sending healing intention your /daughter's/ - son's way, hope whatever happens ultimately brings him what he needs.

 

[Freedda]

Yes he told me he has to make a decision whether he'll accept this as part of and parcel of their relationship or never be involved with her again.

So, was your question, 'What do I need to know about my son's decision?' Or, 'what do I need to know if he decides to move on without her?' Or ....

 

[becalm]

Thanks chingching - it's my son's girlfriend who unfortunately picked up the STD and now his decision is what he wants to do within their relationship. It's a heartbreaking thing either way. "Perhaps the STD is allowing your (girlfriend) to vet out a really genuine loving partner for herself?" I said a similar thing to my son, if it was a deep genuine love there wouldn't be a decision to make.

 

[The9thSpade]

I know this was months ago, but the first thing I'd have told my son was to get tested.

I know that's not the question you asked Yi, but it's extremely important that he be tested for at least a year, depending on the STI. Aside from my main career, I am a certified STI counselor, and volunteer my time at many clinics in my area ... this is why I'm mentioning it. Also, this info is good for people in general to know.

Genital Herpes is incurable, and isn't testable if you have oral herpes, as the two are the same virus. It is treatable, however.

HIV isn't a death sentence anymore... they've actually cured 3 people with it just in the last year, and are doing trials for this cure. Otherwise, if HIV positive, the patients cocktail will actually make their viral load fall to zero, making it nearly impossible to pass the virus on. PrEP is a drug that is given to people who have sex with HIV positive people, and it stop the virus from being able to be synthesized by their own immune system, preventing them from becoming infected. While uncommon, it is possible to have this virus for years before testing positive on a standard swab test.

Chlamydia and Gonorrhea are typically curable, but because of over prescribing doctors in the UK, there are numerous incurable strains of them. People test positive usually about 28 days after exposure. And both of these STIs, if a person tests positive for one, it's likely they'll have the other, too.

Syphillis is curable, but there are drug resistant strains. You can test positive in as little as 10 days after exposure, but some won't for 90 days.

Hepatitis C is curable, however type B is not, although it is treatable. Because of the success with other types, there is quite a lot of trials testing for a cure, and that will come probably within the next 5-10 years. Type C will show up on a test usually 12 days after exposure, whereas type B can take up to 9 weeks to detect.

These are not all of the STIs that individuals can catch, but they are the most common.

Again, it's incredibly important for you to encourage your son to be tested repeatedly, as some STIs aren't actually testable for months after exposure. Condom used or not.

Good luck to the both of them.

 

[becalm]

The9thSpade I've sent you a PM