Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
Yup. Also for kindness and because it would be almost "obliged". Not just an excuse to hear from me. And also for the fear of hurting me or not seeing me again.Love it! a very accurate analysis, full on!
So in short, he should reply merry xmas to you, because:
- you wished him, and it's 100% normal for anyone to wish back to you
- he has showed interest in you many times before
Two more questions:
Why didn't he do the normal thing, to simply return your wishes?
Why did his words keep showing interest to you, but his actions were totally different to his words?
He won't! There are so many identical stories out there, he'd never know it's him.I hope he's not ever in the forums or would recognize himself with this detailed story. XD
It is like a cold shower. I wasn't even that attracted at the start. Probably in the end,having seen him + times,lacking of anybody else (or multiple dates) to have a comparison, then I started asking myself things about him and started feeling the connection was growing. And then i felt phsyically attracted, which was good, all of a sudden I liked him more. I am not sure if i was censoring my sexual feelings or i was catching some red flags because we never spent time together, but if I felt good while i was there and he invited me, i also felt manipulated when he asked me the basic questions to know a person better - i felt scared when i was alone, but when i was there i liked him. Once, he said something that looked like a zinger, and I took offense honestly because I didn't expect it. I even dreamt about it. XDHe won't! There are so many identical stories out there, he'd never know it's him.
So you have all these guesses, as to why he behaved rude, and why he was all words and no actions.
How about a single plain explanation:
he's a rude guy with no decent intentions towards you.
How about that?
Doesn't care about others opinions.You feel mocked because he did mock you, he toyed with you. Women do this too, it's not a male privilege.
If he had indecent intentions how could he be so cheeky, even in front of my mom and his brother and his colleagues? Because he doesn't care about anyone's opinions.
Is his brother similar? Looks like it.
Do their bosses tolerate this? Looks like it.
Are their parents so libertine? Looks like it.
Yeah, well until now nobody made those generous gestures. So I was appreciating it. I took my time because I didn't know what to do next, in fact at the beginning I remember I was fancying a different person.I hope that your own description of events clarifies for you that this was not the right person for you (and if you ask me, he's not the right person for anyone).
In the future, try to remember these two red flags. They're extremely common and lead to a broken heart every single time (if the other person has a heart, that is):
The new person does a series of confusing behaviours (words and actions don't match, behaves hot-cold-hot-cold).
The new person has very unpleasant manners (rude, arrogant, aggressive style, coldness).
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).