Should I change my given name for professional purposes and personal distancing - 43.

[sibelleqow]

Hi all! :bows:

Been toying with the idea of changing my name for a while now - The opportunity has come to do so through writing but I really don't want to write under a pseudonym. A name change would signify a complete break with the past. I asked Ying if and when I should and and got 43. 1, 4 - 48 in response. I would be grateful for any perspectives on this reading.

Thanks

Anne

 

[foxx777]

It is actually a very apt hexagram in relation to your questions, as Legge speaks of "Announcement must be made in the royal court " with the understanding of "the peril involved in cutting off the criminal" (legal move, cutting off past and old name).

48 is the well, where all can be drawn from and renewed. The town changes, but the well remains the same (name changes, but well of past remains the same).

Oddly, the emotional i ching has this for line 4: A socially aware person did not take heed of dangers ahead: Compromise is advised.

 

[mryou1]

Using XOR values we can see not 2, but 3 hexagrams at play here. This means taking your changing lines and placing yang values in their places, and yin for all else. Creating another, in-between one. So you have 43 > 51 > 48. Past - present - future.

Resoluteness
Shock
The Well

I think Foxx has a good point about The Well indicating that, while a name change would be nice, it's the content behind the name that truly matters, and that doesn't change.

What is causing you to want a name change is a strong creative path toward Lake or tranquility. Or perhaps mere pleasure. What jolts this is a name change, which will alarming both to you and those around you (The XOR hexagram: The Arousing), what will come of this depends upon The Well, the content within. Of course, there's the image here too, which is water over wood. There could be a certain danger in name change, which causes your previous notions of pleasure and tranquility to overflow into a stream of dangerous water, however, you too will have changed, to be gentle enough to gain strength from what lies ahead.

Pretty positive message. Indicates there will be some alarm in a name change, but the true effect relies solely on the content of the person.

 

[ginnie]

I got married in middle age and changed my last name. I'm still being plagued by having had different names, and this is 11 years later. Better rethink this one. Changing one's name legally is one of the most hassle-generating things you can do. Yet a name change will not change your identity.

Think about it. Everywhere one goes, one gives one's name. You will find yourself at wit's end, as the complications will appear to go on endlessly.

Line 4 of hexagram 43 says you cannot stop yourself, but you should stop yourself and let the advice of others prevail. "Such advice is meaningless, however, since you cannot be led."

Whenever I get this line I feel that Yi is wagging its finger at me disapprovingly, and sometimes that creates confusion ...

 

[sibelleqow]

Thank you all so much for replying. I appreciate your taking time to mull over my question. I have no idea how to post individual 'thank you's as there isn't a button under any of the posts to do so but each of your replies has helped me see this question from a different perspective.

Foxx777 by highlighting the emotional i ching translation

A socially aware person did not take heed of dangers ahead: Compromise is advised.

you reminded me that the change would affect my son's already fragile sense of belonging to the family group I want to distance myself from. The danger is to his developing self more than to me as the name change (if I am honest) is largely a 'two-finger' final farewell to 'them' more than anything else.

mryou1 freaked me out a little

43 > 51 > 48. Past - present - future.

Resoluteness
Shock
The Well

because that is EXACTLY the path that I've taken - 51 (Shock) akin to the Tarot Tower are experiences I am just getting over and the Well which to me represents the Tao - recognising the unchanging through change is where I want my mind to be at. But as you say

while a name change would be nice, it's the content behind the name that truly matters, and that doesn't change.

There are no shortcuts!

and ginnie

A name change will not change your identity...Line 4 of hexagram 43 says you cannot stop yourself, but you should stop yourself and let the advice of others prevail. "Such advice is meaningless, however, since you cannot be led."

Whenever I get this line I feel that Yi is wagging its finger at me disapprovingly, and sometimes that creates confusion ...

Yup! I can definitely see the finger wagging!

On reflection wanting to change my name was a knee jerk reaction to people who are 'family' in biological terms only and it seemed like a 'quick fix' for all the complexities and drama that fact continues to bring into my everyday life.

So I am going to 'put the lie' to line 4 by 'letting all of your very wise advice prevail' and 'stop' myself from taking this step! It'll be 'me' stepping out there professionally though the name I'd chosen was pretty cool!

Many thanks again :bows:

Anne

 

[Trojina]

Noticed in the more recent thread about shamans you have now changed your name from Anne to Makeda.http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/friends/showpost.php?p=167871&postcount=1)( I wondered what impact it has had and how this reading showed up the changes ?

In your last post here it sounds like you dropped the idea but did you change your mind ?

 

[sibelleqow]

Hi Trojan!

It's the funniest thing I had promised myself to return to the threads I had asked questions on and post updates and then this thread turned up in a search I did for other views on another reading! Amuch needed poke in the ribs...

I actually did test out 'Makeda' for a while and the experience was almost exactly as Fox777 outlined in his/her response. I 'put on the name' like a ceremonial gown...enjoyed hiding behind the new personnae and once the new confident me was assimilated went back to being Anne again - so the town changed momentarily but the well remained! It was actually a very liberating experience. Thanks again to everyone who so kindly contributed to the thread and apologies for taking so long to update you all. Your help was very much appreciated.