Should I compromise? - 54.2 > 51

[MoonCatcher]

I've been with a really nice guy for 2 years; things are good and I could see him as my husband...We have an amazing companionship but there's a little part of me that feels something is missing and I am just settling because I feel I should.

I asked i-ching - "Am I going to find a more compatible partner?"

Answer I got was 54.2 > 51.

So this is interesting. It could mean that if I compromise - my "one eye" that's still open will be shocked by suddenly meeting someone else?

OR

I need to compromise and stop being so damn picky. If I leave him, I'll end up being shocked with regret?

Any thoughts?

 

[Tim K]

Hi MoonCatcher,

oh these pesky y/n questions.
I think Yi is saying:
If you can see happy future with this man only in one eye - then remain solitary.
This position seems to be inferior (54), you can still free yourself (51).


It seems a very important question, so it would be much better to ask a series of questions instead.
Like:
I'm not fully satisfied with this man, please comment on that.

I feel that there's someone better for me, please comment.

What will this marriage bring me ?

What will searching for another man bring me?

What will marriage with another man bring me?

 

[taoscopy]

Mutual assistance is required if you want the relationship to last.

54 - Assistance

Protect one's interests by making oneself useful.

2 - When others don't help, one can leave them.
In the making
51 - Shock

Something is coming which enables the identification of a problem.
http://taoscopy.com/en/consultation/798788/

I often get this line when I have headaches.

 

[MoonCatcher]

Thanks to you both for your replies.

asteroid: You always have such interesting insights! I think you nailed it. The one eye thing is so symbolic - only half of me is satisfied. There is love and the relationship is fun with mutual commitment and we're both creative... but I feel mentally unstimulated, and he lacks dominance over me. (He requires me to call the shots and rarely challenges me on anything) :-/

Anyway, I followed your advice and asked "What would searching for another man bring me?"

Result was 58.3.6 > 1

I take this to mean that my impatience to create another relationship (i.e hex 1) will bring dissatisfaction? (changing lines 3 > 6)

Thank you Taoscopy for the link - I completely forgot about that website!! Yes - it does take mutual effort to make things work.

 

[MoonCatcher]

Oh also I forgot to add - I also asked "I'm not fully satisfied with this man please comment on that" (as you recommended) - received 64.2.4.6 > 2

Interesting!!

 

[Tim K]

Very interesting answers indeed.
One gives h1, and the other h2.

My first thoughts are:
"What would searching for another man bring me?" 58.3.6 → 1
Nothing good. Dreaming about future, planning, missing what's on offer now.
The Joy will end, but a whole new sea of opportunities will become available.

Huang writes about h58 as 'Talking', .3 Excessive talk and .6 Honest talk. hmm be real?

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"I'm not fully satisfied with this man please comment on that" 64.2.4.6 → 2
Holds a promise that things are changing? Allow the change/transition to complete (2).
.2 Gives advice to wait before starting a long battle .4 .

Joining all 3 readings together: You need to stay in this relationship a bit longer, till all the pieces fall together, learn the lesson and then 64 will reveal itself. Something will change ..

Need to sleep on that for more ideas.

 

[MoonCatcher]

Thank you Ashteroid - really appreciate your interpretation. It fits my logic. Yes I'm going to definitely sleep on that!!