Should I go or not? 9.3.4.6>58

[Yasmin]

I agreed to call a friend next week when I'm in town, to meet and discuss taking the next step. I feel that moving forward now is premature. Now I'm having second thoughts about having that meeting, wondering if even that discussion is premature. Or is it just me chickening out of a conversation that needs to happen?

What outcome for our meeting? 12.2 > 6.
Clear: I am being offered something unsatisfactory, say no and suffer the consequences in silence. The context is conflict- we have different views, don't argue, move on. No wonder my instinct is to avoid it! But could there be any value in having this discussion anyway?

What if I don't call when I'm in town? 9.3.4.6> 58
This seems better than the first option. 9: gentle restraint is a good description of not calling. 9.3: focus on fixing the immediate problem, don't blow this out of proportion? 9.4: with sincerity bad blood vanishes 9.6: be content with small gains, do not aim for more- which is exactly what I want. 58 describes our relationship very well- joy and growth from exchange of ideas. But 58 encourages sociability, meeting, not staying away. And I did give my word...

Any comments? Am I reading this right? I am a bit puzzled by 9.3 and 9.4.

 

[kkappa]

I agreed to call a friend next week when I'm in town, to meet and discuss taking the next step. I feel that moving forward now is premature. Now I'm having second thoughts about having that meeting, wondering if even that discussion is premature. Or is it just me chickening out of a conversation that needs to happen?

What outcome for our meeting? 12.2 > 6.
Clear: I am being offered something unsatisfactory, say no and suffer the consequences in silence. The context is conflict- we have different views, don't argue, move on. No wonder my instinct is to avoid it! But could there be any value in having this discussion anyway?

What if I don't call when I'm in town? 9.3.4.6> 58
This seems better than the first option. 9: gentle restraint is a good description of not calling. 9.3: focus on fixing the immediate problem, don't blow this out of proportion? 9.4: with sincerity bad blood vanishes 9.6: be content with small gains, do not aim for more- which is exactly what I want. 58 describes our relationship very well- joy and growth from exchange of ideas. But 58 encourages sociability, meeting, not staying away. And I did give my word...

Any comments? Am I reading this right? I am a bit puzzled by 9.3 and 9.4.

Yup, definitely nothing for you to gain from this meeting, you won't get the end to your confusion from this person. The other reading is describing your situation more than anything, and 58 is describing you and how you want to come together and talk to him. In a nutshell however, keep away, nothing good can come of this, but there's no need to shove your standpoint in his face (9.6). Just let him know that you have changed your mind and don't go into a lengthy discussion about this, no point. Just be sincere in why you don't think you should meet.

 

[Yasmin]

I was wondering if there was any benefit for me personally (not the situation) in making contact when I'm in town, however unpleasant the outcome. Sometimes there is value in taking a stand - a test of character, insight, whatever... I cast: 17UC.

How interesting! I take that as a clear sign to enjoy doing nothing, nothing at all. No cancelation, no confirmation. No agonizing. No need to decide now. Just listen to my intuition, watch what happens and wait for a clear sign to follow. I will decide on the day.Relief!

 

[kkappa]

I was wondering if there was any benefit for me in making contact when I'm in town, however unpleasant the outcome. Sometimes there is value in taking a stand - a test of character, insight, whatever... I cast: 17UC.

How interesting! I take that as a clear sign to enjoy doing nothing, nothing at all. No cancelation, no confirmation. No agonizing. No need to decide now. Just listen to my intuition, watch what happens and wait for a clear sign to follow. I will decide on the day.

Sure there is value in it sometimes, but in the process you may be putting your dignity on the line. Not saying that is the case here as I do not have the full picture to say this, but regardless, don't distrust your intuition (which you are not doing anyway) and certainly do not distrust Yi when it's clearly saying there is no point in either meeting or contacting. All the best! K

 

[Yasmin]

Pondering 17UC...

Ok. In this post, I am not looking or advice on what to do- i have already decided to flow. Just disucssing the general meaning of 17UC.

i dont think that 17UC means dont ever do anything about this again, disingage from this issue completely now. I dont associate an ominous feeling to 17UC. To me, it just says dont take any initiative, wait and see, you will feel moved to respond to shifts in events or intuition in due course. Flowing with changing circumstances- for the sake of examples, could be I really dont feel like it on the day, or nothing needs to be done because we run into each other by chance etc...

I wonder how the yi would say red alert, just stop, final. Maybe 28UC (danger! Getout!) Or 52UC (Keep still). Or 12UC (LiSe calls it: saying No). Hmmm. Something to ponder...