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Should I move in with my partner? 42.3>37

watermonkey

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Hello! This is my first time posting here but I’ve been reading other people’s posts in this forum for a long time, trying to make sense of my own readings, and I thought I’d finally just ask you all directly for help.

My partner of seven months is moving from her home (about an hour’s drive from me) to a house a mile away, so that we can be close. At first, she asked a friend (whom I don’t really like) to live with her in the new house, and we fought over it (she had asked the friend behind my back, knowing that I’d be unhappy about it)—but the friend recently bailed and now my partner has asked me to move in. I love her very much and want to live with her (the idea in her moving close was that it would be a stepping stone towards living together) but I feel sort of thrown for a loop over the whole process of this, and also am feeling nervous to give up my own space (having never lived with a partner before, and really valuing alone time). I asked the I Ching “What will happen if I move in with my partner?” and got 42.3 to 37.

I’m not really sure what to make of it, which is why I’m here. I read something about it meaning that I need to follow the middle path, but I don’t know what that looks like in this situation. Any thoughts? Very grateful to anyone who could give me any insight :)
 

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42.3 > 37

One possibility is that the unfortunate events/disaster was the fight and the other situation falling through, and now you can benefit from that by ultimately moving in together and having it work out well.

it could also mean that it will be challenging to do this and there will be more “disasters” but that if you stick with it, it will benefit you in the end.

I’ll be interested to hear what others with more personal experience of the line say because obviously we also have free will and may or may not want to be in a situation that is beneficial through challenge rather than ease. Moving in with a partner will always bring some type of challenge though! Perhaps it depends on your own desire or ability to “hold the mean”, so to speak, the role the line speaks of of sticking to the center and balance to get the best out of the situation.

I think maybe you’re actually supposed to interpret the line yourself when you ask in the forum; did you have your own interpretation or impression?
 

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Thank you so much for this. I was confused about the "unfortunate events" but I think you might be right that that could refer to the whole process of this coming to be, and not necessarily any time of strife to come.

Overall I did feel like the hexagram was encouraging me to make the move ("it is favorable to have somewhere to go") but I think my heart just feels a little weary, and I wasn't sure about its encouragement to be moderate or stick to the center—in this situation, it seems like either I make the big move or I don't—hard to figure out how to make a moderate decision.
 

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I think the decision isn't the moderate part, it would more likely be your approach and behavior once you're in the situation. It benefits you and still a lot of that (it actually being a benefit) would be up to you (most likely because there will be other challenges)
 

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What will happen if I move in with my partner?” and got 42.3 to 37.

Hello Watermonkey: Hex. 42 is called 'enriching' which seems very positive to me.

Hex. 42 is made up of two trigrams (3-line figures): Wind above; Thunder below. I see the lower trigram as representing you - and by moving in with your partner you have the opportunity to move from a place of (thunder-like) impulsiveness - perhaps acting out of anger (?) or acting too quickly - to finding a place of warmth and refuge.

Line 42.3 reads, in part: Enriching. Use in times of disaster (hard times), no misfortune. Report in mid-course ...."

This affirms and fits with the changes shown in the trigrams: that creating a household (Hex. 37), will be good for you, and move you away from difficulty and towards home. It also suggests that you may want to check in with one another after a period of time (mid-course) - or from time to time - to see what's working, what isn't, and what changes you need to explore together.

I hope that's of use to you. D
 
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Thank you so much, that's really helpful and beautifully said. I think I'll go for it :)
 

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