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Juniperist

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Dear all,
I regularly read this website but almost never post. I try to make sense of readings myself - but I have to say, most of the time I do not get very far, but I try to get a sense or a feeling from the reading. Anyway, today I feel a little helpless and alone and somehow I do wonder how other people would make sense of this reading (maybe hoping someone would interpret it differently than I do - which is not positive).

The background: I was dating a new person and things were new but seemed to be going well, then covid started and he got stuck in one country and I in another one when the borders got closed in Europe. This actually made sense for him (he is where his kids are, and we are all teaching online so he can do his work from there, plus he also has a business there; and he is in the safer, nicer city than where I am). But while apart, he started to have doubts about dating me/or dating - even though we still remain in close contact, seem to enjoy and miss each other - though maybe I more than him. I liked him a lot and am rather unhappy about how these all played out, especially how we got stuck being apart.
Anyway, now that some travel restrictions might be lifted in the coming month I asked "advice me whether I should go see X"? The thing is - I really want to go if I can, because I missed him, and maybe because I cannot take the uncertainty anymore. But I am worried (for many reasons) - and also that he is not thinking about coming here is not a good indication. Yet I have a lot of self doubt, because of baggage from previous relationships, and I tend to think that man don't want me and will not be happy to see me and will leave me, which always make me hesitant to move or be open. Of course, we dont even know when we can travel.
The reading was 23.3 to 52.
The 3rd line is really throwing me off - and I am having hard time interpreting it - though I am interpreting this in general as a negative reading (ie dont go).

Can you help me with this, thanks a lot...
 

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Dear all,
I regularly read this website but almost never post. I try to make sense of readings myself - but I have to say, most of the time I do not get very far, but I try to get a sense or a feeling from the reading. Anyway, today I feel a little helpless and alone and somehow I do wonder how other people would make sense of this reading (maybe hoping someone would interpret it differently than I do - which is not positive).

The background: I was dating a new person and things were new but seemed to be going well, then covid started and he got stuck in one country and I in another one when the borders got closed in Europe. This actually made sense for him (he is where his kids are, and we are all teaching online so he can do his work from there, plus he also has a business there; and he is in the safer, nicer city than where I am). But while apart, he started to have doubts about dating me/or dating - even though we still remain in close contact, seem to enjoy and miss each other - though maybe I more than him. I liked him a lot and am rather unhappy about how these all played out, especially how we got stuck being apart.
Anyway, now that some travel restrictions might be lifted in the coming month I asked "advice me whether I should go see X"? The thing is - I really want to go if I can, because I missed him, and maybe because I cannot take the uncertainty anymore. But I am worried (for many reasons) - and also that he is not thinking about coming here is not a good indication. Yet I have a lot of self doubt, because of baggage from previous relationships, and I tend to think that man don't want me and will not be happy to see me and will leave me, which always make me hesitant to move or be open. Of course, we dont even know when we can travel.
The reading was 23.3 to 52.
The 3rd line is really throwing me off - and I am having hard time interpreting it - though I am interpreting this in general as a negative reading (ie dont go).

Can you help me with this, thanks a lot...
Hi Juniperist

This is my first ever post on this forum and so please bear with such a newbie! The way you have referenced your reading as 23.3 suggests to me that the 3rd line is changing, and the 52 is what that changed line leads to. 23 splitting apart to 52 keeping still seems clear to me that the situation is such that the relationship is falling apart, with no one to blame. The third line of 23 changing in my Wilhelm seems to suggests this too (although I am not clear about how to apply 9 and 6 in the lines) by stating ‘he splits with them. No blame’. In my other reference line 3 changing suggests that you don’t get involved, be selective. Anyway, it seems clear to me that there is unlikely to be a future, I’m sorry to say. I hope this helps you. Good luck.
 

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Well it's saying it's not a mistake to let this fall apart. It's already disintegrating

. But I am worried (for many reasons) - and also that he is not thinking about coming here is not a good indication.

The line says, from Hilary's book

'Stripping Away. No mistake.'

and from Wilhelm

'He splits with them. No blame.'

Whilst this no doubt makes you sad the good side is that the way this ends, the way the separation seems to go is fine. No one necessarily did anything wrong and it's not wrong for this to disintegrate.

But I am worried (for many reasons) - and also that he is not thinking about coming here is not a good indication. Yet I have a lot of self doubt, because of baggage from previous relationships, and I tend to think that man don't want me and will not be happy to see me and will leave me, which always make me hesitant to move or be open

But in this instance the situation requires nothing more of you than that you allow the erosion of 23 to happen. Again the good part is whilst it's painful you really will see as time goes by it was the right thing to let go of it.

Now I don't believe I can or should make any pronouncement as if it were a prediction. Just taking the line of 23, and it's a beautifully simple line, at this time it's fine for you to let go. One thing you really don't need to do in a 23 time is try to keep things going or keep them the way they were. You can't because you can't fight nature and this is a natural erosion.

The line also implies it wouldn't be the best for you to carry on, there are times to just let go of people.
 

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As a direct answer to 'should I travel to see X ? ' I'd say it was a clear 'no'.
 

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