Should I visit? 45.3>8, then 31

[The9thSpade]

A litle bit of background: I am in something of a long distance relationship with this guy that I am absolutely crazy about, but I keep having the feeling that these feelings are not reciprocated. I am supposed to go visit him next week for Thanksgiving, but I've been in trepidation so much so that I haven't even bought a ticket to leave yet! I've been having a lot of issues in the town that I live in and as a result feel emotionally compromised so, I am not sure if the I Ching is reflecting my emotional state or what... I asked it twice "How would ___ feel if I didn't come to visit him for Thanksgiving?" and received both a 45.4>8 and 31 ...

 

[ginnie]

I'm a little confused as to whether you got the third line moving or the fourth line moving. Also, you seemed to ask two different questions, not one question two times. It's not a good idea to ask how someone else would feel, because the I Ching often refuses to answer that question, but reflects us back to ourselves instead, making interpretation difficult . . .

 

[The9thSpade]

Sorry, typed so quickly, then hit post ... totally the 4th line. I'm not sure where you're getting that I'm asking two different questions at two different times. 'Twas literally that (single) question, which I asked twice... at two different times; hoping for some sort of clarity. I was met with confusion instead. So, if the interpretation is for/is about me, then what does it mean? When I read it now, later on in the day, i get the feeling that I need to get it together and just go. Lol.

 

[ginnie]

Yeah, I get the same feeling. Just go. Please be aware that there does seem to be some degree of sacrifice connected with hexagram 45, as you gather together under some overarching goal. But it is considered totally worth the effort.

 

[The9thSpade]

Here is a follow up to what actually panned out ...

I went to visit him and in the middle of the week and a half I was there, he told me that it was over, he'd started falling for someone else, etc.

Looking back on it now, I'd say that the answers to my question of what he'd think if I didn't come to visit him, 45.4>8 and 31, respectively, were right on the money ... He'd have been fine if I hadn't gone to visit ... he had all of his new friends have dinner at his house (hex 45.4>8), people that he really felt he "belonged with". He would have also been able to be there with his new girlfriend (hex 31).

So, the Yi is accurate, once again! I am glad that I went, despite being devastated at the time, and having spent the money to go... The moral of the story for me is LISTEN TO YOUR GUT and look at the Yi's answer from your guts' perspective.