Significance of Dream > Hex 54.1 to Hex 40

[jp78]

I had a weird dream of a girl who I was friends with. Everything was black around her (the background), but she was as usual and had a huge grin on her face. But it was almost bad. It felt like I was viewing things from a different perspective - looked as if she had been manipulated by someone or something...

I asked I-ching: What was the significance of my dream this morning?

Hex 54.1 to Hex 40. I concluded that the friendship I have with her will be no longer. Almost like she was with someone in the dream, but the situation was not good even though she was smiling.


Then I asked: Is anything I could do to change her situation for the better?
I got Hexagram 18.4 changing to Hexagram 50.

I took this as don't do anything because changing anything would be a mistake?? Confused.

 

[ginnie]

Significance of the dream 54.1 > 40. It's not such a bad position and yet, whatever situation she's in, she is not the 'first wife.' There is another woman who is over her, to whom she is subordinate. It's a position of influence but maybe not as much as she would like. She has to smile a lot; that is, make herself agreeable.

With your helping her, the question arises about how much power you would actually have to help her. Are you in any position to actually assist your friend? What kind of help were you thinking of? You need to think about this more, mull it over.

 

[jp78]

hmm. Not "first-wife". Sounds like she's being used for "services". Well, that blows for her if she's that stupid and can't realize what happening to her. Maybe bad karma or something? And doesn't seem like there's much I can do because she hasn't talked to me in a while.

 

[ararelin]

Considering that it was a dream, but also the interpretation of hex 54, I was thinking, that this may be talks to you about your feminine side, about what is 'female' within you. The weak and emotional, loving and caring elements.
I would look at the characteristics of your friend and look how you relate to them, then transfer this relationship to the way your inner workings develop. I would think that some of this refers to your own dealings with passion and that may be you should analyze and consider and perhaps reconsider the ways you handle (or not) passion.

I was thinking that with the changing line on 1 there is an element of instability, something that threatens to topple the construct. Which might correlate to the dark color in your dream, so I would think perhaps you should not delay too long dealing with the question of how to harness your passion.

Hex 40 seems to put a positive outcome in reach, it seems to almost tell you, if you do this and put your effort into it, you will be able to harness the potential destruction in your passion and use it for constructive purpose. But you need to put some honest work into it.

I wouldn't think that this necessarily relates to your actual friend, but more that the relationship you have to her is used to depict an element within yourself.

Hex 18 seems to indicate that you need to look at a diferent place, then you think you need to look at - this is from S. Karcher's interpretation "The way to deal with it is to help things rot away so that a new beginning can be found", I was thinking that the father image here is quite symbolic may be to the controlling self within your personality, it is asking you to be less rigid and allow a different approach for yourself to yourself (if that then still makes sense ).
If you look at Karcher's interpretation of Hex 50, he says
'You need to see deeply into what your problem means", it appeared to me as if that sentence almost was summing up what I felt, that was going on.

Almost always when I have to cast the I-Ching a second time because I couldn't make sense out of the first results I had to concede, that I was looking wrong, that I missed the mark, believing the problem to be a different one then what actually needed to be addressed, and it appeared to me that may be you face a similar situation here.

(Using the books by S. Karcher's "I Ching" and by R. Wilhelm "I Ging Text und Materialien")

 

[ginnie]

Another few thoughts:

Maybe you'll hear from her soon. That can happen, when we dream about somebody we know.

Also, if you have not spoken with her in a long time, maybe you could contact her to ask her how she is doing. You don't have to help her -- or even be in a position to help her -- but it could be a good excuse for a call to catch up with your friend -- especially since the dream seemed so meaningful. Maybe there is some other reason you should be in touch with her.

In other words, I think dreams are another kind of divination, also revealing what we need to know. If I had had such a vivid dream, I would contact the person in the dream ...

 

[jp78]

I tried calling her she doesn't respond. Long story. Doesn't matter, she causes a lot of trouble herself and is immature on second thought..other hexagrams I got regarding this person was number 8. I asked if she poses a threat to me and I got Hexagram 8. I guess sometimes its better to leave some situations in pieces than to piece the puzzle together.

 

[jp78]

I also got hexagram 12 I believe regarding her being my friend.

 

[sooo]

I tried calling her she doesn't respond. Long story. Doesn't matter, she causes a lot of trouble herself and is immature on second thought..other hexagrams I got regarding this person was number 8. I asked if she poses a threat to me and I got Hexagram 8. I guess sometimes its better to leave some situations in pieces than to piece the puzzle together.

Your image of her is shrouded in darkness.

I'm inclined to consider Ararelin's view, since it indeed was your view of her, and bonded by 8, that you are viewing a part of yourself, that you're not trusting nor liking very much. Naturally this likely has carry over consequences to your relationship with this other person in real life, only further compounding the problem, by not bonding (8), and sorting things out for the better (18).

18.4 has too critical of a view toward the object, projecting hangups, dogma etc, but which may be your own overly critical view of yourself and likely others. Sometimes dreams help us face aspects of ourselves that we in waking can't see. To see them we must acquire the observer position, which dreams allow us to do.

 

[jp78]

I did try reconciling the friendship. I apologized face to face with her and told her I'm sorry I did not keep in touch. She said, "it's okay and things come up.' Then she eagerly gave me her cell phone number and I called her twice and she wouldn't pick up her phone. I even apologized in the phone call for not being able to keep in touch and how I was shy and how it was my fault. But two weeks later a had a guy called my cell phone asking for her. She had given cell phone number to a guy she didn't like. I tried to tell her, but she seems to have moved on. And it was my fault for being too shy so I guess the best thing is to move on. I had the dream after all of this happened, which is weird. She knew I had a crush on her and that I cared about her. Oh well. At the very least, she lost a helpful friend and I lost someone I cared about.

Moral of story = don't be shy. Confidence guys always get the girl.